Hakhel Email Community Awareness Bulletin
MAY 2014 DAILY EMAIL ARCHIVE
1 Sivan
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PUNKLICHT! At the recent Hakhel Yarchei Kallah, Rabbi Matis
Blum, Shlita, taught that the Chazon Ish did not feel that the word ‘yekke’
should be used--as it could be taken by some to have a colloquial negative
connotation. Instead, if one wants to describe another as being prompt and
on-time--the correct word would be punklicht!
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FOLLOW THE MAJORITY: Rabbi Blum also taught that many may be mistaken as
to the Halachic rule regarding opening windows or turning on the air
conditioning when some are hot, and closing windows or turning off the air
conditioning when some are cold. No, it does not depend on the time of
year--an individual does not have the right to open windows or to turn on
the air conditioning, for instance, just because it is summer time. Rather,
the general rule is--the majority rules!
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Special Note One:
Today is Rosh Chodesh Sivan, the day upon which Bnei Yisroel entered Midbar
Sinai, and changed the history of the World. This month’s mazal is
Teumim (Gemini, or twins). The Sefer HaTodaah by Rabbi Eliyahu
Kitov, Z’tl, suggests that the reason for this is that both Moshe Rabbeinu
and Aharon HaKohen were together essential in bringing the Torah to our
people.
The following is excerpted
from the sefer Let My Nation Serve Me by Rabbi Yosef Deutsch, Shlita,
(Artscroll) a wonderful work which provides both depth and feeling to the
events in the Midbar leading up to Mattan Torah, and to Mattan Torah itself,
as culled from Chazal in the Medrash and Gemara, and from the Rishonim.
It is highly recommended for all in proper preparation for Shavuos.
Rabbi Deutsch writes as follows:
“There is a special
significance to the Torah being given in the month of Sivan. The
astrological sign for Sivan is Gemini, twins. The gentile nations
would one day have to give an accounting for their rejection of the Torah
when Hashem offered it to them, and Hashem wanted to anticipate the
arguments they would offer in their own defense and refute them from the
very beginning. He knew that the gentile nations would say that they
thought that the Torah did not relate to them. It was designed for the
Jewish nation, a nation with which they had no kinship or connection.
Therefore, Hashem chose to
give the Torah in the month of Sivan, a month characterized by the sign of
twins, as if to say, “The Jewish people are not, from their origin, a
nation apart. They are descended from Yaakov, who had a twin brother
Eisav, and the gentile nations, at least those descended from Eisav, cannot
claim that the Torah is not destined for them.
The sign of twins is
also especially propitious for the Giving of the Torah. Hashem did not
want to give it in Nissan, whose sign is Aries, the sheep, because the
Egyptians worshipped sheep. He did not give want to give the Torah
during Iyar, whose sign is Taurus, the bull, because the Jewish people would
worship the Golden Calf, a young bull. Hashem did not want an
everlasting association between the idol and the Torah. Therefore, he
chose to wait until Sivan, whose sign is the twins, a symbol of fraternal
love and solidarity. These are virtues that qualified the Jewish
people to receive the Torah.
There is also a special
symbolism in the Torah being given on the sixth of Sivan rather than any
other day of the month. The original creation of mankind took place on
the sixth day of Creation. The Giving of the Torah would be the act of
national creation for the Jewish people, and therefore it, too, was to take
place on the sixth day. Furthermore, that year, 6 Sivan fell on a
Shabbos, which was also significant. Just as Shabbos provided the
spiritual protection of the newly-created Adam, so did the Shabbos on which
the Torah was given provide the spiritual protection for the newly created
Jewish nation.”
Hakhel Note: These
thoughts help us focus on the profundity of Mattan Torah. When one has
an audience with the King, he prepares well in advance for the occasion.
Unlike other audiences, where the commoner gives the King a gift, on Shavuos,
Hashem will be giving us a remarkable, life-giving, infinite and
irreplaceable gift. We would do well to begin preparing for this
incredible event--at least by studying about it from a beautiful sefer such
as this--or from the original sources--today!
