Hakhel Email Community Awareness Bulletin
FEBRUARY 2011 DAILY EMAIL ARCHIVE
Special
Note One: As the Arab world
continues to totter, as the after-effects of the earthquake in
New
Zealand
shockingly appear, and the Western World is reminded of all of the world
turmoil with drastically increasing oil prices--where does this leave the
Torah Jew? Let us look for a
moment at Tehillim Kepitel 99 (to be the Chapter of the day in Nach Yomi
later this week!). There, Dovid
HaMelech states: “Hashem
Malach Yirgezu Amim Yosheiv Keruvim Tanut HaAretz--Hashem has reigned: let peoples
tremble; before Him who is enthroned
on Keruvim, let the earth quake”
(Tehillim 99:1). Our
relationship with Hashem is symbolized by Keruvim as well--the Keruvim on
top of the Aron described in last
week’s Parsha (Shemos 37:7-9). The
Keruvim teach us that our lives are to be focused at Hashem and what Hashem
wants of us in this world. By
focusing on Hashem, we are constantly reminded that our goal in life is to
constantly elevate ourselves spiritually--to gradually be better--to
steadily attain new gains and set new goals.
This, of course, brings us to our daily aspiration, our daily
ambition--Teshuva BeChol Yom!
In
order to help us accomplish this
task, the Sefer Orchos Tzadikim
(in the Sha’ar HaZechira--which contains 30 items that we should Always
Remember) provides the following potent one-sentence instruction: IN
HEBREW: “Veyishal MeiElokim
Aizer Sheya’azreihu Veyodiahu Chochma, VeYechazek Aivarav Lisbol Mitzvosav
VeLa’alos Madreiha Achar Madreiga.”
IN ENGLISH: One should
remember to ask Hashem (Hakhel Note: We
believe the intent is at least daily) for His Help in teaching him wisdom
and its ways, and in strengthening his body to perform the Mitzvos so that
he can continuously raise himself to higher levels in life. Perhaps
one can write this thought in his Siddur after Elokai Netzor.
Please recall the words of the Ramban in Parshas Shemos (which we had
previously published) in which the Ramban writes that the reason Moshe
Rabbeinu was not healed form his speech impediment at the Burning Bush was
that he had not asked to be healed--and that if had asked for it, it would
have been answered! Let us make
sure that, daily, we make sincere and appropriate requests for Hashem’s
assistance in helping us focus--and Hashem, represented by the Keruv facing
us--will have something very important and very worthwhile to answer!
Special
Note Two: HaRav
Yaakov Kamenetzky, Z’tl, provides a great question and a remarkable
insight on last week’s Parsha. The Torah goes to great lengths to
describe the Mishkan and its Keilim--both the instructions to build it, and
the actual details as to its construction. We know the Mishkan was
precious to Hashem, and that we gain special insight into the Dor HaMidbar
with all of the detail. However, all of this detail is for a temporary
structure that is supposed to be standing for only a short while--until the
Bais HaMikdash is built. Remember that the Chait HaMeraglim had not
yet taken place, so Bnei Yisroel were due to soon (within weeks or months)
enter Eretz Yisroel and build the Bais HaMikdash shortly thereafter. Thus,
the Mishkan was intended to function for perhaps a year or two (although
ultimately it remained standing for 479 years). Yet, we see the detail
which the eternal Torah provides for it--and the zeal, dedication, and
effusiveness of the people towards a very short-term construction. The
important and special lesson here is that our goal must be to accomplish.
A Mitzvah may look to the eye as if it is fleeting--so why put in so much
time, such difficult effort, and significant expense? This
is absolutely not an appropriate cheshbon. One must study, for
example, the Megilla, and the Halachos and Hashkafos of Purim, one must
prepare and give Matanos LaEvyonim and Mishloach Manos, all of which will
take longer than the Yom Tov itself. Time is a physical concept--and
we must transcend it in order to attain our spiritual goals.
So, the next time you feel
like you are spending so much time--whether it is trying to figure out what
Bracha to make on a particular food or whether you can eat a particular
item, waiting on a line long for a few, “last-minute” Shabbos items,
davening or saying Tehillim for someone who is having surgery today, or
talking with someone on the phone who always seems to need chizuk,
remember…the “short-term” everlasting and eternal Mishkan!
Special
Note Three: In last week’s Parsha the Torah records that the
people brought donations to the Mishkan “BaBoker BaBoker” (Shemos 36:3).
The Sefas Emes interprets the repetition of the word ‘Boker’ to
mean that the people brought their gifts early in the morning, and explains
that there is special power in doing something early, or first, in the
morning. It is for this reason,
the Sefer Talilei Oros explains
that the Vilna Gaon, Z’tl, would exclaim BeLev Shalom U’VeSimcha when he
rose from bed: “Hareini
MeKabel Alai Ol Torah HaYom!” Likewise,
the Siddur Siach Yitzchak (Siddur
HaGra) notes that in the Bracha of HaMa’avir Sheina early each morning the
first two requests we make following the Yehi Ratzon are “Shetargileinu
BeSorasecha VeDabekeinu BeMitzvosecha--please accustom us to study Your
Torah and attach us to Your commandments”--for the first efforts, the
first requests of the day, have a special status and bearing.
In special fact, the Tefillah presented by the Zohar upon arising in
the morning is “Yehi Ratzon…Sheyihiyeh Libi Nachon U’Masur BeYadi
Shelo Eshkachecha--May it be Your Will that I be upright, and in control of
my heart today, so that I don’t forget You.”
The Siddur Siach Yitzchak
concludes that when one has a Haschala Tova in the morning, then “Az
Yehiyeh HaKol Tov--everything will be good.”
As we arise in the morning
and begin to ready ourselves for the day all kinds of new ideas and reminder
bombard us--everything we have to do and even the order we have to do it in.
If we can take those first precious moments and focus them
properly--“Shetargileinu BeSorasecha VeDabikeinu BeMitzvosecha”,
“Sheyihiyeh Libi Nachon U’Masur BeYadi Shelo Eshkachecha”, and the
Gra’s thought B’Lev Shalom U’VeSimcha to accept upon oneself the Torah
and the Mitzvos--then we have the express assurance of the Siddur Siach Yitzchak that Az
Yehiyeh HaKol Tov!
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KASHRUS
ALERT:
According to a recently issued
report, individually wrapped Zaza candies from
Brazil
may
sometimes be placed in the same larger bags or containers together with
other individually wrapped non-Kosher candies, and accordingly one must look
for the Hechsher on each Zaza wrapper
individually--especially before giving candy to young children who will
not be looking at any wrapper! At
least in one case it was reported that the non-Kosher candies mixed into the
bag actually had beef gelatin as one of its ingredients! Consumers,
as always, are urged not to ‘rely on the past’ but to check each and
every wrapper for a Hashgacha...and look forward to seeing it!
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Special
Note One: As we pay special,
indeed exclusive, attention in this week’s Parsha to the Mishkan, to
Hashem’s Sanctuary in this world, we recognize that it is time for us to
re-focus on the Mikdash Me’at in our neighborhoods and lives as well.
One of the great interferences and degradations of our Mikdash
Me’at, of our Shuls and Batei Medrashim in our time, is the unabashed use
and display of blackberrys, cell phones and related devices before, after,
and shockingly even during Davening. One
reader even noticed a Shaliach Tzibur texting or emailing after he finished
his private Shemone Esrei, as he was waiting to start Chazaras HaShatz (one
wonders what was on his mind during his Shemone Esrei).
Some more reserved individuals may only allow themselves the luxury
of texting and emailing in Shul--but they still do so in the presence of the
King and in His very throne room. While
it is true that we are waiting for the final glorious Palace to be built,
right now it is our Shuls and Batei Midrashim that are Hashem’s Home in
this world. Would one have his
cellphone on the Oval Office table, if he was in a meeting with LeHavdil
Eleph VeAlphei Havdalos the President of the
United States
?!
In may Kehillos, Rabbanim may have already prohibited the use of
these phones and related electronic devices in the Shul itself at any time.
In those Holy Places where this is not yet the case, we urge YOU
to take an active role in making it happen.
The Chofetz Chaim brings the significant view of Rishonim that the Mitzvas
Asei DeOraysa of “U’Mikdashi
Sira’u--and
you shall fear my Sanctuary’ applies to our Shuls and Batei Medrashim
today.
We cannot allow those uneducated in the meaning in the reverence one
should have for a Shul or in the importance of communicating with Hashem to
spoil (really defile) the sanctity of the Place for us all.
Is there anything wrong with going over to a person who is talking or
typing and asking him to do so outside, because the walls are imbued with
Kedusha? Even if they argue that
what they are doing is for a Mitzvah Overess, explain to them that others
will not understand and will learn to do likewise in any circumstance.
The Torah in this week’s Parsha does not directly and openly refer
to ipads, iphones, or any less sophisticated instruments--but it does teach
us, in the form and context of a
complete, non-digressing Parsha, how important the Mikdash Me’at is to
Hashem and, therefore, to K’lal Yisroel.
Let us really take action--and, in
this zechus, may we literally uplift ourselves from our Mikdash Me’at
to the Third and Final, Permanent and Everlasting Third Bais Hamikdash...speedily
and in OUR days!
Special
Note Two: In this week’s
Parsha, we learn that those who were Nedivei Lev--givers from the
heart--were able to accomplish an incredible task--the Building of a House
and its Furnishings the likes of which were never built before--and which is
in fact hidden away to this very day and forever thereafter.
The Sefer Orchos Tzaddikim
teaches us that there is something even more special than a Nadiv, a
giver--it is a Nadiv HaShalem--a
complete giver. He writes
that a Nadiv HaShalem is one who gives--whether large or small amounts before
being asked to do so. By
doing this, he performs the act of giving not out of coercion or
embarrassment, not ‘to be left alone’, and not even out of rethinking or
reconsideration--but purely because he is a
giver. It may take a little
time to get used to--but if one could sway his charitable donations, even if
in only small amounts, in this direction--he will actually move towards Shleimus
in the act of giving. The Torah
teaches us the value of the Nadivei
Lev...let’s see if we can make this attribute a part of ourselves in the most complete way possible!
Special
Note Three: We all try to
improve our learning, for, after all, “VeTalmud Torah KeNeged Kulam--Torah
study is equivalent to them all.” As
we learn of the Aron’s construction in this week’s Parsha, we realize
that we must also build ourselves to house the Torah within us. Every
individual knows himself best, and can make progress and strides in his own
way. However, one area which may
be particularly frustrating to many in their Torah growth is their inability
to remember where they learned something--e.g., where exactly it is in
Shulchan Aruch or the Gemara, which commentary said it, or what the
particular language may be. If a
person would take but one item a day
that he has learned that day,
write down its source, and try to commit the item and its source to memory
whether through memory association techniques or otherwise (it will
obviously require review), than over the course of a year--he will know more
than 350 sources! Each and every
day has so much potential inherent within it--if we merely ‘tap’ on it
we can accomplish so much over a month, a year, a decade...120 years!
Special
Note Four: In the Parsha, we
also learn of the construction of the Mizbe’ach HaKetores, upon which the
Ketores was brought, which Chazal teach brought forgiveness for the private
sin of Lashon Hora. The Chofetz
Chaim writes that the study of the laws of Lashon Hora assist one in staving
off Lashon Hora--for a person more fully appreciates and understands what
speech is permitted, and what speech is not.
It is extremely important to note, however, that the Chofetz Chaim
also composed a Tefillah (there are short and long versions of it) for
one to recite, in which one prays for Hashem’s assistance to be saved from
improper speech. There are so
many situations, circumstances and temptations in our lives--that even those
who study the laws still need the extra Tefillah that they be freed of those
who are not careful in this regard, and of those tempting, instinctive and
even unclear situations. Bringing
the Ketores was part of the Avodah every day; we too should be sure to make
our Tefillah to be saved from Lashon Hora an important part of our own daily
Avodah as well!
Special
Note Five: With the recent
earthquake in New Zealand, Hashem reminds us both of His Awesome Power, and
that He saves us daily not only from governmental upheaval and other turmoil
caused by people, but from all else that ‘could go wrong’ as well.
There is really such a tremendous host of things that we have to be
thankful for. Hopefully, our
thankfulness will stave off the need for any reminders that are, in fact,
closer to home, and we most definitely pray for those who are suffering as a
result of the catastrophe. Not
that we should ever have to use it, but we note that the Sefer Piskei Teshuvos (II: p.528) brings the following from HaRav Yaakov
Emden, Z’tl: “I found in a Sefer Yochsin that it is a Sod Gadol in the event of an earthquake, for one to recite the Posuk
from Yeshaya (6:3): “VeKara Zeh El Zeh VeAmar Kadosh, Kadosh, Kadosh
Hashem Tzevakos Meloh Chol HaAretz Kevodo” three times, in order to quiet
the earthquake. Perhaps we can
keep this thought in the back of our minds, and relate it to others, with
the hope and the prayer that we recite this Pasuk as part of our daily
Kedusha--but that we do not have to recite it otherwise!
Special
Note Six: We have confirmed with
a renowned Rosh Kollel in Beitar that the following story, which occurred
just a few weeks ago, is “absolutely
true”: “A girl in Beitar
Ilit went to a fish store to purchase a fish for Shabbos.
The Arab worker took a fish out of the water, put in on the scale,
and told the girl that it would be 150
Shekel. The girl told the
Arab worker that her family buys a fish every week, and that the maximum
cost for a fish like this was 100
Shekel. “Did the price go
up?” she asked the worker. “No”, he said, “This fish weighs more.”
The girl called her mother and asked her what to do.
The mother said “for Shabbos we don’t cut corners” and
instructed the girl to buy the fish. As
the Arab worker was cleaning out the fish, he threw the insides into a large
pail. The girl noticed something
different that was thrown into pail together with the insides.
“What was that that you just threw in?” she said.
“Is was nothing--it was just the dirt from the inside of the
fish” he said. After she
insisted many times, the worker went back into the pail, searched around,
and... pulled out a golden necklace! The
girl asked that he give it to her--and he said “No it belongs to me
because I found it.” After an
argument with other customers joining in for the girl, the manager of the
store was called--and he decided on the customer’s behalf.
The girl brought the necklace home.
After Shabbos, they took it for appraisal--it was worth $12,000.00 (USD)!
Hakhel Note:
The story of Yosef Mokir Shabbos can happen to each and every one of
us!
Special
Note Seven: With the previous
story fresh in our minds, we continue with our Erev Shabbos--Halachos of
Shabbos Series:
1.
Because this week’s Parsha uniquely contains the prohibition of Lo
Seva’aru Eish BeChol Moshvoseichem--do not kindle a fire in
any of your dwellings on Shabbos, the Ba’alei Mussar strongly urge
that the fire of anger be especially squelched this Shabbos.
Furthermore, in order to avoid getting even close to the fire--they
recommend and suggest that today--Erev Shabbos (and especially close to
Shabbos) be Anger-Free. The
Yetzer Hora knows the Parsha too--and he will undoubtedly--as part of his
job--be seeking ways to have one bring fire into his home--so let us put
ourselves into a proper mindset and fulfill the Parsha’s directive against
kindling any kind of fire this
Shabbos. If we can start this
week, who knows how far it can lead us....!
Remember, as the saying goes--you have to be in it, to win it!
2.
A friendly and important Shul in Flatbush has a unique message on its
tissue boxes--”Please take only one at a time --it is probably all you
need.” This is an awakening
thought for the many who must use the Shul’s tissue supply on Shabbos.
Even if at home we may use our supplies a bit more freely, the
Shul’s supplies are usually purchased from public funds and are for public
use. Accordingly, we should take
extra special care not to misuse the public’s trust.
A tissue here and a tissue there may seem very insignificant--but it
is an attitude--and, moreover, what if you reach into the box near you and
there is none left?! Don’t
wait to learn the lesson that way!