Special Note Two: HaRav
Shimshon Pincus, Z’tl, provides the following fascinating Mashal:
A young man, eager to have
a successful future, is advised to go to the local gardening store, and to
purchase all kinds of fruit tree seeds. Even though he may not see the
benefits of his investment immediately, over the years those handfuls of
seeds will produce many trees and a wonderful abundance of fruit for
consumption and sale. The young man eagerly purchases many different
kinds of seeds. Upon realizing how easy and cheap they were to buy, and how
the profits to be reaped are highly disproportional to the investment of
time and physical effort, the young man was not as careful as he should have
been. He lost some seeds here, threw some seeds at some birds there,
planted some seeds too close to each other, and then did not properly take
care of the trees that did eventually begin to grow.
The easy, almost “sure”
investment, was nearly squandered largely due to a lack of use of his
intelligence, a simple failure of adequate care and an almost surprising
degree of flippancy. True, a small part of his final relative failure
may have been due to bad weather, occasional illness and other factors, but
they were minor compared to his carelessness, inattention and perhaps even
negligence.
That is the Mashal.
The Nimshal cries out to us. Each one of us is given the incredible
opportunity to harness our unique and individual portion in Torah during our
lifetime. The little seedlings with which we begin--”Torah Tziva
Lanu Moshe”, “Shema Yisroel”, “Beraishis Bora”--must be wisely
planted and nurtured. Even when they grow into full-sized trees, they
must be properly watered, pruned and harvested.
Yet, many unfortunately do
not follow the road to personal success. A person drops seeds here,
needlessly throws away seeds there, and does not take care of the tree when
planted--by failing to keep his daily study commitment; not buying or
reading a new Torah book or Sefer even if it is of interest to him; not
joining a new shiur in Shul or watching a Shiur on www.torahanytime.com
when he has some time at his computer and not progressing (or feeling
advancement) on a yearly basis in the Parashas HaShavua or in other topics
of Torah study. There are other examples--a five-minute chevrusa, a
telephone shiur (718-906-6400 is one example), Shmiras Halashon HaYomi,
etc. The possibilities are almost endless. So many of our
opportunities are free, and much of our learning can be done in a group
setting, which also makes it easier. We just have to be diligent, and
care.
We are at the threshold of
Shavuos, where we must evaluate and re-evaluate Torah’s place in our
life. Chazal (Chagiga 3A) actually provide one definition of a
“shoteh” (an insane person) as one who loses what is given to him.
We should not, c’v, place ourselves anywhere near that
category--squandering those seedlings which can be nurtured into such big
and beautiful fruit-bearing trees.
Rabbi Pincus actually
teaches that we should view every five or ten minutes as one seed.
That is literally how powerful and meaningful every short period of Torah
study can be. If one throws away a “seed” of his time, then he has
discarded not only the seed, but all of the neutrons, protons and electrons
within it, the entire
DNA
,
all of the life-filled potential bound within.
Just five minutes a day is
1,825 minutes a year. Over twenty years, this amounts to 36,500
minutes, which is more than 600 hours. According to the Vilna Gaon’s
calculation, as explained by the Chofetz Chaim (see Shenos Eliyahu to
P’eah 1:1), if one would have been learning during these five minutes
every day, he would have accumulated over 7 million mitzvos! We now
can appreciate how taking care of that seedling could produce such a
beautiful and glorious tree.
Let us make the commitment b’li
neder to especially and intentionally study just an additional five
minutes of Torah a day--just so that we show how much we care about that
seedling--no--that tree!