3.
The Shulchan Aruch (Orach Chaim 252:7) rules that one should check
his pockets on Erev Shabbos. What if one lives in a neighborhood where there
is an Eruv, or is in a hotel for Shabbos--does he still have to check his
pockets? The Kitzur Shulchan
Aruch (73:23) and the Mishna Berurah (O. C. 252; seif katan 55) rules that
he does--because there may be Muktza in one’s pockets.
Our vigilance for Muktza begins...even before Hadlakas Neiros!
4.
Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim Chapter 285 is dedicated to the Halachos
of Shenayim Mikra Ve’Echad Targum--reading each Parsha twice with its
Targum Onkelos once.. Chazal teach (and the Mishna Berurah brings in seif
katan 1) that for one who accomplishes this Mitzvah “ma’arichin lo yamav
u’shenosav”. When, actually,
is the best time to complete the Mitzvah?
The Mishna Berurah (ibid., seif katan 8) rules
that it is a Mitzvah Min Hamuvchar to do so on Erev Shabbos, or in the
alternative to begin at the beginning of the week and continue on through
the week. The Sefer Piskei Teshuvos
(
III
: p.63) writes that the Arizal would
complete the Mitzvah before
Chatzos on Erev Shabbos, but the Ba’air Haitaiv and Shelah HaKadosh rule
that it is best to complete it after Chatzos.
If one did not complete his Shenaim Mikra Ve’Echad Targum before
Shabbos, it is best if he completes it before the Shabbos Day Seudah.
5.
Last week’s Parsha ends with the radiance of Moshe Rabbeinu’s
face being so great, that he had to put a mask on it--and this week’s
Parsha begins with the Mitzvah of Shabbos--what is the connection between
these two Parshios?
6.
What should every Shabbos Seudah contain?
The renowned Mechanech, Rabbi Dovid Finkelman, Shlita teaches that a
Yerushalmi Tzaddik told him that one should not allow his
Seudah to be diverted, and that accordingly no Seudah should miss:
a.
Niggunim;
b.
A meaningful story which reinforces everyone’s Emunah and Emunas Chachomim;
c.
A Devar Torah; and
d.
A Devar Halachah--over time, hundreds and hundreds of halachos are learned,
reviewed and discussed.
The
great lesson from the Yerushalmi Tzaddik is that the Shabbos Seudah is an
incredible opportunity--not only for quality time and Oneg Shabbos--but for
growing spiritually. The Shabbos
Seudah in a wonderful sense, is able to combine the Olam HaZeh comforts with
the Olam Haba aspirations--bringing us to Menucha VeSimcha!
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Special
Note One: By
clicking here, we provide a Tefillas Todah (posted at Kever Rochel)
which a reader sent to us in order to share with others.
Even if one recites this Tefillah only once a week or once a month,
it certainly will help a person put the matters, parts, and incidents of his
life in proper perspective!
Special
Note Two: In this week’s
Parsha, Vayakhel, the Torah teaches that the Badim, the staves were placed
into the Aron for a particular purpose:
“La’Sais Es HaAron--to carry the Aron” (Shemos 37:5).
Chazal (Sotah 35B) teach, however, that in fact the Aron was not
carried by its bearers, but instead actually carried those very same
apparent bearers. HaRav Nosson
Adler, Z’tl, finds that the lesson is clear--those who support Talmidei
Chachomim may appear to be the supporters--but are in fact and in deed--actually
supported by those who study.
Hakhel
Note:
There is an Olam Hazeh and Olam Haba way to look at what is actually
taking place...since Olam Haba is much, much longer and indeed
everlasting--one should very much adapt the long-term view!
Let us keep this in mind every time that we have the opportunity to
in any manner honor or “support” one who is studying Torah full time!
Special
Note Three: Chazal teach that
“HaDan Chaveiro L’Chaf Zechus Danin Oso L’Chaf Zechus”--one who
judges his friend favorably will be judged favorably by the Heavenly
Tribunal. HaRav Chaim
Friedlander, Z’tl, (in the Sefer Sifsei
Chaim I: p. 219) asks a pointed question:
“How can the Heavenly Tribunal have any license or ability to judge
one ‘favorably’ if in Heaven everything is clearly known, and there are
no doubts about the meanings and intentions of the person?”
HaRav Friedlander answers that the fact that one judges another
L’Chaf Zechus demonstrates that he has a “Mabat Shel Rachamim V’Ahava
Al Acheirim--that he looks at others mercifully and lovingly”, and that
accordingly they will look upon him with mercy
and love in Heaven.” Thus,
when Chazal state that he will be judged “L’Chaf Zechus” in Heaven, it
does not mean that they will ignore what he really intended, but that he
will be looked upon mercifully and lovingly, which
is the root of his Middah of being Dan L’Chaf Zechus.
HaRav Shlomo Wolbe, Z’tl, explains the concept in a related way.
He notes that when one is Dan L’Chaf Zechus he is demonstrating an
“Ayin Tova--he wants his friend to be zakkai, to be innocent, not to be
culpable and searches for ways to
get to that result”. In
Heaven, therefore, they will act with an Ayin Tova--searching
for the ways and means to likewise understand his deeds in a positive
light.
Additional
Note: At his most recent Shiur in Flatbush,
HaRav Gamliel Rabanovitch, Shlita, related the following story in the name
of his father: “There was a
very wealthy man in a town in
Europe
who
was known in the town equally for his miserliness as for his wealth.
Moreover, the man, Yankel was his name, would not simply keep his
door closed to the poor--but would let them in and talk and then proceed to
give them a new-fangled excuse as to why he could not or would not be
helping them at this time. As a
result, Yankel was despised by all for his incredible, his inconceivable,
disregard for the needs of others. When
he died, the Chevra Kadisha did not want to bury him in sheer disgust over
the life he led. After several
days, they agreed to bury him, but on the condition that on his tombstone
they put the title “Yaakov Goy” in full and final demonstration of his
complete lack of connection to his people.
As the months passed after his demise, the Gabboim of the soup
kitchen and Gemilas Chesed Fund had less and less to give until they were
able to give very little to the poor. The
Rav of the town called them to task, and they explained that their major
anonymous donor had suddenly stopped giving.
When it was all put together, it turned out that “Yaakov Goy” was
responsible for it all. The Rav
then wanted to remove the term “Goy” from his tombstone, but Yaakov
appeared to him in a dream and begged the Rav that it be left on--’For you
cannot imagine how much Kappara this Bizayon brought to me in the Beis Din
Shel Maalah.’”
Of
course, we do not know why “Yaakov Goy” acted in this manner (and if one
intends to act likewise he must most certainly consult and obtain the
consent of his Rav), but at least two lessons immediately emerge:
1.
The great extent to which a Bizayon in this world can help a person in the
next world. Indeed, in the Sefer
Tomer Devorah (Chapter 2), Rabbi
Moshe Cordevero, Z’tl, writes that a Bizayon is a very efficient form of Kappara--for it accomplishes much without
physical pain and without causing Bitul Torah as would other sicknesses and
afflictions. As a matter of
fact, HaRav Cordevero adds that “when shame or disgrace comes upon a
person, yismach bo--he should
rejoice in it, and desire it…!”
2.
How far removed from our
external awareness the thoughts and feelings, the successes and the
failures, the goals and accomplishments of an individual are.
As the Navi says, “Because the person sees only from the outside,
but Hashem sees into the heart.” Whether
or not the townsfolk were required to judge Yaakov favorably al pi halacha, they were obviously wholly unfamiliar with what he
truly wanted to do and how he actually did it.
Each of us owes it to ourselves to not
only spend the moment in which we enjoy the everlasting benefits of some
disgrace heaped upon us, but also
spend another moment to recognize that the person sitting across the
aisle in Shul who rubs you the wrong way, the uncaring neighbor down the
block, the unconcerned worker in the store, or the inconsiderate co-worker
down the hall, has much within him--history, experiences, strengths and
weaknesses, ambitions and ideas, and a Tachlis HaChaim which may not
necessarily coincide with yours, but to which you should give due
recognition, allowance, courtesy, and maybe even respect.
Before attributing or labeling anyone for any reason, consider
whether you are going the “Yankel Goy” route--or whether you can leave
him simply as “Yankel”--which is probably the real truth, and by which
you will end up much better off! Remember:
“Yankel Goy”--or “Yankel”--the meaningful
choice is yours!
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Special Note
One: Rabban Gamliel Rabinovich,
Shlita notes that every morning, before putting on his Tefillin, he reminds
himself that unlike the Tzitz--one of the Eight Garments of the Kohen Gadol
which had Hashem’s name on it one
time (in the words Kodesh LaShem), one’s Tefillin has the name of
Hashem in it 42 times. This is a
great source of inspiration and appreciation when donning Tefillin.
The Bi’ur Halacha in Hilchos Tefillin adds that when we tie the
knot on our arm every morning--we are tying the “Kesher
HaYichud VeHaKedusha--the knot which declares Hashem’s Oneness and
Mastery, and the knot of Holiness.” A
Rav once saw his Mispalel with a tired and distracted face as he was about
to don his Tefillin. He turned
to him and said--in the Megillah what you are about to do is referred to as
“Yekar”--something very honored, and very precious.
You should be smiling from ear to ear that you have an opportunity
now to wear not any crown jewels--but Hashem’s crown jewels!
Hakhel Note 1: One of
the reasons the events which
called for our annihilation at the time of Purim occurred is because
“Yoshanu Min HaMitzvos--we were asleep with the Mitzvos, for the Mitzvos
were ‘old hat’ to us; rephrased just a bit-- we were doing the Mitzvos
in our sleep. The threat of
annihilation woke us to realize that Torah was not an instruction book with
many details--but was true Orah--the
infinite and pervasive light , that Yom Tov was not an interruption from
the daily routine, forced vacation, or expensive--but real Simcha,
a human’s ultimate joy together
with his Creator even in this world; that a Bris Milah was not simply the mark of a Jew--but was Sasson, the reality that 24/7 one could be bonded with Hashem. So,
Re-feeling the Yekar of Tefillin
each and every day before we put them on--especially at this time of year is
an important step in making us worthy to observe and celebrate Purim.
It only takes an extra moment of two of reflection--and the
difference may very well be phenomenal.
Hakhel Note 2:
For women who do not don Tefillin, their Yekar
may easily be seen as the honorable Bigdei Tznius--the clothing and
attire that befits an Am Hashem. After
all, Shlomo Hamelech, the wisest of all men, describes this clothing with
the words “Oz VeHadar Levusha--her dress is powerful and beautiful--quite
similar to the Yekar of Tefillin--no?
In truth, men are supposed to wear their Tefillin all day, but most
are not capable; women, then, whose clothing is with them throughout the
day, succeed to sustain their Yekar far beyond the average man.
It definitely follows that just as men must spend a little time to
appreciate their Yekar, women too--especially when the see the deportment of
other females in stores and businesses--should not sleep though--but very
much appreciate, and be very grateful for the badge of honor that envelops
them daily. Let us start
practicing now--so when we begin to sing the words LaYehudim Hoysa Orah...on
Purim they have very, very special meaning to us!
Special Note
Two: As Arab Governments (Yishmael)
remarkably weaken and falter before our very eyes--only a few short years
after the Western World (Esav) began tottering from both security and
financial perspectives, we recall the words in last week’s Parsha in which
Hashem advised Moshe Rabbeinu--”Ve’Roisa Ess Achorai U’Fanai Lo
Yeira’u--You will see my ‘back’, but not my ‘face’--you will
understand events after they happen
but will not be able to understand them prior to then.
We all know that something is happening--we simply don’t know what it is--and we
are not supposed to, for if we did we would have Nevi’im .
So what is left? Of
course, it cannot be said enough--it is Teshuva--the desire, the longing,
the movement, the actual strides to put your life and the lives of those
close to you in the right direction.--in that very same direction as those 20%
who left Egypt, and not the 80%
who tragically remained forever behind.
The first steps in Teshuva are identifying the foibles and the
shortcomings, the failures and the faults.
The next step is feeling true remorse over them and realistically
resolving how to not fall to them so easily again.
Every day, we recite the words “Selach Lanu Avinu Ki Chatanu--Hashem,
please forgive us for having sinned”.
Without proper charata--remorse over a misdeed, what worth is the
thrice daily lip movement? Is
there any redeeming value to saying something to Hashem which you don’t
mean now--even if you do intend to mean it five or six months from now when
Elul gets closer? The
key is valuing each day here and now, and not letting it pass without a new
step in the direction of shleimus--making oneself whole
as a person. Just as with
the body--when we bang our foot, we begin to walk funny, so too it is with
the soul--if our tongues are a bit
too loose with a little loshon hora, or with coarse, hurtful, or
non-complimentary words (even if they are simply only words that you
wouldn’t say in front of your Rav, your Rebbe...or your shadchan)--then
our Tefillos are also hurt and wounded, and our words of Torah are far from
pristine. Not letting the
indiscretion, the carelessness, the instinct-over-intellect, happen again,
and doing this consciously and consistently, day after day, will provide
daily elevation--not only in Shemiras Halashon, but in one’s precious
words of Torah and Tefillah as well.
There is
something even more powerful. As
we have noted in the past, the Chasam Sofer explains that the month of Adar,
according to his reckoning, is representative of Shevet Binyamin. He
explains that the stone on the Choshen for Binyomin is Yospheh--which can be
split into two words--Yesh Peh--he has a mouth.
This, the Chasam Sofer explains, is what allowed Mordechai from
Shevet Binyomin to be victorious over the Lishna Bisha--the evil words of
Haman which were set to literally destroy K’lal Yisroel.
Mordechai was a descendant of Binyomin who had a mouth--but kept it
closed and did not tell his father Yaakov what his brothers had done to
Yoseph; Binyomin’s descendent, Shaul Hamelech also had a mouth, but once
again kept it closed until the time came to be declared King; Esther HaMalka
as well did not reveal ‘moladata’, where she was from, despite the
immense pressure from the king for her to do so--and as a result all of
K’lal Yisroel was saved. Succinctly
stated, the closed mouth of Binyomin--the Yoshpheh-- literally brought
salvation to us all. By
following in the Yoshpheh tradition (you may even very well be from Shevet
Binyomin!), you are not only saving your own mouth from contamination, you
are not only immensely approving your words of Torah and your words of
Tefillah--but you are bringing us all one step closer to the Bais Hamikdash
and Geulah--as Hashem’s House is especially nestled... in the nachala of
Shevet Binyomin!
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KASHRUS
CARE
:
The OU has recently issued the following alert--“While the Orthodox Union certifies
RAM
Caterers at Shaarei Zion in Brooklyn and Magen David in Deal, NJ during the
year, the Orthodox Union is NOT certifying the kashrus of
RAM
Catering at any hotels for Passover, such as The Hyatt Regency Bonaventure
Resort in Ft. Lauderdale FL., and the Rye Town Hilton in Westchester NY.”
Hakhel Note:
This is yet another great lesson for us in checking and confirming
the Hashgacha every single time we purchase something or go out to eat--we
cannot assume that matters stay the same, and one should check each time!
On a related note--for those who may have not seen the update, the
Volover Rav has issued the following Urgent Notice: “Bristling
sardines from
Scotland
, whether in water or oil, cannot be cleaned and may not be eaten.”
The Badatz of the Eida HaChareidis in Yerushalayim has issued a notice that the
sardines under its hashgacha from
Riga
,
Latvia
are free of Anisakis. Additional
Point: The adequacy and
sufficiency of a Hashgacha on a food establishment or service may be closely
tied to the integrity of the owner of the establishment.
One reader conveyed to us her hurt feelings over a Pesach hotel
operator (without identifying the person) who never paid her for her work as
head counselor at a resort Hotel last Pesach because he “lost money” on
the venture. The Choshen Mishpat
approach of a food services operator may be important to a consumer in
determining whether the Hashgacha can team up with that operator to enjoy a
‘Zissen Pesach’.
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Special Note One:
Many of us have tried to ready ourselves for Pesach by studying its
Halachos perhaps a week, two weeks, or even a month in advance of the
Holiday--but because of the great number of Halachos--don’t seem to get
through it, and hope again for next year.
By
clicking here we provide a Two-Month Schedule for Hilchos Pesach, which
began just two days ago on Shabbos. At
a much more calm and measured way, one can achieve the goal of actually
learning through Hilchos Pesach at a slow but sure pace.
Please spread the word!
Special Note Two: We
received the following meaningful message from a reader, which is much more
than a cute story: “A chasid
once came to the Rebbe of Velborz and said, ‘Rebbi, I am ready to do
Teshuva, ahl tenai--on condition that
all my troubles leave me!’ To
which the Rebbe responded, ‘And when you sinned was it also on
condition?’” Hakhel Note: With yet
another Yishmael government--this time the Sonei Yisroel regime in
Libya
--somewhere along the process of toppling, we once again re-awaken ourselves
to the understanding that there is bigger picture here, and we dare not let
the loud sirens go unheeded and ignored as another part of world history.
Our Teshuva BeChol Yom,
our Yosair MiMah She’haya
thoughts and actions must persevere over our daily habit, routine and Yetzer
Hora-driven lack of focus. As we
have passed the six-month mark since Yom Kippur, we recognize that the
soldiers who aspire and endure
are the ones who make it up the ladder in rank, and achieve meaningful
positions in their army. The
Chofetz Chaim writes that in our days we are all soldiers of Hashem who must
do our utmost in His service--and by doing so, we not only succeed
personally--but keep the army, and the nation it is protecting, alive and
even thriving in the most serious and difficult of times.
With enough of us trying to do more, to be better today than
yesterday (whether it be a bli neder undertaking to complete the study of a
Mussar Sefer before Pesach, bettering oneself in some aspect of Torah study
such as making it a point to come or start learning on time, extra-effort to
concentrate in Shemone Esrei, or some aspect of Bein Adam LeChaveiro)--then
instead of continuing to respond to history--we can once and for all make it
happen. Each and every one of us
should count ourselves in!
Special Note Three:
The Shulchan Aruch (Yoreh Deah 246:18) rules that Talmud Torah is
equal to all of the Mitzvos. Accordingly,
one who is in the middle of learning is not allowed to interrupt his studies
to perform a Mitzvah unless there is a Mitzvah that must be done
immediately, and there is no one else who can properly perform it.
In that case, one should interrupt his learning to perform the
Mitzvah, and then, the Shulchan Aruch concludes,
“he should return to his learning” (this is also the language of the
Rambam in Hilchos Talmud Torah).
Why is it necessary for the Rambam and the Shulchan Aruch to add that
after one completes the Mitzvah he should return to his learning--is it not
self-evident?? We may suggest
that after one has interrupted his studies to legitimately perform a Mitzvah
that no one else could perform, he may then determine that now is the time
to take a cup of coffee, make that phone call, take care of this thing,
speak to that person....All of this, the Rambam and Shulchan Aruch rule, is
inappropriate and incorrect, for it shows that he was willing to be mevatel
for far more than the Mitzvah. Instead,
one should show his high regard for the Torah, and how serious leaving it
even to do a Mitzvah is--by going right back to learning as soon as the
Mitzvah has been completed. Thus,
especially when one has left
Torah to take care of a Mitzvah, he should be sure not to allow himself to
be further interrupted with a few additional duties or tasks, no matter how
legitimate they may seem (read: Yetzer Hora hard at work) by going right
back to Torah study--as both the Rambam and the Shulchan Aruch advise and
enjoin.
Additional
Note 1: The Sefer Orchos
Tzaddikim writes that one should make the effort to write down new Torah
thoughts that he has learned or developed.
This displays an honor of the Torah--and will prevent this newly
learned or developed Torah from being forgotten.
This then is second important way of displaying one’s Chashivus
HaTorah.
Additional
Note 2: The Chofetz Chaim
brings the following teaching from Chazal:
The reason that the Torah was written “She’lo KeSidran--not in
order” is because if it would have been given KeSidran everyone
studying it would have had the power of Techiyas HaMeisim.
Such is the inherent power of the Torah.
As we move towards the Kimu VeKiblu of Purim, we should recognize the
inherent greatness of Torah as Hashem’s greatest gift to the entire world,
and treat our precious time for Torah Study with a corresponding degree of
appreciation and reverence. Especially
in the months of Adar, we can regale in the thought that the Torah has been
given to us as an inheritance and burst out in song with the words
“Ashreinu Ma Tov Chelkeinu--How Happy we are--and, quite to the contrary
of Haman’s wishes, How Fortunate is Our
Lot!”
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Special Note One: In
this week’s Parsha, we find that the Torah requires that: “Vishomru Bnei
Yisroel Es HaShabbos--Bnei Yisroel shall observe the Shabbos,” to make the
Shabbos an eternal covenant for their generations (Shemos 31:16).
This Pasuk, together with the Pasuk which follows it, are so
essential to our understanding of Shabbos that we repeat them both at
Ma’ariv and in Shacharis on Shabbos. What
is the concept of “Shemiras Shabbos?”
HaRav Shlomo Mandel, Shlita, explained at
a Hakhel shiur that a “shomer” is someone who guards, watches out for,
is on the alert, and anticipates. Indeed, the Torah uses the concept
of “Shemira” when it describes how Yaakov Avinu responded to Yosef’s
dreams. The Torah states: “V’Aviv
Shamar Es HaDavar--and his father [Yaakov Avinu] was waiting and
anticipating for [the dreams] to happen.” (Bereishis 37:11, and Rashi
there)
This is an extremely important lesson for
us. The Torah requires us to be “Shomrei Shabbos”. In order
to fulfill this properly, we cannot start with candle lighting and/or
“Lecha Dodi”. Instead, we must appropriately prepare our thoughts
and actions, so that, to the greatest extent possible, we can enter the
Shabbos in a state of preparedness and equanimity--watching out and
anticipating for the Shabbos the come.
There are many practical examples in which
one can make strides towards this end. For instance, one can, as much
as possible, undertake Shabbos preparations on Thursday evening and Friday
morning. Additionally, business matters such as taking care of bills,
or even going through the mail, when it does not require immediate
attention, can become part of “Shemiras Shabbos” if they are put off
until Sunday or Monday. Interestingly, it was HaRav Aryeh Levin
Z’tl’s custom not to open letters that arrived Friday afternoon, so that
bothersome thoughts and worries should not trouble him on Shabbos (Growth
Through Torah p. 220, quoting A Tzaddik In Our Time p. 100).
There are other activities which could
help you become a superior “Shomer Shabbos”.
Making a list of the things that have to be done--and especially
those things which you have had issues with in the past--making sure you
have wine, candles, matches, open tissue boxes, clothes (without stains from
the previous week), Torah thoughts for the Shabbos table--and accomplishing
these, and many other items which could truly be taken care of, hours and
hours and even a day before Shabbos.
If a man is more often late than on time
for Mincha in shul on Friday afternoon, or if a woman customarily, or even
usually, lights the neiros “just a minute or two” after the published
Z’man, there is an indication of weakness in his/her anticipating,
watching out for, guarding, longing for, the Shabbos that is coming. If
the scene is one in which the husband is still in the shower/bedroom area at
candle lighting time, or the woman of the house has to choose between
davening Mincha before candle lighting--or lighting neiros five minutes
late, some corrections may be in order.
Indeed, the Shulchan Aruch, rather than
requiring raised voices, anger, and tension, immediately prior to Shabbos,
instead requires that a person “arise early” on Erev Shabbos to properly
prepare (Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim 250:1). In fact, the Mishna
Berurah there requires that some
Shabbos preparation be done after davening Shacharis (and, if necessary,
even before Shacharis--see there). Furthermore--the Shulchan Oruch (Orach
Chaim 260:2) actually requires that one speak “B’Lashon Raka” (in a
soft voice)--immediately before Shabbos(!)--even as to those matters which
require correction before Shabbos arrives.
In an ideal world, Shemira would include
being ready a few minutes in advance and waiting for the Shabbos queen to
come, by saying Tehillim, learning Torah, or the like--just as the watchman
watches and anticipates. For the men, there are undoubtedly great
zechusim--merits--to be had when one is not dashing out the door to shul
with suit jacket in hand, tie not made, and wet hair. For the women,
there is very much to be gained lighting neiros two or three minutes before
the z’man, instead of a minute or two or three after the z’man.
Each one of us should sit down and think about how we can improve our
quest for a greater appreciation, a greater understanding, a greater
accomplishment, in being a “Shomer Shabbos” Jew!
Special Note Two:
We continue our Erev Shabbos--Halachos of Shabbos Series:
1. The
Sefer Yereim writes that Hadlakas Neiros is “Gemara Gemiri La”--is
actually a Halachah LeMoshe MiSinai! Rebbe
Akiva Eiger, Z’tl suggests that men (Hakhel Note: or other able-bodied
person) take part in the Mitzvah by making sure that the Neiros are in fine
order for the woman of the house to light.
We may add that this could include testing the candles and fixing
them well into the leichter, putting the matches in place, making the Sefer
with special Tefillos for the time readily available on the table--as the
time of Hadlakas Neiros is an Eis Ratzon, etc.
The moment the Queen enters is a powerful one--and a proper--and not
hurried and hassled-- Hadlakas Neiros is like the rolling out of a beautiful
red carpet to meet her!
2. In response to a question we posed to
him, Rabbi Yisroel Pinchos Bodner, Shlita rules that:
“Moving muktza even if it
moves only in its place is prohibited. Touching
muktza without causing it to move, wobble, or tilt is permitted.”
3. In
this week’s Kriyas HaTorah, we find the following powerful Pasuk
describing Moshe Rabbeinu’s initial reaction to the events of the Chait
HaEigel: “VaYomer Ein Kol Anos Gevura VeAin Kol Anos Chalusha
Kol Anos Anoci Shomea--Moshe
Rabbeinu told Yehoshua “It is not a sound shouting strength nor a sound
shouting weakness--it is a sound of distress that I hear (Shemos 32:18).
HaRav Yisroel Belsky, Shlita teaches that the meaning of the word
Anos the third time it is mentioned in the Pasuk is
different than the first two times that it is mentioned. The first two
times it means ‘sounding’, and the third time it means ‘distress’--inui.
It is truly a different word--which is why there is a dagesh in the
Nun of the third Anos of the Pasuk, and not in the first two.
Accordingly, to the extent possible--the ba’al kriyah who is
laining, and one being ma’avir sedra should read the third occurrence as
ANNOS and not as ANOS--i.e., with a greater accent or drawing out of the
nun, not actually making it onto a ‘double-nun’--but extending it a
bit--so that one recognizes and demonstrates the different word being read!
Special Note Three:
In this week’s Parsha, we learn of the horrific sin of the Golden
Calf. In its aftermath, Hashem tells Moshe Rabbeinu: “Say to Bnei
Yisroel--you are stiff-necked people…” (Shemos 33:5). In fact,
this exact same description of our “stiff-neckedness” is repeated two
other times in the Parsha (Shemos 33:3 and 34:9). Likewise, in
the Viduy we recite “Kishinu Oref--we have been stiff-necked.”
There is a very important message here for us. The neck, as opposed to
the front, symbolizes the back of the person and shows that the person is
turned away from someone, rather than facing him. It is our job not to
turn away from what we have done, and certainly not to turn away from
Hashem. Instead, we must face that which we have done with a plan to
improve, and face Hashem asking Him for nothing less than Divine assistance
going forward.
We believe that there is also a vital
second lesson: The Torah is teaching that the heinous “Chait Haegel”
is related to being obstinate and inflexible. In our stubbornness, we
must be careful to distinguish between fact and opinion, between “teaching
lessons to others” and learning to control our self-interest or pride.
It is now a very auspicious time to deal with this middah, in order to
indicate that we, on our own personal level and in our own private way, are
looking to correct the stiff-neckedness within us--and our recognition that
obstinacy could eventually result in something that is catastrophic,
rachmana litzlan. If our actions are “just because” or “because
that is the way I do things” or because “I know I am right” or
“because I don’t do it that way”… (you can fill in another phrase
that better summarizes your own stiff-neckedness) then we may have to work
on some adjustments in attitude.
Of course, being tough in some areas is
good--such as not flinching from the requirements of Halacha or proper
Hashkafa in spite of work, financial or even social pressures to do so.
However, Chazal advise specifically that “a person should be soft as
a reed, and not hard as a cedar tree” (Taanis 20B). Reeds are
malleable and do not break--even in the face of a harsh wind or thunderous
storm. Incredibly, the mighty cedar may fall earlier than the thin
little reed. Let us take this lesson to heart as we practice acting
with more pleasance than presence, the way Hashem would like us to!
Special Note Four:
We present several additional points from Parshas Ki Sisa to apply
(and hopefully inculcate within ourselves) over the coming week:
a. The Pasuk teaches that the
letters on the Luchos were engraved through and through, and that, by
Miracle, they could be read from both sides although the writing was not
reversed. HaRav Pam, Z’tl, as quoted in the wonderful work”, by
Rabbi Sholom Smith, Shlita, brings the following important lesson relating
to this Miracle: HaRav Chaim Elazar Wachs, Z’tl, (the “Nefesh
Chayah”) was a partner in a paper factory. His partner came to him
with an idea that would bring him a great deal of profit in a short amount
of time. When the partner presented all of the details, HaRav Wachs
concluded that the idea involved some degree of impropriety, and bordered on
geneiva. His partner still wanted to go ahead with the
“get-rich-quick” scheme. HaRav Wachs exclaimed, “Don’t you
realize why the Luchos had to be readable from either side?! Because
no matter which way you turn the Luchos--you have to see the Lo Signov!”
[In Yiddish: “Az men dreit a hin, oder men dreit a heir, es
shteit noch ales Lo Signov!”] We may all be faced with the
temptations of improprieties--some bigger and some smaller. We must,
however, realize that the Luchos preceded these temptations and
manipulations--and covers them from whatever angle they may be coming!
b. Chazal (Rosh Hashanah 17B) teach
of the great power of the Thirteen Middos of Rachamim found in the Parsha (Shemos
34:6,7), which are first introduced to us after the Chait HaEgel.
Indeed, their introduction to us after the Eigel indicates their great
potency--as we are kept going as a nation after such a devastating aveira.
The Netziv makes an amazing point as to one of these Middos. He writes
that it is not correct to read this Middah as “Rav Chesed” and then
simply continue with “Emes”, as the next Middah. Instead, and in
fact, the word “Rav” modifies BOTH Chesed and Emes--for Hashem not only
provides Abundant Chesed but also Abundant Truth. It is this Middah
that we must emulate--not to allow ourselves into the singular comfort of
“Rav Chesed” which we are so incredibly blessed with in K’lal Yisroel--but
also to be the Rav Emes--being an overflowing source of Truth as well!
c. The Taz asks what is the
Attribute of Mercy contained in the word “Lo Yinakeh”. We know
that Yinakeh means that Hashem cleanses the sin of one who does Teshuva--but
how is the Lo Yinakeh--Not Cleansing the Sin--helpful to us? The Taz
answers that it means that Hashem will not eliminate the sin and will in
fact punish the sinner somewhat --but still waits for him to do Teshuva, and
in the interim does not give him the punishment that he truly otherwise
deserves. There are thirteen different levels of Mercy--it is up to us
to determine which levels of Mercy we will be zoche to--we do not have to be
at the bottom of the class--so why should we put ourselves there? Teshuva
is a much better alternative!
d. HaRav Moshe Rosenshein, Z’tl,
approached his great Rebbe, the Mashgiach of Mir, HaRav Yeruchem Levovitz,
Z’tl, and asked him to explain the Chait HaEigel to him. After much
study of the topic, HaRav Rosenshein was expecting a greatly detailed and
long explanation from his Rebbe of what had transpired here. HaRav
Yeruchem answered with Two Words. The Two Words....Yetzer Hora!