Special Note Three: We
continue with our Erev Shabbos--Halachos of Shabbos Series:
A. Tomorrow, Shabbos Kodesh,
is the Yom HaMeyuchas--the day upon which Hashem told Bnei Yisrael: “V’Heyisem
Li Segulah Mikol Ho Amim” (Shemos 19:5, and Rashi there)--You shall be
to Me the most beloved treasure of all peoples. What a great day--to
be declared the greatest treasure of all peoples by the Creator of
all! Accordingly, especially this Shabbos, we should try to perform at
least one Mitzvah with at least a little more preparation, Kavannah, and
zeal glowing--while knowing and showing that you are--literally--Hashem’s
prized possession!
Additional Note: Some
say that the second day of Sivan is known as the Yom HaMeyuchas because it
does not have its own Segulos, but rather because it views itself as having
a relationship with the day before (Rosh Chodesh) and the days after (the
Sheloshes Yemei Hagbalah). This is a tremendous level--looking to and
joining together with-- the maalos of others, and it is this that we
must emulate!
B. A typical Shabbos
greeting is ‘Shabbos Shalom’ or ‘Shabbat Shalom’. One thing we
must remember in this Shabbos before Shavuos is that Chazal (Brachos
64A) teach that Talmidei Chachomim increase peace in the world. One
way we can certainly accomplish this is through the “Deracheha Darchei
Noam” of the Torah--doing Mitzvos and speaking in a pleasant
manner. We recall that, especially when learning--”Divrei
Chachomim BeNachas Nishma’ain--wise people communicate
pleasantly”. This Shabbos, a time of peace, is a time when we should
refresh the way we learn and ‘talk in learning’ all the
time--pleasantly, with Derech Eretz, and with Ne’imus.
Remember--when you speak with nachas--you bring nachas to all around
you--and you most certainly give the ultimate ‘nachas’ --to Hashem!
Hakhel Note: Rebbi Menachem
Mendel of Vorki, Z’tl asked if Shabbos HaGadol is the Shabbos before
Pesach and Shabbos Shuvah is the Shabbos before Yom Kippur, what is the
Shabbos before Shavuos known as? His famous answer is that it is Shabbos
Derech Eretz--a Shabbos in which one works on his Middos--because Derech
Eretz is Kadma L Torah!
C. A reader asked whether
one keeping the second half of Sefirah could take a haircut today--Erev
Shabbos--LeKavod Shabbos, rather than waiting for the Sheloshes Yemei
Hagbalah on Sunday. We asked a Posek this question and he responded that
this would not be permissible.
D. HaRav Yechiel Michal
Stern, Shlita, Posek in Ezras Torah, makes the following interesting point
in his Sefer on Hilchos Shabbos: For those who are concerned with
opening the refrigerator on Shabbos when the refrigerator motor is off for
fear that the warm air from the room will cause the motor to start, one
should certainly not put warm food (such as meat or cholent) back into the
refrigerator on Shabbos--for this is even more likely to cause the motor to
start!
E. In this week’s Divrei
Siach, Rabbi Goldshtoff, Shlita, points out that HaRav Chaim Kanievsky,
Shlita, very much urges one to make Melaveh Malka on pas, or bread.
Indeed, HaRav Kanievsky rules that if one has a choice between making
Melaveh Malka over Mezonos right after Havdalah (which is the most
preferable time for Melaveh Malka--directly demonstrating one’s Kavod
Shabbos)--or delaying Melaveh Malka in order to eat bread, one should delay
Melaveh Malka and eat bread. Additionally, if one has a choice of eating
Mezonos as Melaveh Malka before Chatzos or eating bread after Chatzos--it is
better to wait until after Chatzos and eat bread!
Special Note Four: The Divrei
Siach also provides the following fascinating pesokim of HaRav Kanievsky
regarding Simchas Yom Tov for one’s wife:
1. Although one commonly
would buy new clothing for his wife for Yom Tov, he can also fulfill the
Mitzvah of Simchas Yom Tov for his wife if he buys something new for the
house which brings her joy.
2. Although a wife can be mocheles
her husband’s buying her a gift for Simchas Yom Tov, the husband should
nevertheless at least buy something.