After all, could it make any sense that a people who owed so much to Moshe
Rabbeinu would believe that he died--and almost immediately start to wildly
party? As we say in the Lechu Nerannena at the outset of Kabbalas
Shabbos (Tehillim 95) “Va’Omar Am To’ei Levev Haim...--and I said they
are a people who are mistaken of heart...”. The Yetzer Hora’s
effects were so devastating that the sin of the Golden Calf burdens us to
this very day. There is a great lesson for us all here. If we
could remind ourselves when making any daily decision that we must realize
which side of the decision the Yetzer Hora is on--we can take a great
step--on a daily basis--to overcoming, overriding and overruling the Chait
HaEigel itself. What an accomplishment! What a great and
enormous potential every day brings with it!
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In response to
yesterday’s question from a reader about why the Me’il of the Kohen
Gadol did not have Tzitzis, we received a response from a reader available
by clicking here.
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Special Note One:
Yesterday, we noted that one who gives Tzedaka together
with encouraging words is blessed with 17
brachos. A reader pointed
out that 17 is the Gematria of Tov--teaching us that there is real Goodness
inherent in the Brachos that one will be receiving.
We also note that 17 is also the Gematria of Chait (which is one of
the reasons given for not eating the Egoz on Rosh Hashana--for its Gematria
is the same as Chait). The Alter
of Kelm, Z’tl, highlights that Chait means chisoron--i.e., lacking or
failing, for when one sins he is losing his Shlaimus HaAdam--in fulfilling
his completeness as a person. Accordingly,
when one gives--but does not give with a kind word of appeasement,
encouragement, or bracha--his giving is lacking.
May our Giving always be...not with Chait...but with Tov!
Special Note Two:
:In this week’s Parsha, Moshe Rabbeinu was taught by Hashem to
invoke the Thirteen Middos of Mercy (Shemos 34:6, 7) because of the danger
facing the Bnai Yisroel. Remarkably, the first four of these
Attributes relate directly, as you may have guessed, to Hashem’s
Compassion. We present below the basic meaning of each one of these
four Attributes--which are “Hashem,” “Hashem,” “Kel” and “Rachum,”
as published by the Irgun Harbotzas HaTorah of
Lakewood
,
New Jersey
:
“1. Hashem--Compassionate before one has
sinned. Even before a person has sinned he still needs Heavenly
Compassion, for Hashem owes us nothing; all that we have is only due to His
grace and compassion. Also, even when Hashem sees that a person will
sin in the future, His Compassion for him at present remains, since the
person has not yet sinned.
“2. Hashem--Compassionate after one has
sinned and repented. Even after a person has sinned, after repentance,
Hashem’s compassion is immediately rekindled towards him. This is
unlike the behavior of a human being, who will distance himself from a
person who has wronged him, and will often never accept him back. Hashem’s
being, however, is unchanging (as hinted in this word), and therefore even
after a person sinned (even seriously) His Compassion still remains.
“3. Kel--This, too, is an attribute of
compassion. There are different levels of compassion. This is
not the same type of compassion as is denoted in the name Hashem. Some explain that the two letters of this Attribute--Alef and
Lamed--denote total mercy.
“4. Rachum--Compassionate to ease even
the punishment of sinners when they call out to Him.”
ANOTHER
WAKE UP CALL--this time from the
Parsha ahead of us! If
we can back up our Tefillos for Hashem’s mercy with personal empathy and
feeling for others--and with kind words and quiet actions which stave off
their need to ask us for Chesed--we will be in a better position, a much
better position, to beg Hashem to shower His Compassion upon us and all
around us! Let us make this a
prime goal in our lives--living with compassion in all areas of
life--especially in a world that needs so much compassion!
Additional
Note: One can learn to have
compassion even to those who do not act nicely or properly to him (even if
they are family members!) by simply taking the reasoned attitude that nobody really owes you anything.
If you are able to give and share--Hashem has graced you.
They may have their own duty of Hakaras Hatov--but that is for their
own personal Shlaimus. You are
who you are and you have achieved and accomplished whatever you have
achieved and accomplished--whether you get a shrug instead of a thank you
and a kick instead of a kiss. With
this attitude, we unite with Hashem who graces us with so much.
Special Note Three:
The following is an extremely important excerpt from the Sefer Geulah
B’Rachamim by Rabbi Pinchas Winston, Shlita. For further
information on how to obtain this special Sefer, one may contact www.thirtysix.org
“The Jewish people are on a mission and
it can be summed up in two words: Kiddush Hashem, to sanctify the Name
of Hashem. This is not just something we do on the side, something
that is supposed to result from everything we do, whether alone or in
public. Rav Papa asked Abaye, ‘Why is it that for the former
generations miracles were performed and for us miracles are not performed?
It cannot be because of their learning, because in the years of Rav
Yehudah, their learning was confined to Nezikin, and we learn all six
orders. And yet, when Rav Yehudah took off one shoe [during a drought
on a fast day], rain used to come. We torment ourselves and cry
loudly, and no one pays attention to us!’ He answered, ‘The former
generations used to sacrifice themselves for Kiddush Hashem; we do not
sacrifice ourselves for Kiddush Hashem’ (Brochos 20a). What does it
mean to sanctify the Name of Hashem? There are many ways to do it, but
they all result in the same thing: more of Hashem’s Presence in
Creation. The opposite term, ‘Chillul Hashem,’ the profanation of
Hashem’s Name, comes from the word ‘challal,’ which means a
‘void.’ Something that profanes Hashem’s Name has the impact of
making Creation somewhat void of the Presence of Hashem, the extent to which
depends upon the severity of the Chillul Hashem. Kiddush Hashem has
the opposite effect, by drawing more Divine Light into Creation, thereby
making the Presence of Hashem more pronounced. That’s why a Kiddush
Hashem can occur even when a person is alone, and no one else is around to
witness it; it will still impact Creation in a positive way. The
longer the Jewish people remain in exile, the more we begin to mimic the
host nations amongst whom we live, blurring the distinction between Jew and
gentile. Eventually, our actions, even as Torah Jews, may fall into
the category of those which are acceptable by world standards, but not by
Torah standards, resulting in a Chillul Hashem, and sometimes, severe ones.
This is very dangerous for everyone. Reducing the Shechinah in
Creation, L’havdil, is like not keeping up sanitary conditions in a
hospital--unhealthy stuff fills the void, endangering the lives of everyone.
The more Creation becomes void of the Presence of Hashem, the more
spiritual impurity fills the void, corrupting man and Creation, a situation
that Heaven will put up with for only so long. We’ve seen what
results when we cross that line. As the Gemora says, doing that which
sanctifies the Name of Hashem brings special Divine Providence, anything
from success in business to good relationships, to, perhaps, personal
salvation from a life-threatening circumstance. Aside from being a
Torah mitzvah, it is a wise step in the direction of the Final
Redemption.”
As we continue through this auspicious
time, let us purposefully do all that we can…to bring us to that Final
Redemption!
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Question From A Reader:
I understand that the Me’il of the Kohen Gadol was a four-cornered
garment--did it have Tzitzis--if not, why not?!
We invite your response!
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Special Note One:
The Tanya Rabosi (quoted by
the Sefer Taamei Dinim U’Minhagim)
provides us with the following answer: Dovid HaMelech in the last Chapter of
Tehillim (Chapter 150--Halleluka Hallelu Kel B’Kadsho), which we recite
every morning, uses the word “Hallelu” twelve separate times in
order to express the different kinds of Hallel that we are to give to Hashem
during each of the twelve corresponding months of the year.
Thus, for example, the sixth time Hallelu is used in this chapter, is in the
phrase “Hallelu B’Teka Shofar”, corresponding to the sixth month of
the year--the month of Elul--in which we blow Shofar the entire month, and
the seventh time Hallelu is used is “Halleluhu B’Nevel V’Chinor”
(with lyre and harp), corresponding to the Simchas Bais Hashoeva of Sukkos,
so befittingly culminating the month of Tishrei. Now, the twelfth
Hallelu, which corresponds to the 12th month of the year--Adar
I--is climactic--“Kol HaNeshama Tehallel Ka”--Let all souls praise
Hashem! In fact, the reason we repeat the same Pasuk--Kol HaNeshama
(i.e., a thirteenth Hallelu) when reciting this Chapter in the morning is to
take into account second month of Adar--the thirteenth month of the year!
What appears clear from this is that our Avodah, our sacred and wonderful
task, for this month (and continuing into Adar II), is to raise our souls in
the service of Hashem.
This month, as we recite “Kol HaNeshama”
daily, let us feel within ourselves a raising of our souls, a heightening of
our spiritual awareness, a supernal inner joy--in our lot (pun
intended)--and in our life.
Additional
Note: The Chasam Sofer notes
that each one of our months corresponds to one of the Shevatim--and writes
that the twelfth month in which we are corresponds to Binyamin in whose
portion the Bais HaMikdash was substantially built--and is to be
substantially rebuilt. It
is for this reason that the month is so auspicious for spiritual gain--and
for Geulah!
Special Note Two:
We cannot pass up the following closing note on last week’s Parsha:
Two articles of the Kohen Gadol which
had to stay together when worn-- were the Choshen and the Aifod--the
breastplate and the apron. Thus, the Choshen was tied on all four
corners to the Aifod. This requires some explanation. After all,
the Choshen was intended to provide forgiveness for the sin of “Kilkul
Hadin--perverting justice.” On the other hand, the Aifod was to
provide forgiveness for the sin of Avoda Zara. Why did these two
articles--which brought about kapara for such diverse sins need to be tied
together?
HaRav Moshe Feinstein, Z’tl, explains
that these two avairos are very much “connected”, for they both involve
the grave sin of kefira--denial of Hashem. When one worships Avoda
Zara, even if he joins it with service of Hashem, he is denying Hashem’s
Omnipotence. So too, with someone who deals dishonestly in monetary
matters. If he feels that he can outsmart his colleague, customer or
competitor, if he purchases a product with “shtick” in order to save
money, if he takes advantage of a big company “because
everybody does”, or if he gently pads his time…--all of these
provide indication that the person believes that he is in control of his
financial destiny--that it is he, his mental prowess, or his technical
skill, who will determine whether he is or will be poor, middle-class or
wealthy. We are therefore, enjoined to always remember to keep the
Choshen together with the Aifod--for we must always realize that just as we
would never, ever, think of worshipping an idol, or the sun, or the stars in
any form or manner--for that matter, so, too, should we never, ever
cheat, lie or steal in any form or manner in our lives.
Special Note Three:
With this thought--we continue with a thought on this week’s Parsha,
Ki Sisah, which begins with the Zechus of giving money to the right
causes--with one’s Shekalim being used for great and lofty purposes.
Chazal (Bava Basra 9B) teach that one who gives charity to a person
in need is blessed with Six Brachos--as rooted
and demonstrated by the Pesukim in Sefer Yeshaya.
What an incredible rate of
return! It really is much better, however, for Chazal add--based upon a
continuation of the words of the Navi Yeshaya--that one who is Mefayso
BiDevarim, one who appeases the poor person with kind words and an uplifting
spirit receives an Additional Eleven
Brachos--so that if one gives money--and on top of that provides words
of support and encouragement--He is
Zoche to Seventeen Brachos! With
this, we should begin to appreciate what our “Shekalim” do not only for
the Ani--but for our very own Ruchniyus.
Our giving to others--is a gift to us from Hashem.
So let us be careful to give--and always with the right attitude!
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Special Note One:
The Shulchan Aruch (Yoreh De’ah 252:3) rules:
“Kol Regah She’Meacher Lifdos HaShevuyim Haicha DeEfshar LeHakdim
Havi Ke’ilu Shofech Damim--Every minute that one delays in redeeming
captives when one can obtain their earlier release--it is viewed as if one
is shedding blood.” Although,
of course the situation referred to in this ruling is not squarely analogous
to Yehonasan ben Malka Pollard’s case--we do see how seriously the Halacha
views a Torah Jew’s obligation to assist in freeing a person from
prison--especially in a case as Yehonasan’s when so many eminent jurists
have stated publicly that it is an
injustice for him to remain incarcerated.
One reader sent us the following message on how she remembers to call
the White House (202-456-1111 or 1414):
“I use my cell phone calendar to remind me during my lunch hour to
call the White House. It is
something everyone can do.” Let
us pursue justice in the best way that we can--and let us continue to plead
with Hashem that our brother be released and that any gezeira ra’ah
against him be nullified. Tehillim
121 teaches us that Hashem can help instantly and in every way
possible--because He is the “Oseh Shomayim Va’aretz--He created and
continuously creates the Heavens and the earth”--so He can most definitely
open the lock to a man-made prison cell.
Let us take the action we can to bring happiness to another.
In this regard, we bring you a Simcha
message (of course, especially ripe
for Adar) from the Sefer Orchos
Tzaddikim: “Veyargil
Ess Libo Liheyos Sameach Keshe’Yeish LeAcheirim Tovos U’VeYosair Yismach
Bi’Reoso Bnei Odom HaMechazrim Al HaMitzvos La’asos Retzon HaBoreh
Yisborach-- One should accustom himself to feel the Simcha when good
things happen to others, and one should be especially happy when he sees
people performing Mitzvos--to do Hashem’s will.”
Please read this important teaching again, for it can change one’s
approach and attitude many times during the day upon witnessing an
occurrence or event or hearing news. Let
us now reflect for a moment about a situation in which you don’t even
personally know the ‘Ba’al Simcha’ and you practice the middah of
Simcha--how noble, how spirited, how uplifting!.
With this in mind, before saying the Tehillim or making the call,
imagine the joy that Yehonasan will feel when he can go to Shul on a Shabbos
Morning and listen to K’riyas HaTorah and answer Amein;
picture the joy of Purim or Pesach for him B’EH THIS YEAR!
It is still very possible. We
can participate in this joy--by doing our part in the here and now!
Special Note Two:
We return to the Mashpil
Gai’im U’Magbiah Shefallim
note of yesterday. After decades
of being in absolute power, the Egyptian leader’s downfall was stunningly
precipitous. The Magbiah
Shefallim--our uplifting will be even more striking because Hashem’s
Middah Tovah is vastly greater than his Middas Puraniyos.
As HaRav Schwab points out--it will be His Rachmanus that finally
raises us up and over. We must
not forget that at the outset of Tachanun every morning we exclaim “Hashem
Moleh Rachamim Rachem Allai
Vekabeil Tachanunani--Hashem you are filled
with mercy--have mercy on me.” In
the Kail Moleh Rachamim prayer
for those who have passed on we also begin with the reminder that Hashem is filled
with mercy. Hashem obviously
has no body, shape or form--but these Tefillos are urging us to understand
that we are not attempting to ignite some dormant or hidden power, or trying
to turn on some kind of power switch or transformer on ‘off’.
Hashem is filled with mercy right here and now--and it is we that must act to let the mercy out.
Moreover, no matter how much mercy we let out--Hashem
will always be filled with it--it is an unending and everlasting source!
May our earnest Tefillos for Rachamim and personal acts of Rachamim
to others serve as the final catalyst and catapult to our speedy and soaring
uplifting. Perhaps most
important is our personal recognition and desire not to be left behind--the
original redemption resulting from the very same Mashpil Gai’im in Egypt
saw only one-fifth benefit from the Magbiah Shefallim.
Let us do what we can and should do now through our rededicated and
focused Tefillos and our especial and consistent display of compassion,
understanding and kindness to others to be on the right side of the
border--so that we are lifted soaringly high, and have the opportunity, as
our predecessors to sing Az Yashir!
Special Note Three:
The Birchos HaShachar that we recite every morning are potent wake-up
calls to the many personal miracles that we are blessed with daily.
It is well-known that the Sefer Yesod
Veshoresh Ha’Avodah suggests that prior to reciting the bracha of
Pokaiach Ivrim --thanking Hashem for the ability to see (for those who have
and benefit from this complex miracle), one should close and then open his
eyes so that the bracha be recited with awareness and appreciation.
We may add that we can do the same in our own way for each particular
one of these primary Brachos. It
is no wonder and coincidence (as it never is) that the Shulchan Aruch itself
(Orach Chaim 46;1) takes the time and space to explain what these Brachos
are about. We owe it to
ourselves to spend an extra minute or two in the Morning to recite these
Brachos awake, with intensity and with clarity.
They are our entrée into the day--putting our life into a true and
pure frame of reference. over the course of a year--they add up to thousands
of Brachos properly and meaningfully recited--and provide a special
guide and portal to your entire day. As
one gets out of a chair later that day--he can recall that Hashem is the
Mattir Asurim; when one feels exhausted much later on--he will bear in mind
that Hashem is the Nosain LaYaeif Koach....
Life and every part of it is a gift--let us make sure that we
properly and carefully take it out of the package--and preserve it!
Special Note Four:
How many generations do you think there are from the time the second
Luchos were given in this week’s Parsha--and today?
You may be relatively surprised to see one sample chronology that
we provide by clicking here you
are closer to Sinai then you think--and should be careful to keep the chain
in fine condition!
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Special Note One:
Today is the Six-Month Anniversary of Yom Kippur--Please by guided by
Teshuva Bechol Yom--let us be driven by Yosair
Mi’mah She’Asisi!
Special Note Two:
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If you start Mesechta Megillah this week (latest start this Thursday) and learn
one blatt a day--you will make a Siyum on Mesechta Megillah at the Seudas
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Don’t wait--start today. The
greater the preparation for Purim--the more one puts in to make it
great--the grander the Simchas Purim will be!
Special Note Three:
On the topic of Joy--there is also the Joy of Adar right here and now as well.
How can we better experience it each and every day?
The Sefer Orchos Tzaddikim in Sha’ar HaSimcha writes:
V’Chol Ha’Oseh HaMitzvos BeSimcha Yaish Lo Sechar Eleph Yados
Mi’Mi She’Hamitzvos Alav LeMaso--One who performs Mitzvos with joy
receives 1,000 times the reward of one who treats the Mitzvos as a
burden.” Many of us can easily
become drained because of all of our daily tasks--as despite all of the
machines and devices which are intended to save us time and make life more
convenient and accomplishment-filled, we are left with a seemingly unending
list of modern-man meanderings. Our
Mitzvah performance is truly threatened daily by the rush, the haste, the
rote and habit, the weariness, and the hurried and harried environment
around us. If we can instead get
into the habit of taking a moment to STOP and SAVOR a MITZVAH before
performing it, a second to inhale the wonderful opportunity and benefit
before davening, reciting a bracha, studying Torah, helping another,
consciously refraining from Lashon Hora, paying a compliment to lift
another’s spirit, helping a child or elderly person even if they are
immediate family, then we will perform Mitzvos with the unabated joy that
they deserve. What a special
Avodah for Adar--to work on appreciating our G-D Given Daily Opportunities
and taking them out of the mode of something that ‘I have to do’ into
something that ‘I am happy and spirited to do’.
Ivdu Ess Hashem BeSimcha (Tehillim
100:2)--let Dovid Hamelech’s guiding words be a meaningful mantra and
beacon of bright light for us in the coming weeks!
Special Note Four:
In response to our question as to Hashem’s possible lessons for us
from the grass-- recently uncovered in its original state (!) after having
been covered by snow for many weeks in the Northeast--we received the
following pensive and fine response from a reader:
“If grass, which is a simple living thing, can survive under what
appears to be such difficult conditions as having a huge blanket of snow
many times its own size and thickness, and of such low temperature as to be
below freezing, covering it for so long, even more so should K’lal Yisroel
be able to survive amidst the most adverse of situations in which we find
ourselves, as we surely have survived until now--every single ‘blade’ of
ours only by Hashem’s Grace and His Ratzon. Hashem
is being Mechazek us--showing us that after the harshest Winter comes a
regenerated Spring. We must
appreciate and understand Hashem’s lesson and strengthen ourselves!”
Hakhel
Note: Thank you for a
wonderful thought on strengthening ourselves and our re-vitalization.
We may add that the recent fearful and earth shaking events in Egypt,
while re-inspiring us to continuously recite Tehillim Chapter 91 for
Hashem’s protection, also remind us of the awesome words we recite daily
in Shacharis immediately prior to Shemone Esrei.
We exclaim that Hashem is Mashpil
Gai’im U’Magbiah Shefallim-Hashem lowers the arrogant and raises the
lowly. Non-Coincidentally--the
Mashpil Gai’im (as HaRav Schwab Z’tl explains in Rav Schwab on Prayer) is referring to the Middas HaDin that Hashem
applied to the Egyptians.
The immediate aftermath of that was
Magbiah Shefallim--the Middas HaRachamim that Hashem showed to
the B’nai Yisroel. Let us
do what we can in order for
Hashem’s current Mashpil Gai’im--Middas HaDin on the Egyptians to repeat itself with a
Magbiah Shefallim--a Middas HaRachamim for and upon the B’nai Yisroel--as
we witness a new and this time final Geulah.
A tried and true way to receive exceptional Rachamim--is by
demonstrating exceptional Rachamim to and on behalf of others--through our
Tefillos for those who are sick and are in difficult straits, through our
acts of exceptional kindness, and through our thoughts and words of
compassion, encouragement and sensitivity.
May we be zoche to not only recite the words of Magbiah Shefallim--but
to witness it arising out of the
Mashpil Gai’im of the Egyptians--speedily and in our days.
If we need a countdown--may it have already begun!
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GRASS
REVEALED! To many in the
Northeastern
United States
,
grass was revealed and reappeared for the first time in several weeks--and
lo and behold it was all there in its dark green color and distinct shape
and size--as it was before being covered over by the protective snow for oh
so long. It had not changed--it
did not grow recognizably, nor was its vegetable life taken--it reappeared
almost exactly as before! What
special lesson can we learn from the... reappearance of the grass?
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Special
Note One: Today is 7 Adar
Aleph--and as we know 7 Adar is the Yahrzeit of Moshe Rabbeinu.
Although the Yahrzeit will essentially be observed next month--in
Adar Beis, we note a great lesson that our Chazal provide from 7 Adar:
Chazal teach that Haman was elated when the lottery of the month in
which he would annihilate the Jews fell upon the month of Adar--for this is
the month of Moshe’ Rabbeinu’s Yahrzeit--which undoubtedly was a great
calamity for K’lal Yisroel. He
concluded, therefore, that c’v the month was opportune for further Jewish
catastrophe. He was very much
mistaken, Chazal continue, because he did not know that Moshe Rabbeinu was also born on 7 Adar, as
Hashem completes the years of Tzaddikim to the day.
The month of Adar was then an incredibly successful one for K’lal
Yisroel--for where would any of us be
for all of eternity --without Moshe Rabbeinu coming into this world?!
He may have temporarily expired from Olam Hazeh, but he is still
working hard for us in the upper world;
he will be back soon in the Techias Hameisim of Tzaddikim (which some
say will occur first before the general Techias Hameisim); and he left the
legacy of ‘Toras Moshe Avdi’--for us all to live
by generation after generation! In
reality, the month of Adar is a time of joy--a time very much befitting for
the salvation of the Jewish people. Most
certainly, then, we unlike Haman,
should recognize the inherent might and greatness of this month and
especially endeavor to fulfill the Mishna’s teaching: ‘MiShe’Nichnas
Adar Marbin BeSimcha’ in whatever way that we can.
May we suggest that one begin by absolutely banishing sad,
troublesome or disheartening thoughts that may enter his mind (Yetzer Hora,
hard at work) and replace those thoughts with positive and appreciative
realizations of the elevated and unique position any one reading this has in
relation to the many, many billions of humans and other creatures on this
planet. Our elevated Simcha period will soon lead into the incomparably
potent Geulah Period of Purim and Pesach--and hopefully along with it into
the Final and Everlasting Geulah--so bring the Simcha in--and be sure let it
out and share it with all around you as well!
Special
Note Two: For those who recite a
series of Chapters of Tehillim daily (for instance, completing a daily
schedule to complete the Sefer every month), may we suggest that in order
not to get caught up in rapid and unthinking recitation, one stop for a
moment between each Chapter and read the caption found in many of the
printed Sefer Tehillims available, which succinctly summarizes the origin,
theme, or purpose of the Chapter.
Hakhel
Note:
If anyone could supply us with the Mechaber or source of these
descriptive captions, we would greatly appreciate it.
Special
Note Three: The Sefer Orchos
Tzaddikim teaches that the Middah of Boshess, of being reserved rather
than brazen, shamefaced rather than shameless, is essential to a person’s
character and conduct. However,
the Orchos Tzaddikim continues, there are certain circumstances where
reticence is the incorrect reaction
or response. In the
strongest of terms, he writes: “V’Ain
LeHone’ach Shum Mitzvah Avur HaBoshess”--one should not fail to
observe or perform a Mitzvah because others are not doing so, or others are
not careful in its performance--for a true servant of the King would not
leave his service even if was mocked or ridiculed, and certainly if only
smirked upon or if his actions would not be understood by those who lack
sufficient Yiras Shomayim to appreciate the eternal importance of each and
every Mitzvah--and each and every Mitzvah performed
properly! In the words of
the Orchos Tzaddikim, it is a “Boshes
Ra’ah Me’od”--a very bad Boshess if one is more ashamed of a
person than of Hashem. If one
sees laxity in others--whether it be in areas of Kashrus and Bedikas Tolaim
(which from all of the recent findings seems to be one of the real and final
tests of our generation), of failing to eat Shalosh Seudos, of batala during
the course of Torah Study, of questionable financial meandering, of zip-zap
Brachos or Tefillah, one should not join the crowd but instead stand up for
Hashem and demonstrate what and how it should be done.
Of course, if one feels that the people around would be far from
receptive or would be ‘hurt’ or ‘insulted’ by his actions , one
should consult with his Rav or Posek on a definitive course of conduct--but
action of some kind must most definitely be taken.
A Ganev, as someone who steals secretly, is more scared of man than
of Hashem and must therefore must pay Kaifel or double for his actions.
Let us not c’v fall into a Ganev mode by being more shamefaced of
man than of Hashem --but instead serve Hashem in each and every Mitzvah with
the dignity and honor--with the unabashed
nobility--that is attached to being part of the Mamleches Kohanim Vegoy
Kadosh!
Special
Note Four: We continue with our
Erev Shabbos--Halachos of Shabbos Series:
a.
Chapped Lips. During the
winter months, many suffer from dry or chapped lips. Although
there is at least one kosher lip balm on the market, please note that it is
prohibited to use any lip balm on Shabbos because the rubbing of the balm
stick onto the lip constitutes the melacha of memachek. Additionally,
special care must be taken not to bite the skin off the lips on Shabbos.
In fact, according to The
Shabbos Home (Rav Simcha Bunim Cohen, Shlita), biting skin off the lips
“does fall under the Biblical prohibition [of gozez] since this skin is
normally removed by biting.” Note:
With regard to lipstick itself, we note that from a kashrus perspective,
lipsticks require proper kashrus certification. On Shabbos, once again, use
of lipsticks would be prohibited because of memachek.
b.
Inexpensive Tissues, etc.
Some less expensive brands of facial tissues are manufactured in a
less-than perfect manner which results in some or many of the tissues in a
box being attached, at least partially, to the tissue(s) underneath,
frequently at one or more of the tissue’s corners.
A reader advised us that a leading Posek (we will not mention his
name, as we have not independently confirmed with him) has stated that it is
a Mitzvah Lefarsem--to publicize the Issur in separating the tissues.
When one quickly or in a rapid movement pulls tissues out--he may be
separating the tissues--which may involve issues of Koraya or Mechatech.
Accordingly, you should check his tissue box (or at least the brand
of tissue) before Shabbos. There
is a similar issue with pre-cut toilet paper in Shuls and Yeshivos-which are
in some instances put into dispensers, they may be attached at corners, and
be prone to ripping as one removes them from their container or dispenser.
One should urge the person in charge of tissues and paper in Shul to
purchase only the right brands to avoid all such issues-and one should
advise his Shomer Shabbos supermarket to especially stock the “Shomer
Shabbos” brands in which the issues do not exist.
c.
Muktza items may be touched as long as they are not moved.
Thus, one may touch most appliances and put things on them, as the
appliance will not move as a result. What
if an appliance such as a refrigerator has a door with Muktza and non-Muktza
items on its shelves, or an oven which is not turned on has some food left
inside from Erev Shabbos --can you open the appliance door?
The Sefer Shemiras Shabbos Kehilchasa
(Third Edition 20:79) rules that it is permissible to open the door to take
food out--but that if possible lechatchila
one should remove the muktza
items (such as medicines that will not be used on Shabbos) off the
refrigerator door before Shabbos--because by opening the door one would be
moving muktza. We once again
remind our readers of the special care and regard for Shabbos that the
cautious observance of Hilchos Muktza demonstrates--as one carefully guards
his actions within the 25 hours of Mai’ain Olam Haba--much as one would
when in the grand and palatial palace of...the King of the World!
Special
Note Five: Several brief points
relating to this week’s Parshas Tetzaveh.
We can’t supply you with food for the meal--but perhaps with some
food to accompany the meal:
1.
At the outset of last week’s Parsha, Teruma, Hashem commands
B’nai Yisroel with the words “VeYikchu Li Teruma --they shall take for
Me Teruma. This week’s
Parsha however begins with the words “VeYikchu Eilecha--they
shall take for you Shemen Zayis,
highly refine olive oil. What is
the explanation for this change
from the great Li-Lishmi lesson of
Parshas Terumah to Moshe Rabbeinu’s personal involvement with the Shemen
Zayis here?
2.
The Bigdei Kehuna Gedola of Aharon as Kohen Gadol are described in
the Torah as clothing which is LeChavod U’LeSiforess--clothing that brings
and displays honor and glory to the position.
The clothing of the regular Kohanim is also described in the Torah
with the very same words of LeChavod U’LeSiforess.
There is a moving message--even if one does not don the garb of a Rav
or the Elders of the congregation--he
is still an important part of the K’lal and brings Kavod V’Siforess to
himself and his people in his own way.
With this privilege comes the responsibility.
Although Aharon’s sons did not wear Eight Garments--they did wear
Four Garments of special dignity.
One must therefore be mindful--especially when going to pray or even
when making a bracha in his own home that he also bring Kavod V’Siforess
(or c’v the opposite) to his Avodas Hashem by his dress and comport.
A person who wears a baseball cap to Mincha or Ma’ariv with the
emblem of “Mitzvah Man” perched on top of a cartoon character amusingly
sprawled underneath the emblem may be demonstrating the same (or negative)
degree of Kavod V’Siforess to his Avodah as the person touting a
Bluetooth-equipped ear during Shemone Esrei, or the young man clad in an
outdoor jacket which proudly and widely displays the Puma or other Western
World Insignia. This Shabbos is
a time to reattach ourselves to the dignity of the Avodah --by showing the
regard we give to it in our every day lives!
3.
The first of the Kohen
Gadol’s Eight Garments listed in the Parsha is the Choshen.