3. It is better for the
husband to buy a gift--then for him to give his wife money for her to buy
something for herself.
4. If a husband does not
have money to buy his wife a new article of clothing, he should borrow money
in order to do so.
5. If one fixes a broken
article of her jewelry so that it could be used on Yom Tov, it is possible
that one can be considered to have fulfilled the Mitzvah of Simchas Yom Tov
for his wife.
6. If one did not purchase
something for his wife before Yom Tov, then there is no ‘tashlumin’--he
does not have seven days after Yom Tov to make it up!
Special Note Five: We
provide the following points and pointers on this week’s Parasha, Parashas
Naso:
A. Rebbi Tzadok
HaKohen asks a simple but perplexing question. Why is it that in the
Torah She’Bichsav, in the written Torah, the Parasha of Sotah is placed
before the Parasha of Nazir, but that in the Torah She’b’al Peh,
Mesechta Nazir precedes Mesectha Sotah--why the juxtaposition? He
beautifully answers that the written Torah teaches us that we must realize
that the events that we witness or experience have occurred in front of (or
to) us because of Hashgacha Pratis--with Hashem especially placing
them there for us to learn from--because we simply need the lesson. If
someone sees the sad and difficult Sotah procedure--it will leave a real
impact upon him, and he will learn to better quash and regulate his own
desires going forward. The Torah She’b’al Peh, however,
which places the Nazir ahead of the Sotah teaches us that while indeed we
must learn from the events around us--it is truly better to be in control
before the event even happens--be a Nazir, so that you don’t have to get
to the step in which Hashem must show you the Sotah to learn from. In
fact, this is what Chazal often look to accomplish with their Gezairos and
Takanos--avoiding the temptation and keeping that extra step away from the
Yetzer Hara’s stretching grasp. Of course, it is our sacred duty to
learn from our experiences, because it demonstrates our Bitachon in
Hashem’s watchful eye and guiding hand --but it would be better yet if we
taught ourselves the personal lessons we need to be successful in our own
lives. As Hillel teaches in Avos (
1:14
)--”If
I am not for myself--who is for me?!” before taking that extra
helping at the smorgasbord, before engaging in an extra indulgence or
purchasing that item that you “really don’t need”--remember that
Chazal recommend that you put yourself first--the Nazir staying one step
ahead of the Sotah!
B. Chazal teach that
if a person undertakes to be a Nazir and does not provide a time frame for
his nezirus--then “Stam Nezirus, Sheloshim Yom--a standard Nezirus
is 30 days”. After spending much effort in contemplating the source
of this Halacha, Chazal conclude that the source is the term ‘ Kodosh
Yiheye--he shall be holy’ (Bamidbar 6:5)--in which the gematria of ‘Yiheye--he
shall be’ is 30. How long ‘shall he be’ a Nazir unless he
specifies otherwise--30 days. The Chofetz Chaim points to how precious
one word of Torah is--the mere numerical value of a word comprised of only
four letters teaches us the laws of Nazir for all of time! We must
accordingly take and treat each and every word of Torah with the utmost
consideration and regard--each and every word is a spiritual atom from which
great kedusha can be infused and processed into our lives and being.
Look at a single word of Torah--think about it and contemplate it--there is
absolutely nothing that can compare!
C. There is a
wonderful lesson learned from the fact that Birkas Kohanim was first recited
in the desert --before Aharon and his sons received Terumos, Bikkurim and
the like as the Matanos Kehuna. If they would have already been
receiving these gifts, then in blessing the people they would also be
blessing themselves--for when the people had more bounty, so would
they. This is not the optimum way of giving a bracha--blessing someone
else with one’s own interests in mind as well. Rather, the Torah
teaches--when giving a bracha give it with a full and selfless
heart--focusing exclusively and entirely on what is best for the recipient
of the bracha, and not regarding for the moment how you could ‘also’
benefit from the very same blessing. Be effusive in your bracha--but
also make sure to make it wholesome, untainted and pure!