Chazal (Zevachim 88B) teach that the Choshen brings forgiveness for
injustices in monetary matters. We
can well understand why this Article of the Bigdei Kehuna is listed first--for,
after all, the first question
that a person will be asked after his 120 year stay in this world is Nossasa
VeNosata Be’Emuna--did you deal honestly with people?
Straightening out our actions in monetary and financial matters is a primary
matter --a matter of first concern.
As we get set to do the Avodah-we must first be a N’Ki Kapayim--as
our living in Olam Hazeh requires that clean hands be the pre-requisite for
elevation of our spirit. When we
think of what to do or how to conduct ourselves in a particular monetary
matter--let us visualize the holy Choshen--and let us remember it as the
very first of the Kohen Gadol’s Eight Garments!
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Special Note One:
The Chofetz Chaim asks a pointed question:
We all know that Dovid Hamelech teaches “Mi HaIsh HeChofetz Chaim
Ohaiv Yomim Liros Tov --Who is the person who wants life, who wants days of
seeing good--one who keeps his tongue from evil....”(Tehillim 34:13).
Yet, Dovid Hamelech’s own son, Shlomo Hamelech, the wisest of all
men, teaches that Shomer Piv U’leshono Shomer MiTzaros Nafsho...one who
guards his mouth and tongue will be spared of Tzaros to his soul (Mishlei
21:23). There appears to be a
large gap, a very large gap, between life and days of seeing good throughout
an everlasting Olam Haba...and simply sparing one’s soul of pain and
suffering. Which then is the
true result of properly guarding one’s tongue?
The Chofetz Chaim explains that of course Dovid Hamelech’s vast and
wonderful statement is the accurate description of the result and reward for
one who guards his speech. Shlomo
Hamelech, in turn, is referring to one who
is not sure as to what he is about to say is appropriate.
The Yetzer Hora (how can one creature work so much overtime?) tries
to have him err on the side of making the statement--for, after all,
‘there could really be a big to’eles here’; or ‘you don’t want to
be blamed for letting them go out--nobody will ever trust you again!’; or
even ‘if they become partners, it will lead to such loshon hora...’
Now, it could really be that he is supposed to make the statement or
disclosure--but if one is not sure-- then
Shlomo Hamelech, the wisest of all men, is teaching us not to make the statement. If
one does so--then even if he should have made the statement--he will still
be spared any punishment for not having made it.
When Chazal teach that if the speech is one sela, then silence is
two--what they really mean is that one is saving himself much, much more
than money!
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Special Note Two:
PRE
-SHABBOS
ALERT! Please
take the time to examine your plastic garbage bags (Glad, Hefty, no brand
name, etc.) to determine how the bag is manufactured and packaged.
A reader advised us that he found that each individual Hefty
“cinch” bags are fused together on their folded sides, and that by
opening them you are separating the bonded folds; other bags may have the
opening at the top fused in a special way when wrapped.
We are not providing any ruling on any one kind of bag--for some may
be perfectly permissible, and others may not.
If one believes that there
may be an issue with the bags
that he is using, he should show a folded bag to his Rav or Posek, who will
open it and make a Halachic determination.
To be clear, there may be one or more Melachos D’Oraysa associated
with opening one of these bags on Shabbos (easily obviated by pre-opening
before Shabbos)--so real caution is URGED and ADVISED.
Like much of life--those little things can mean a great, great deal.
Additional Note I:
By taking care of this today, you can, to the contrary, fulfill a
Mitzvas Aseh D’Oraysa--on Thursday--of Zochor Es Yom HaShabbos LeKadsho--remembering
the Shabbos day--to keep it holy.
Additional Note II:
Ashreinu Ma Tov Chelkeinu--How fortunate is our lot!
Dealing with plastic bags that hold waste materials is not a matter
for the commoner or proletariat--but a topic and issue for the Gedolei
Haposkim, for we know that every single part of our lives is meaningful and
must be properly undertaken and guided.
A reader mused to us that he was working in close proximity to an
individual who constantly used nivul
peh. One day, our reader
finally decided that ‘his ears had been burned’ and could be burned no
longer, so he turned to the foul-tongued one and sincerely exclaimed and
urged: “Can’t you stop cursing? “
To which, the co-worker responded: “Stop?
From what? What do you
think this is--church or something?!”
We understand the world and its workings much, much differently than
this co-worker. Every day,
several times a day, we may recite the Pasuk Kodosh, Kodosh, Kodosh...Meloh
Chol Ha’aretz Kevodo--Hashem You are Holy--and Your Glory Fills the
World--every part and aspect, and every minute of it.
The most mundane, if we take it properly, will be seen to truly be
among the sacred. The Chasam
Sofer notes that the Torah’s command to build the Shulchan
in last week’s Parsha comes before the command to build the Menorah. He explains
that Olam HaZeh, symbolized by the Shulchan which housed the Lechem HaPonim
must perforce come before Olam Haba--symbolized by the Menorah as the
supernal radiance and illumination of Torah.
Only if we are successful with our attitude and approach to the
holiness of the Shulchan--to bringing Kedusha to Olam Hazeh-- will we merit
the Menorah of Olam Haba. The
Shulchan, after all, was in the very same Ohel Moed/Heichal--known as the
Kodesh--as the Menorah itself. Let
us remember how important each and every aspect of our lives is--so that we
personally demonstrate throughout our
entire day our true recognition, our complete belief, our whole and
resounding awareness that Meloh Chol Ha’Aretz Kevodo--His Glory Fills the
World and Every Part of It--Every
Single Part of It!
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Special Note One:
In this propitious month, we must strive to find new and different
ways to serve Hashem through Simcha. Not
every move or attempt towards this goal has to involve major or
earth-shattering events. May we
simply suggest approaching a friend or colleague and asking them, “Did you
smile today?” Hopefully, this
will evoke a smile. One can then
follow up with asking them to think about something in their life that they
can smile about now--and hopefully they will smile again!
Their smile(s) could be fleeting--or they could take the uplifted
feeling with them a little while longer--and your Ruach
Adar may have changed their day. You,
in turn, have much cause for sublime rejoicing--in having made someone
else’s day a happier one! Keep
up the Ruach Adar in others--and most certainly don’t allow yourself to
falter!
Special Note Two:
A further enhancement--from one of our readers who had explained why
the Mishna Berurah stresses that the lamed in Tefillin has a dagesh in it.
“The shoresh of the word
“Tefillah” (what we refer to as prayer) is pay-lamed-lamed, meaning
to “assess and correct.” The
root tof-pay-lamed, on the other hand means “tasteless or valueless.”
Unless one is careful to pronounce the dagesh in the word, thus
making it clear that the word is from the shoresh of pay-lamed-lamed, it
would very mistakenly appear that the shoresh of Tefillah is tof-pay-lamed. It follows then that
“Lehaniach Tefillin” means “to lay tools for prayer, i.e., for
assessment and correction of my relationship with Hashem”. If
one leaves out the dageish in Tefillin, then he has one once again changed
the root to tof-pay-lamed, tasteless or valueless. “Lehaniach
Tefillin” without the dagesh would be an affront and insult to the
mitzvah. This is why the Mishna
Berurah provides a specific warning to avoid making this error!”
Special Note Three:
It is interesting to note the times that we recite at least the first
Pasuk of Shema--before Pesukei
DeZimra in the morning; before Shemone
Esrei in the morning and evening; before
laining from the Torah on Shabbos and YomTov, before going to sleep every night--and at the conclusion of the Yom
Kippur Katan and Yom Kippur tefillos--which is really before the new month and before
the newly renewed ensuing year will begin.
It would appear that Shema is the portal, the entranceway, to
approach a new and next stage in life--for it is the essence of Kabbalas Ohl
Malchus Shomayim--the recognition that whatever you are about to do or
undertake is in the presence and service of the One and Only Hashem who
loves you and watches over you. One
may want to add other occasions before
which he recites this Pasuk--such as before heading out to work, before
going out on a date, and other situations and circumstances before one is
going to start something new. Your
Kabbalas Ohl Malchus Shomayim at that time is a pristine statement of your
recognition and awareness that whatever you do and whatever results --you
are in and under Hashem’s great and loving care!
Special Note Four:
This week we will conclude the Shovavim period for 5771.
During this time, some have raised their level in an area or areas in
which they felt a faltering. .
If one feels the special time has passed by without making a real
mark on him this year, may we propose the following brief but potent idea:
The Sefer Chovos Halevavos
explains that the essence of a person is his thoughts--and this is where his
Bechira Chofshis really lies, for whether or not (and in what manner) one
effectuates his thoughts will be determined by Hashem’s especially
dedicated Hashgacha Pratis over him (see previous Note!).
One’s thoughts are therefore his true and very personal and
personalized expression of self. HaRav
Chaim Friedlander, Z’tl, in Sefer Sifsei
Chaim especially emphasizes the importance of ‘Rikuz HaMachshavos’-consistently
focusing one’s thoughts towards what is right and away from wrong.
Failure to develop in this area affects one’s entire being, for it
is not just the brief or passing improper thought that has entered and
spoiled, but it is the impervious downgrade of one’s character and
attitude that results from the improper notion or thought.
Accordingly, may we suggest that one attempt to go through a day
(starting today, perhaps here and now) resolving not to have or allow a
thought today that he would be embarrassed about in front of a close family
member or friend--and certainly not in front of Hashem who knows all
thoughts. When one is aware that
the thought is coming or has come--he should quickly banish it by reminding
himself that the thought is not him--but like a foreign bacteria or virus,
is there to harm him--in this case in a spiritual and everlasting way.
The gauge of ‘will this
embarrass me’ is a simple but effective one.
Even if one feels that this is not possible for it is too much of a
‘cold turkey’ response to his thoughts until now--it should definitely
be made a part of one’s day when he becomes aware of an unbecoming,
unacceptable or inappropriate thought--and, realizing it, moves to cleanse
and clarify his thoughts--and his life.
Shovavim 5771--may we make sure to leave
it with a meaningful impact upon our lives!
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Below are two other alerts issued
yesterday relating to sardines:
From
Rabbi Yisroel Reisman, Shlita:
All sardines (including ‘Heimishe’
brands) should not be used unless they are the “skinless, boneless”
variety. The previous
information regarding one brand has now been extended to others as well.”
From
Rabbi Gershon Bess, Shlita:
Sardines [with skin and bones] from
Portugal
have been found to be infested with Anisakis worms. They are forbidden
according to
ALL
opinions since they are not found in the flesh but rather in the cavity of
the fish. The sardine must be gutted and the interior walls scraped to
insure that the worms have been removed. This is required according to all
opinions even if there is an OU on the can.
[Recently, nine worms were found in one sardine!]
This alert was initiated by the findings
of the Volover Rav Shlita
Skinless and boneless sardines are
permitted.
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Special Note One: Not
a position to be in: The
Chofetz Chaim in the name of the Sefer Chareidim
writes that when one does not judge
another favorably, he becomes the merkava, the carrier or bearer, of a K’lipas
HaTumah known as Chovah.
Important Recommendation: Today,
as you are about to experience that situation in
which you do not at all understand how or why that person could have said
this or done that, resolve that instead of devolving into a merkava for
Chovah, you will instead fulfill the Mitzvas Aseh D’Oraysa of Betzedek
Tishpot Amisecha--judging another favorably even under the most puzzling or
extremely difficult set of circumstances.
It follows that, in that event, rather than becoming a bearer of
Tumah--one will instead be the bearer of the special spirit of Tahara.
Chazal teach that Hashem’s Midah Tovah is at least 500 times
greater than his Middah of Puraniyos. Let
us re-examine each and every one of these daily meetings, situations and
circumstances. Far more than
being a thorny challenge or trying time--each one is more truly an
incredibly great opportunity--which should not get away.
Every day--every time--go for the purity that will come upon you and
your Neshama in such great measure!
Special Note Two:
In response to yesterday’s Question as to why the Torah is put into
an Aron and then into the Kodesh HaKodoshim seemingly isolated from the
people, we received the following excellent responses from readers:
a. “If
the Torah would just be “there” for us, it wouldn’t make us want it at
all. One must view and seek out
the Torah just as one would a hidden treasure in order to properly
appreciate how invaluable it is to our lives”.
Hakhel Note: We can apply
this lesson daily by treating our Maggidei Shiur and Seforim with an added
level of appreciation, care and respect--for they are very much helping us
to reach an essential part of our life--the ‘VeSein Chelkeinu BeSoresecha’--uncovering
and revealing the Torah for us, so taht we can attain our life’s potential
and portion in Torah knowledge and study.
One should very much try to improve his hakara,
his recognition and affection to those who help him take the Torah out of
the Aron and imbibe Hashem’s Wisdom into his being daily-and
everlastingly!
b. “The
Declaration of Independence is kept under lock and key in a pneumatically
sealed chamber with atmospheric conditions perfect for its preservation, and
back in the times when it was written, copies were disseminated among the
states for their publicizing the Declaration. Lehavdil, we need to have one
copy of the Torah that is sacrosanct as a proof that over all of these
millennia, not a dot has been changed in the Torah.
We will need this proof one day when the nations that surround us
make the final accusations, and the original scroll will appear and we will
be able to compare that the scrolls that we read in Shul today are exact
copies of the original scrolls written by Moshe Rabbeinu and dictated by
Hashem Yisborach. And since that
will be Y’may Mashiach, Am Yisrael--and the very same Torah will continue
live l’olam va’ed!”
Special Note Three:
Remember--this is Adar. Every day one should go out of his way to do something to make yourself and others happy--learn and/or tell a
D’var Torah, give someone a compliment, show somebody that you were
thinking about them...each person should set a daily goal over this period
of MiShe’Nichnas Adar, so that when he leaves Adar to the freedom of
Nissan and Pesach he will have uplifted his mind and spirit to new and
special heights. May we strongly
urge that you keep a record of your joyful accomplishments.
In the secular world, it is electronic devices that get Updates and
Upgrades, and then only it is from time to time--in the Torah world we can
and should move to upsurge in wonderful measure each and every day.
Let’s start with a real Simcha Upgrade today!
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KASHRUS ALERT!
Because of various findings of
Kashrus supervisors relating to canned sardines, one should consult with his
Rav or Posek, or the Kashrus Agency certifying the product, as to what
checking is necessary prior to consuming the sardines.
Apparently, the issues involved consist not only of krill, but of
anisakis as well. This is not to
say that sardines cannot be consumed, but rather that one should know the ‘if
and when and what and how’ before purchasing and certainly consuming the
product.
As the Sefer Mesillas
Yeshorim writes, when in doubt--one should view food upon which there is
a Halachic issue as a possibly dangerous food--and not consume it unless and
until you are sure that there is really no danger associated with it.
In this case, the ‘doctor’ we must turn to for advice is our
spiritual doctor--our Rav, Posek or Kashrus Agency who can provide us with
the precise preventive medicine that one may need!
Hakhel Note: This thought
is of course not limited to sardines--but to any food product which is new
or upon which there is a question, or of which you are unsure.
Remember, this is your spiritual
life to which we are referring--we have to make sure we remain healthy
for a very long, in fact, everlasting, time!
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SUGGESTION OF THE WEEK:
Every day, Hashem’s kindnesses to us are so great that we describe
them in Shemone Esrei as “Ki Lo
Samu Chasodecha--Hashem’s Chesed is Unending”.
When reciting these all-encompassing words we should feel the bliss
of the many (countless) blessings we have at that moment--relating to the
body, soul, family, personal miracles and experiences, etc.
One can and should sense a shower of Chasodim upon him, just as one
senses the pleasure of a hot shower on a tired or perspired body--the water
keeps on coming and coming-bringing salvation, relief and renewal!
Indeed, even throughout the day--as one realizes the specific
blessing here and the definite blessing
there--exclaim ‘Ki Lo Samu Chasodecha--Your Chesed keeps coming and coming!