Some additional points on
Birkas Kohanim:
A.
As for Ashkenazim in Chutz LaAretz, until the Moshiach comes, Shavuos is the
last time Birchas Kohanim is recited in 5774. We wish to remind our
readers that the Bi’ur Halacha (Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim: 128,
Introduction) brings from the Sefer Chareidim that just as the Kohanim
fulfill a Mitzvas Aseh when they bless K’lal Yisroel, so, too, do the Bnei
Yisroel have a part of the Mitzvah when they stand in silence and have
Kavannah to receive the Bracha from the Kohanim!
B.
The Mishna in Sotah (37B) provides a list of differences between the Birkas
Kohanim as we know it today and the Birkas Kohanim in its pristine form in
the Bais Hamikdash:
1. Outside of
the Mikdash, they are three separate Brachos--whereas in the Bayis it is one
uninterrupted bracha.
2. Outside of
the Mikdash, the Shem Hashem is pronounced in the same manner as when we
make all other brachos, whereas in the Mikdash the Ineffable Shem is used.
3. Outside of
the Mikdash, Kohanim lift their hands to shoulder height, whereas in the
Mikdash the hands are raised above their heads with the Shechinah above
their fingers.
Thus, even what we
can do now will simply be performed on a more sublime and supernal level
when the Bais Hamikdash returns. We have much to look forward to!
C. In his commentary on
Birkas Kohanim in the Parasha, the Rashbam emphasizes that it is not the
Kohanim who are giving the bracha--but it is Hashem Himself, with the
Kohanim simply requesting that Hashem do so. Accordingly, a Rav reported
that the Skulener Rebbe, Shlita, told him that when giving a bracha, one
should not merely state the passive: “You should be blessed”, but rather
“Hashem should bless you” or “Hashem should give you…”
D. The first word of Birkas
Kohanim is Yevarechecha, which Rashi (quoting the Midrash) explains
as referring to monetary blessing. As a primary matter, we must remember the
Source of even all of our physical and worldly blessings. This very same
bracha ends with VeYishmirecha--it is one thing to have a bracha--it
is another thing to have it safeguarded and preserved. We must remember that
this too comes from Hashem--and only from Hashem!
E. Finally, Rashi
emphasizes that the word Emor--tell the Kohanim to give the bracha is
spelled maleih--with a vav. This teaches that the bracha
should not be given quickly and in haste--but B’Kavannah U’V’Lev
Shaleim--with feeling and a complete heart. Oh, how we should remember
these words when we give a bracha!
Special Note Six: One
final point on the Parasha. In carefully following the Kriyas HaTorah,
one may have recognized that the Nasi of Shevet Gad was Elyasaf ben Deu’el
(Bamidbar
7:42
). Elsewhere, the Torah refers to his
father’s name not as Deu’el, but as Reu’el (Bamidbar
2:14
)--with the Raish and Daleth being interchanged. If one follows this
Raish-Daleth interchange elsewhere--then what word would one discover within
the word Torah? Todah—Thanks--for ultimately the Torah teaches us
the great Thanks we owe to Hashem for each and every moment of opportunity
in our lives--and for the Torah itself which guides us through each and
every step of the way!
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29 Iyar
STEAK SAUCE: If one reads the ingredient panel on ‘A-1’
Steak Sauce, he will find that one of the ingredients is ‘raisin paste’.
If one is careful not to eat raisins because of potential tolaim
issues--he should consult with his Rav or Posek regarding the advisability
of personally using this product. Who would have thought that a steak sauce
would have raisin paste? A consumer must read the ingredient panel not only
for brachos purposes, or for health reasons--but simply to learn what is in
the product!