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QUESTION OF THE WEEK:
In last week’s Parsha (Shemos 25:16), we find that the ‘Edus’--the
Torah--should be placed into the Aron, with no specific direction as to when
to take the Torah out. HaRav
Zalmen Sorotzkin, Z’tl, asks: Why
is it that the most precious possession that we have--the Torah--should be
put away into an Aron--and then kept in a sense hidden in the Kodesh
HaKodoshim on top of that?! Shouldn’t
the Torah be open and exposed for us all--the Torah is not the crown jewels,
but our crown jewels of life that needs to be seen and exposed to us
all--why was it to be put away--in the Aron and in the Kodesh HaKodoshim?!
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Special Note One:
Now that we are at the third day of Adar Rishon (!), we are reminded
of the words of Rav Dessler, Z’tl in Michtav Mai’Eliyahu (Volume 2,
p.123). Rav Dessler teaches that
just as there are stages in the aveilus of Av beginning with Rosh Chodesh
--which climax on Tisha B’Av, so too is there an increase in the Simcha
one is to feel as he moves daily through Adar- reaching a pinnacle on Purim
and Shushan Purim. This avodah
is not something that one waits until the last moment with.
This year, with the extra month of Adar, a person is given more and
greater opportunity to develop this joyfulness.
A person’s joy is never marked by a one-time chuckle at a joke or
one-liner, but at the Simcha of one’s relationship with HaKadosh Baruch Hu,
as the world turns on the axle of His Hashgacha Pratis over someone.
In connection with this fundamental point,
we received the following correspondence from a reader:
“HaRav Avrohom Schorr, Shlita just explained at his Rosh Chodesh
Adar Seudah that the Sefer Chovos
Halevavos writes that one who trusts Hashem, i.e., a Ba’al Bitochon,
is always BeSimcha. It follows
that if one wants to be Marbeh Besimcha, it would mean that he should work
on increasing Bitachon (such as by studying the Chovos
Halevavos Sha’ar HaBitochon) in Chodesh Adar”.
Hakhel
Note: The Sefer Orchos
Tzaddikim, which consists of 28
Sha’arim or Chapters, each of which is named by and describes a
particular Midah, also contains a discussion of Bitachon--can you guess the
name of the Sha’ar--the topic, in which the discussion of Bitachon is
contained? Let us get the
message from these most classic of Seforim--and let us use this precious
time period to expand our Simcha horizons!
Special Note Two:
Rabbi Eli Mansour, Shlita brings Chazal who teach about how the
Yetzer Hora operates: “HaYom Omeir Lo Aseh Kacha,
U’lemachar Aseh Kacha--today
the Yetzer Hora says ‘do this’
and tomorrow ‘do this’.
Why is the same term--do this today, do this
tomorrow used? Rabbi Mansour
beautifully teaches that the tachlis of the Yetzer Hora is to keep you at
status quo--whatever you are doing today--do it tomorrow.
Don’t grow, don’t become better, don’t get anywhere in life.
You are five minutes late every day to Shul, that’s just fine--keep
it like that; you don’t have time to go over the Parsha--hey, you did that
when you were younger, no need to start something new now;
you sometimes lose yourself--that’s good, you have to every once in
a while--keep it up. Our task in
life is to fight him at his “Kacha’s”--just do it and do it again.
We have to become better than yesteday--and not allow yesterday’s
Kacha in!
Hakhel
Note : Rebbe Yisroel
Salanter, Z’tl, explains that the Keruvim had the appearance of
children--for us to realize that in our relationship with Hashem and with
others we should view ourselves as children--not stuck in any kind of bad
habit or rut--and always willing to try something new, always trying to
explore--to get up and grow. Let
us be guided by the light of doing more than in the past, doing Yoseir
MiMah She’Hayisi--not being a
Kacha Jew--but being like the Keruvim --better today than the day
before!
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Special
Note One: Welcome
to Chodesh Adar!
As we all know,
“Mishenichnas Adar Marbin B’Simcha--when one enters into Adar, we
increase our joy” (Taanis 29A). There is discussion in the Achronim
as to whether this increased level of joy commences with the first day of
Adar I--tomorrow! The Sefer Adar U’Purim by HaRav Yoel
Schwartz, as well as the Aishel
Avrohom (Butshatsh) both learn that in fact the joy commences with Adar
I. HaRav Schwartz understands this from the term “Mishenichnas”,
which indicates that the initial entry into Adar warrants the increased
degree of happiness. He adds from the Sefer HaToda’ah (by
HaRav Eliyahu Kitov, Z’tl) that the Mazal of Adar is “Dagim”, which is
“fish” in the plural (as opposed to Dag, in the singular), in order to
indicate that the Mazal of both months of Adar is identical, and that they
are both to be infused with joy. The Shaalos Yaavetz (2:88),
however, regards only the Adar which is close to Purim as the Adar of Simcha.
If we are “strict” in
this matter, and rule that we must begin our increased Simcha tomorrow, how
can we begin to manifest it? The
Sefer Nimukei Orach Chaim (to
Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim Chapter 685) writes that each person should
engage in activities or do things that make him personally happy.
HaRav Schwartz adds that it is a nice custom to post signs in your home
reading “MiShenichnas Adar Marbin B’Simcha”--in order to have a
constant reminder to feel and experience an increased level of Simcha (one
can even do so today--as he will not be able to post the sign on Shabbos!).
Increased Joy for two
consecutive months--yet another benefit of a Jewish Leap Year!
Additional
Note:
We are pleased to point out that HaRav Chaim Kanievsky, Shlita, is of the
opinion that “Mishenichnas Adar Marbin B’Simcha” applies to Adar I as
well, based on the fact that there is a mitzvah to especially increase our
Seuda on Purim Katan (the 14th of Adar I), as is brought by the
Rema in his very last words to all of Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim (Chapter
697). HaRav Kanievsky continues that the way we can express this
Simcha is “if one has a Siyum, or
other Simcha to make, he should make it in Adar” (Derech
Sicha, p. 187).
Special
Note Two: We received the
following similar and important responses from readers regarding our
question about why the Mishna Berurah emphasizes that there is a Dagesh in
the Lamed of the word ‘Tefillin’
A.
The word Dagesh means emphasis and in this instance is referred to as
a Dagesh Chazak A Dagesh Chazak is intended to double the letter in
which it appears. The doubling of the Lamed in this case, executed
properly, should end one syllable and begin the next syllable with each of
the Lameds as follows: Tefil-leen.
B.
In pronunciation, the dotted letter is used to both close one
syllable and open the next. In
this case, the word is “te-fil-lin”, but
those hyphens only divide up the syllables, don’t actually pause
mid-lamed! It’s one, slightly
longer, /l/ sound. In
English, the “ll” in “bullet” works the same way; the syllables are
“bul-let” (not “bu-llet”). Trying
it might help convey what I mean.
Hakhel
Note:
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us!
Special
Note Three: We provide the
answers to our Shehechiyanu questions of yesterday:
A.
The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch
(Chapter 59)writes that one does not recite Shehecheyanu over smell because
the benefit of smell is to the Neshama--and the Neshama is Nitzchi,
eternal so it is not bound by the time-bound nature of the Shehecheyanu over
a new fruit.
B.
The issue of a Bracha of
Shehecheyanu over a diamond ring is a fascinating one.
HaRav Moshe Feinstein, Z’tl (Igros Moshe, Evan HaEzer 4:84) writes
that the Chosson purchasing the diamond ring makes a Shehecheyanu, and then
the Kallah, upon her receipt of the ring makes a Shehechiyanu.
In his Teshuva, HaRav Moshe adds that perhaps the Kallah’s Bracha
is HaTov VeHameitiv (as both she and her future husband will enjoy the new
diamond). HaRav Elyashiv, Shlita,
rules that only the Kallah makes the Bracha, and not the Chosson (Sefer VeZos
HaBracha, p. 168).
In
providing some background, Rabbi Yisroel Pinchas Bodner, Shlita, author of
The Halachos of Brachos, wrote the following to us:
“In earlier times the acquisition of new Kaylim (or jewelry) was
something that did not occur often. In
those times acquiring new Kaylim was usually cause for much happiness. Thus
the Shulchan Aruch states that a Shehecheyanu may be made when new Kaylim
are acquired In our times, however, the Minhag is not to recite a
brocha for any new acquisition (except when purchasing a new home or a
significant new garment). Nevertheless,
if one acquires a possession that brings him such joy that he really wants
to recite a brocha, he is permitted to do so. Thus
if the Chosson feels great joy he is permitted to recite a
Shehecheyanu when he is Koneh the ring. If the Kallah feels great joy when
she receives the ring she is permitted to recite a Shehecheyanu.”
Based
upon of the foregoing, a Chassan and Kallah would be well advised in
discussing the possibility of making this bracha with their Rav or Posek...Be’Sha’ah
Tovah U’Mutzlachas!
Hakhel
Notes:
a.
The responses to the above Shailos may be different for Sefaradim, so
please check with your Rav or Posek.
b.
The practice of specifically giving a ring as opposed to another or
other valuable items is a different topic, which may be pursued at another
time. In the interim, we refer
our readers to the gifts given by Eliezer to Rivka--and perhaps more
importantly the meaning and symbolism
behind each one of the gifts!
Special
Note Four: A reader provided the
following true story and insight on the lesson of Tzedaka we had provided
earlier this week:
“Your
quote from the Chofetz Chaim (One should never be upset if the same pauper
returns to him time after time; indeed, one should feel as much joy each
time as if an important customer were coming to buy more and more goods,
since a pauper brings a blessing from Hashem with his every approach!)
reminded me of a story I read. You
may want to share it with your readers.
‘Purim
is the most hectic of days for every Jew - how much more so for the great
Rosh Yeshivah, and leader of his generation, R’ Chaim Volozhiner. R’
Chaim was besieged all day long by lines of paupers who stretched out their
hands for Mattanos L’evyonim. Every
poor person received his gift with gratitude and promptly left the Rabbi’s
home to run elsewhere for more gifts. But
there was one pauper who lingered around the house and then approached R’
Chaim again to ask for another gift.
Often, people become annoyed by this kind of behavior, especially on Purim
when they may feel beleaguered by the onslaught of a seemingly endless flow
of solicitors. Not
so R’ Chaim Volozhiner. He
graciously gave the pauper a second monetary gift and even spent a moment
talking to him. The world famous
Rov and Rosh Yeshiva asked the poor man if perchance he had a gut vort, a
nice Torah idea about Purim to share with him.
The
pauper responded, “The Midrash says that Mordechai knew that the heavenly
tribunal agreed with Haman’s decree to harm the Jews because they had to
be punished for their sins. However, the tribunal has two different ways of
sealing its decrees. If the decree is sealed with a seal of blood, it is
permanent and can’t be rescinded. If,
on the other hand, it is sealed with clay, then there was still a last
chance for the Jews to repent and thereby shatter the clay seal. Mordechai
was deeply concerned lest the decree was sealed in blood. When
he met Eliyahu Hanavi who informed him that the decree was only sealed with
clay, Mordechai was overjoyed because there was still hope for the salvation
of the Jews.
‘I would like to know, honored Rabbi, whether there is some remez--a hint
of this concept on the text of the Megillah itself’.”
Before R. Chaim could reply, the pauper continued and demonstrated a textual
source for the derivation of this idea from the Megillas Esther (3:9), where
it says “Yikasev Li’Abdam”--it shall be written down to destroy them. The
Hebrew word “Li’Abdam”, may be broken into two words to read “Lo
B’dam”--not with blood. Simply
inserting a space in this word describing Haman’s decree reveals this key
fact about the hidden Divine decree.
The next time R’ Chaim visited his Rebbe, the Vilna Gaon, he repeated this
vort to him. The Vilna Gaon’s
response was, “The very same Eliyahu Hanavi who brought this good news to
Mordechai in Shushan many centuries ago, revealed this Scriptural proof to
you on Purim.”
This incident teaches us how
important it is to be patient with the poor. If
R’ Chaim had been impatient with the pauper when he approached him a
second time, and had rejected his request, then R’ Chaim would have
forfeited his opportunity to have ‘gilui Eliyahu’-a revelation of
Eliyahu Hanavi. Beware! You
never know who is knocking at the door!’
(from Tuvcha Yabiyu Vol II, p. 278, Tzedakah Treasury p. 256).
Special
Note Five: For the month of Adar
Rishon, we reach the Sixth Ani Ma’amin--I believe with complete faith that
all the words of the Neviim are true. The
Neviim represent the highest level that man can reach in this
world--receiving actual directed communicated from Hashem.
Therefore, every word of theirs that is recorded has such great
weight that the commentaries analyze each such word as if it was the Torah
itself. Whenever reviewing a
Pasuk from Navi we should reflect on its meaning and its application to us--it
is all true! Observation:
Thinking about the Neviim as we recite this Ani Ma’amin daily
should ‘raise our bar’--as we recognize that there are not currently
Neviim, and that each of us in our own way can reach the highest levels that
man can reach in our day. There
is no reason to linger behind--when you have the opportunity to be at the
top. If you demonstrate true
dedication and zeal, even when our Neviim come back--who knows where you may
be. After all, in reviewing the
Neviim who are part of Tanach, we see a broad spectrum of Neviim--from
different families and different places. Chazal (Megillah 14A) indeed teach
that there were actually more than a million of Neviim, but that there
Nevuah was not for future generations so it was not formally recorded as
part of Tanach. With the right
and ambitious effort on our part, who knows what we can attain--the Mesilas
Yeshorim was not written for the theory--it was written to show what a
person (not an angel) could truly attain.
Let’s start that effort today--for our beginning to read the
Parshios of the first Mikdash over
the next several weeks may be a special supernal sign that we too may
witness the building of the final
Mikdash in this very period--and it would be truly wonderful if we were in
an elevating and elevated mode!
Special
Note Six: We continue with our
Erev Shabbos--Hilchos Shabbos series:
1.
In the Yekum Purkan at the conclusion of our Shabbos Shacharis, we
recite ‘U’Mi She’Meyachadim Batei Chnei’sios LiTefillah, U’Mi
She’Bo’im BeSocham LeHispallel--and those who dedicate Shuls for prayer
and those who come to them to pray.’ Rabbi
Moshe Meir Weiss, Shlita , notes the apparent redundancy of these two
phrases--why do we ostensibly say the same thing twice.
There is really a great difference, Rabbi Weiss explains.
There are, in fact, two different hinds of people who come to Shul.
There are those who treat the Shul with a care and concern, with a
feeling of love and attention. If
a light bulb is out, if tissues are needed, if the chairs are in disarray,
if items need to be picked up and thrown out--immediate attention is taken,
and the Shul is responsibly taken care of and cared for.
Why leave the privilege for the hired help--and why wait until tomorrow to get it
done? These are the people who
dedicate the Shuls for prayer. Then
there is a second group of people--those that just ‘come to
pray’--stepping over a wrapper on the floor, asking when “they”
will finally get it right, stuffing up the sink, leaving the coffee out--and
letting “them” or the
caretaker fix the problem, clean the mess and...take care of the Shul.
This is what we announce in the Yekum Purkan in Shul on Shabbos--yes,
you are all coming to Shul--but you are two
separate and distinct groups of people in the eyes of men, and in the
eyes of Hashem!
2.
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3.
Shabbos Question--can one return a lost object to its rightful owner
on Shabbos?
4.
Several Notes on Hilchos Muktza:
a.
Some stores items (such as Challah trays or the like) in their oven
on Shabbos, using it as an extra cabinet while not in use.
This may be problematic, as the oven door may be considered part of a
K’li She’Melachto LeIssur, which is only permitted to be moved (in this
case--opened and closed) if no other eitzah with a K’li She’Melachto
Lehetter is immediately available. If
this is an issue for you, please consult with your Rav.
b.