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CHOOSE THE BRACHOS OPTION: One has two ways to leave Shul in the morning, to
leave the office at night, or to leave any public place or gathering. He can
do so in a discreet fashion--avoiding others entirely, or he can instead
take another turn and say: “Good morning!”; “Have a great day!”;
“Enjoy your evening!”; “Get home safely!”…. In all likelihood, in
addition to being the benefactor of brachos to another--he will also receive
meaningful brachos from the person whom he had blessed. Indeed, the bracha
received will be especially powerful because it is not a passing bracha--but
a bracha expressed out of appreciation. While there may be circumstances in
which one does not have the time or ability to do so--one should seriously
consider the daily opportunities he has…for the Brachos Option!
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NO GRIME: Picture moving new, beautiful furniture into a room
that has been filled with mud and debris. The Chofetz Chaim utilizes this
analogy to explain how detrimental it is for a person to speak negative
words about others--and then proceed to go to learn, or go to daven. One has
the opportunity to put brand new furniture into a mansion--but instead puts
it into a filthy hovel. If one would never, ever treat his furniture in this
way--he most certainly should not do so to his very own being. Hakhel Note:
We were advised by someone of an important episode: He was a guest in a
small community. He approached the Rav after davening on Friday night, and
wanted to act warmly to him. He told the Rav that he would like to tell him
an amusing story about a famous Rav in
America
. He then proceeded to pre-advise the Rav not to
worry--as there was no Lashon Hara in the story. The Rav said--”Sorry, I
would not like to hear it.” The guest attempted again--insisting that
there would be no Lashon Hara in the story. The Rav, however, once again
declined--insisting that he did not want to hear it. On the way home from
Shul, the guest thought over the story in his mind--and realized that there
actually was a possibility of Avak Lashon Hara in the story, and now
understood how wonderfully careful the Rav had been. After all, the Rav had
no idea whom his guest was and how well he actually knew the laws of
Shemiras HaLashon--whether or not he thought he did. Accordingly, there was
no room for compromise, no room for falling prey to words of mud and debris.
A lesson in Shemiras HaLashon--a lesson for life!
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Special Note
One: Today is the Yom Kippur Koton for Rosh Chodesh Sivan. The Shelah
HaKadosh composed a Tefillah to be recited by parents for their
children—especially on Erev Rosh Chodesh Sivan. Of course, the Tefillah
can be recited any time as well. We would like to thank Artscroll for
providing the Tefillah of the Shelah HaKadosh to us in Hebrew and English by
clicking here For those familiar with
the Hebrew, a slightly longer version of the Tefillah is available
by clicking here.
Special Note
Two: As we are only six days away from the date of Kabbalas HaTorah,
everyone should be taking strides in preparation for the Great Event.
May we propose the following thoughts for your contemplation…and action,
all of which will be bli neder:
A.
Undertaking to learn Chumash with Rashi on the Parasha.
B.
Attempting to memorize a Mishna a day, six days a week, with Chazara on
Shabbos. Over the course of a year (i.e., a year from today) you will
know 300 Mishnayos by heart! Imagine how much Torah study you can gain
by reviewing the Mishnayos you have committed to memory, at events, in
situations, and in places where you do not have a Sefer, do not have light,
are walking by yourself (whether or not you have a cell phone!)--and to
those who know you, think of how inspirational it will be to them as well!
If you are a woman, or if you are a man to whom the task appears too
difficult at this time, may we suggest as an alternative, paying someone to
learn all of Mishnayos in your Zechus. We believe that you may have
several options here. One is Chevrah Lomdei Mishnah, which can be
contacted at www.chevrahlomdeimishnah.org.
Another is Keren Ner Tomid of Yerushalayim which performs this special
service (learning Shisha Sidrei Mishna as a Zechus for you (or for a
relative or loved one)) for $600.00, and which may be paid in installments.
To contact Keren Ner Tomid by email: rabbikrohn@kerennertomid.org
. We believe that in addition to the merit of Torah study in this
instance, one also merits the support of Torah study--which is an
additional method of coming closer to Torah!