Sifrei Kodesh, and usable food items, are never considered Muktzah.
What about clothing? This
is a Machlokes HaPoskim, with HaRav Elyashiv, Shlita ruling that clothing
can be treated as usable food and is not Muktzah--even if it is not needed,
and HaRav Nissim Karelitz, Shlita ruling that clothing that is not needed
cannot be moved without a need or purpose.
c.
In Igros Moshe( Orach Chayim, Chelek Heh), HaRav Moshe rules that it
is preferable not to rely on the concept of ‘Geraph Shel Re’ii’ if one
has a better method of moving an item, such as moving it indirectly.
However (unlike other Poskim who prefer a child to move the Geraph
Shel Re’ii item), HaRav Moshe rules that it is not a good idea for the
child to move Geraph instead of an adult--for he will then think that he is
allowed to move Muktza! All
agree that it would be best for a Gentile to move the Geraph item.
Hakhel Note:
In considering the broad nature of these Halachos, one realizes that
one of the messages and lessons of Muktzah to us is that while all of our
actions in life are extremely important--our Shabbos actions, as actions on
a day which is Mai’Ain Olam Haba, take on an even greater measure and
level of significance to our eternal existence.
We should be especially careful with these Halachos--for it shows how much we truly care
about the day!
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Special Note One:
The Mishna Berurah in Hilchos Tefillin (Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chayim
25, seif katan 19) writes that when reciting the bracha of ‘LeHoniyach
Tefillin’, one should note that the letter Lamed in ‘Tefillin’ has a
dagesh in it. What is the
message the Mishna Berurah trying to convey?
Is there a special way that we are supposed to pronounce the Lamed?
We very much welcome your response!
Special Note Two:
Two Related but Unrelated Questions:
a.
Does one make a bracha of Shehechiyanu over a spice that he has never
smelled before?
b.
When a Chassan buys a diamond engagement ring for his Kallah, is any
special bracha recited --by the Chassan?
by the Kallah at the time of receipt?
Note:
Please consider quickly, for we intend to provide responses tomorrow!
Special Note Three:
Why is last week’s Parsha of Mishpatim, which contains the basis of
so much of our financial and civil law, brought in the Torah prior to the
building of the Mishkan, which is the core of this coming week’s Parsha?
It seems like such a stark contrast between two items at opposite
ends of the spectrum--the Aron HaKodesh on the one hand--and $ on the other!
One simple suggestion to explain
this paradox may be that before we can even
begin to establish our bond with Hashem, we must first properly conduct
our relationships with humans in the way Hashem tells us is correct.
If you want to further elevate your human existence--first get to the
point at which you can elevate it, as you can’t get to the second floor
without passing through the first. The
Bais Halevi, however, explains the juxtaposition in a different way.
He teaches that Hashem is indicating to us that the money that we use
to build our spiritual goals in this world--cannot be just any money--but
money that is pure and clean. A
person cannot ‘bless’ or justify tainted actions for tzedaka or
spiritual causes. The money
given--as the giver himself--must be wholesome.
This lesson is beautifully furthered by Dovid Hamelech in Tehillim
(24:3) with the moving words, fervently recited on the Yomim Noraim:
‘Mi Ya’aleh BeHar Hashem U’Mi Yakum Behar Kodsho---N’ki
Chapayim ... Who may ascend the
mountain
of
Hashem
, and who may stand in the place of his sanctity?
One with clean hands and a
pure heart....
In fact, the Chofetz Chaim
(in the Introduction to his Sefer Ahavas
Chesed) writes that Hashem said that he loved Avrohom Avinu because he
would teach his family ‘La’asos Tzedakah
U’Mishpat...to do charity and justice.
Tzedaka, righteousness, appears to be beyond
the letter of the law whereas Mishpat is
the letter of the law. Avrohom
Avinu would not be giving his children two contradictory messages--what does
the Torah mean? The Chofetz
Chaim explains that there are two parts to a relationship--how a person acts
to his fellow man, and how his fellow man acts towards him. One should use
Mishpat--the strict letter of the law for everything that one is doing that
involves someone else’s money, and be sure to avoid taking a penny that is
not his. On the other hand, when
considering how another person is reacting to him, one should use tzedaka--employing
a degree of flexibility and compromise--so that not everything is a fight or
the ‘principle of the thing’, and so that one does not leave behind
open, jagged potholes as he travels life’s road.
This is not simple or easy--but it is the path described Dovid
HaMelech in Tehillim, the path originally paved by Avrohom Avinu for all of
his descendents, and the very way we can leave Parshas Mishpatim and arrive
very quickly at the portals of the Mishkan!
Let us remember that money is not useful currency in Olam Haba unless
you exchanged it properly--very properly--when you had the chance and when
the bank was open--in the here and now!
Additional Note 1:
Our mandate to strive for honesty and integrity is recorded in
Shulchan Aruch (Choshen Mishpat 231:14) which requires us to err and give a
little more from our side when weighing or measuring for another--as the
Pasuk teaches”Vatzedek Yiheye Loch (Devorim 25:15), which Chazal teach
means “Tzadek Mishelecha Vetitten Lo (Bava Basra 68B).
Additional Note Two:
HaRav Pam, Z’tl, would often quote the teaching of the Chofetz
Chaim applicable when hiring workers of any kind:
One should try to describe exactly what has to be done, and how much
will be paid for doing it. Otherwise,
it is highly probable that a problem will develop, and in the end a tinge
(or more than a tinge) of ill will and gezel, may develop.
Be clear--up front, to avoid any avoidable wrangling and aggravation.
The goal of being a N’ki
Chapayim is not for the Rabbis and Scholars, and not left to the high Holy
Days. It is the calling of the
descendants of Avrohom Avinu--and it is the basis for our building a Mishkan
in this world. How mighty are
our challenges--but how immense are our accomplishments!
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MASHAL OF THE WEEK:
The Chofetz Chaim provides an astonishing Mashal which we can and
must each learn from. A man of
great wealth sent two different representatives to purchase precious stones
for him to a far away land. To one, he gave 1,000 gold coins, and to the
other he gave 100 gold coins. Both
were sizable sums, but the greater amount was entrusted with the more
responsible sh’liach. The
representatives went on their way together, proud of their assignment and
determined to do well. Their spark and ambition began to give way towards
their own personal needs, and they realized that they could ‘live a
little’ by spending just a little bit of the money with which they had
been entrusted. After all, they
would be certainly be able to easily make up the money spent with some wise
purchases at the end of their destination--and they needed to take care of
themselves today. It wasn’t
very long before the 1,000 gold coins became 200 in the hands of the first
agent, and the 100 dwindled to 40 in the hands of the other.
Both began to get a bit nervous, and their jitters suddenly exploded
into a reciprocal ranting. The
more entrusted one yelled: “How can you compare yourself to me--you have
only 40 gold coins to your entire name--and I have five times as much!!
To which the lesser agent responded:
“What an incredible fool you are!
What are you boasting about! Those
200 gold coins are not yours--you are only a sh’liach
who has been entrusted with the money to bring back gems.
In fact--you are much, much poorer than me--for I spent 60 coins of
our sender’s money--but you squandered and owe him a whopping 800!!
You are going to have a lot more of explaining to do--and I don’t
envy at all the shame and disgrace that you will face--and the heavy price
you are going to have to pay for your enormous derogation of
responsibility!”
The Nimshal is stark and clear.
We here in this world are all sh’luchim,
agents of Hashem from the higher worlds, entrusted with a mission to rectify
and cleanse our souls--each in accordance with the level of wisdom and
responsibility which Hashem has placed within us.
It would be ridiculous for a person to consider himself superior to
his friend, or in any matter be haughty--for his wisdom, wealth or talent is
not his--but was given to him for a special and dedicated purpose--his
unique and singular mission in life. A
person must exercise great care to fulfill that mission with that which he
has been equipped--for if one acts responsibly, it is truly a real and
attainable goal. Along the
route, one must be especially careful not to allow himself to be sidetracked
with the wiles and guile of the Yetzer Hora--allowing this indulgence after
that desire, this hankering after that immoderation--none of which disappear
after ‘their use’ but instead continuously pile up into what can mount
into an embarrassing and unexplainable heap and mess.
One must most certainly appreciate the hours that he has each day for
Torah and Tefillah and not allow them to be squandered, unaccounted for, or
spent away rather than serving their purpose.
Each day, and the precious hours that it is comprised of, can go far
in taking those gold coins one has received--and fulfilling their entrusted
mission--practically, meaningfully and successfully!
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Special Note:
The Sidras Mishpat Moshe on
many practical topics in Choshen Mishpat
was published in 5758 under the auspices of HaRav Yisroel Belsky, Shlita (in
memory of Rabbi Moshe Sherer, Z’tl, by Ruach Country Publications).
Before taking leave of the vast amount of Hilchos Choshen Mishpat
contained in and encompassed by Parshas Mishpatim, we provide below but a
few significant points from this wonderful publication.
1. To
appreciate the broad scope of Choshen Mishpat, one must recall that its
Halachos apply every day of the week--even
on Shabbos (!)--in contrast even to the essential Halachos of the 39
Melachos on Shabbos--which apply one day a week.
2. A
non-Torah person thinks of possessions and money as being items to
accumulate in any way possible. This
attitude is described by Shlomo Hamelech (Koheles
2:26
) with the words “VelaChotai Nossan Inyan Leh’Essof VeLichnos...To the
sinner he gave the urge to gather and collect.
Such a person thinks that accumulating wealth is a goal unto itself,
and accordingly pursues a path based upon terminology such as
‘sharpness’ and ‘shrewdness’ which
r’l taint all of his possessions with at least a touch of theft or
misappropriation in some form or nature.
3. The
Torah’s attitude towards possessions and money should be studied well.
In English, we have the verb ‘to have’. One says, for instance,
“I have a new car”, or “I have a new phone”.
HaRav Shamshon Refoel Hirsch, Z’tl, points out that the verb ‘to
have’ does not exist in Lashon HaKodesh.
One says instead “Yaish Li”--there is to me--instead of I have.
Rather than saying “I own this pen”, in Lashon HaKodesh one says
“There is a connection between me and this pen.”
We call this connection ownership--but all the connection really
means is that a person has some right to control the pen.
4. If
one is able to develop a fear of having someone else’s money in his
possession--and learns to feel a repulsiveness for it, one will be well on
his way to protect himself from even a small gezel--which always, of course,
leads to a larger gezel.
5.
A Torah Jew’s need for possessions and to own property should be
motivated by one’s desire to take care of one’s needs and
responsibilities, to have a place to live, to provide for one’s family,
and to support the community in a way that is filled with Torah and Mitzvos.
If one’s aspiration for money
and possessions is correct, and one is careful that they are acquired
without any taint of gezel, then each one of them is a Cheifetz
Shel Mitzvah, just like a beautiful Esrog--without any blemish.
One does not have to wait until Sukkos--he can be surrounded by the
beauty of his Mitzvos --with his Chafatzim Shel Mitzvah --every day--at home
and wherever he goes!
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SPEECH ALERTS:
We provide the following especially important notes relating to an
ill-conceived word or statement:
a. The
Torah provides the following Lo Sa’aseh when you are in the process of
criticizing or rebuking anyone (including
reproving any close family member or close friend):
“VeLo Sisah Alav Chait--and
do not bear iniquity when rebuking him.”
The Chofetz Chaim explains that even when one is giving a legitimate
and appropriate reprimand--and even if the reproof is not in public but in
private, one cannot speak so harshly
in the course of his admonition that he shames or disgraces the other
person...and, concludes the Chofetz Chaim, violation of the prohibition
is even more blatant when it is not in the course of a legitimate
admonishment, or when in a more public forum.
How careful must one be to stay clear of such a severe Lo Sa’aseh--which
in its very definition in the Torah is called a Chait!
b. When
has one crossed the border and committed the grave sin of Ona’as Devorim--abusing
his sacred power of speech by using it against others.
The Rambam and Chinuch, as quoted by the Chofetz Chaim, write that it
occurs when one angers or disturbs someone and he is frustrated, or put in a
position that he can not answer back or save himself.
The Kitzur Shulchan Aruch (63:5) gives several examples and concludes
that Ona’as Devorim is any speech that causes
Tza’ar HaLev--emotional pain or hurt to another.
None of us want any kind of Tza’ar HaLev which is so painful--we
should be especially careful not to
get even close to meting it out to others!
It is certainly a true and everlasting accomplishment to go through a
day, especially under difficult or trying circumstances, and especially when
you have a ‘good’ excuse to act badly--pure and refined--because it was
Ona’as Devorim free!
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QUESTION OF THE WEEK:
In this week’s Parsha, we find the B’nai Yisroel’s first great
demonstration of giving to a
worthy cause. In fact, the Torah
calls it taking (“And you shall
take for me Teruma’) for the many reasons that you have undoubtedly
heard in the past. Now let us
think for a moment. There are 14
possible Mitzvos Aseh that one can violate in speaking Loshon Hora.
How many Mitzvos Aseh can a
person fulfill when he gives Tzedaka? We
will start off the list of possible Mitzvos...perhaps one can keep a piece a
paper with the list of these Mitzvos with him--look at it--and be a little
nicer and more grateful when he is asked for Tzedaka funds.
This is our starting point and we sincerely ask that you supply us
with your additions to the list: VeAhavta
Lerayacha Komocha, Posoach Tiftach, U’Vo Sidbak, VeHechazekta Bo, Yishuv
Eretz Yisroel, Talmud Torah (possibly DeRabbim).
In his Sefer Ahavas Chesed
(1:7), the Chofetz Chaim writes: ‘One should never be upset if the same
pauper returns to him time after time; indeed, one should feel as much joy
each time as if an important customer were coming to buy more and more
goods, since a pauper brings a blessing from Hashem with his every
approach!’ (See Journey to Virtue
by Rabbi Avrohom Ehrman, Shlita (Artscroll, p.459).
As we count the Mitzvos--we begin to appreciate the great
blessing--all to be heaped upon and added on to the heartfelt and powerful
blessings that may be offered by the thankful recipient!
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Special Note:
As yet another storm brews in the United States, with the threat of
cold and ice to many, we recall the words of Dovid Hamelech (Tehillim
1747:17) that we recite daily in Pesukei D’Zimra:
“Mashlich Karcho KeFittim Lifnei Karraso Mi Ya’amod-- He hurls
His ice like crumbs, who can stand before his cold?!”
Indeed, a Gadol once remarked that this alludes to the slippery power
of ice, upon which the most adept and careful walker can take a spill.
Yesterday, we suggested the recital of Tehillim 91 as a protection
for our brothers in Eretz Yisroel against the turmoil going on around its
holy borders. One reader
actually pointed out that he has been reciting this very same kepitel as a
shemira for himself when he goes out into the storm and post-storm
conditions. Whether we are
equipped with a Hummer, the latest model snow blower or the finest Russian
fur hat (see yesterday’s Bulletin as to Shatnez testing it), even the
greatest meteorologist and greatest internist knows that the weather
conditions and how they affect each and every one of us is a blatant and
manifest demonstration of Hashgacha Pratis.
Hakhel
Note 1: Recital of Kepitel
91 twice--for both situations, personal and communal-- would therefore most
certainly not be contradictory!
Hakhel
Note 2: With all of the
difficult weather one may have experienced over the winter, one should
consider whether he or his family has become sick and if so to what
extent--considering the possibilities. Think
of the shelf of over-the-counter cold and flu medication besides the
antibiotics of varying degrees that the pharmacist has behind the counter.
If you have thusfar gotten through relatively unscathed--then you
have saved yourself a lot more than the cost of the drugs and medications.
Perhaps some special acknowledgement and thanks in Modim is in order, and
perhaps some renewed Kavanna in Refaeinu and Asher Yotzar!
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