C. As
we have emphasized in the
past, committing to show greater respect to Rabbanim and Talmidei Chachomim
by standing up when they are in your proximity; similarly, trying to
reshelve Seforim that may be strewn about in Shul, even if you were not
responsible for their state. At home, we once again remind everyone to
make sure that Siddurim and Bentschers/Zemiros books are properly treated
and placed in their proper position; and if any Sefer page or binding is
ripped, or torn, to promptly repair them with tape that you have handy.
It is interesting to note that the Hebrew word for honor, “kavod”,
is also used as a synonym for the Neshama--soul, as Dovid HaMelech pleads in
Tehillim: “Lem’aan yezamercha kavod...”--so that my soul
praises You. Yet, the gematria of kavod is 32, which corresponds to
“Lev”--the heart, symbolizing feeling. Thus, the term kavod
uniquely combines both Neshama, symbolizing our superior intellect, and Lev,
demonstrating our unique humane feeling. When we properly show kavod,
we unite our powerful intellect and unparalleled feeling, to display true
respect, whether due or earned.
Hakhel Note: When you walk into a Shul or Bais Midrash and
notice that there are one or more Siddurim or Chumashim or other
Seforim which are on tables and not put back in their place--should you take
the time to find their place and re-shelve them--or are you taking away the
Gabbai’s job-- for it is his duty and his zechus. A Rosh Yeshiva
answered as follows: “The Steipeler says that if one leaves Seforim
out when he can put them back, then he is demonstrating a measure of achzarius-cruelty.
One should not leave it all to the Gabbai (especially if the Gabbai is a
Talmid Chochom himself) --and if one does so he violates the Torah commands
of “Lo Sirda Bo Beforech--do not subject someone to hard labor”
Vayikrah 25,43) and he also violates the vital mitzvah of “Veahavta
LeRayacha Kamocha--loving your fellow man as yourself.”
Moreover, one who leaves Seforim on the table could cause Bitul Torah for
another who cannot find the Sefer (or even the kind of Siddur) that he is
looking for. Finally, there is an element of bizayon to
the Seforim--especially if they are dispersed here and there in a
disorganized fashion.
Many of us were trained as
children that when a Sefer falls, you pick it up and kiss it. What if
two Seforim fall? The Bais Lechem Yehuda, one of the classic
meforshim found in the Shulchan Aruch itself (ibid.) writes that both
Seforim should be picked up as quickly as possible--and then kissed
together.
Some common examples where
we can show Kavod HaTorah, which we have mentioned in the past and which
require our renewal and rededication before Shavuos, are:
·
Not permitting children’s books with Torah content to be placed, or
remain, on the floor
·
Not tossing Seforim (Hebrew or English) even from short distances or onto
the table
·
Not placing Seforim on your lap or sitting on the same level that Seforim
are placed
·
Not holding a Sefer below your waist, or letting it bang against your leg
·
Not keeping Seforim unlocked in your car, as they are truly your honored
treasure, or on the car seat where someone will sit down near or upon them
·
Kissing a Sefer before and after use (and perhaps even during use--if you
learn something from it that really excites you--as we had previously
pointed out--according to HaRav Pam, Z’tl, one should also try to learn
from the Sefer that he had dropped showing true kavod for it!)
·
Taking a Sefer with you when traveling--as Rav Quinn, Z’tl, was known to
always remark “You’re always safer with a Sefer!”
The above is
only a brief and summary listing of improvements in Torah, but is certainly
a start for any of us to get moving with. We more than welcome your
suggestions.
Special Note Three:
Dovid HaMelech teaches us in Tehillim (119:59): “Chishavti Derachai…”--I
had many things to do, when I was unsure what to do I would go to the Beis
Midrash and study. (Translation based upon the Alter of Novordak).
When we are unsure what to do, Dovid HaMelech teaches us, we turn to
Torah--we allow the physical to be guided by the spiritual and not vice
versa.
We are probably all
familiar with the story told by Rabbi Berel Wein, Shlita, about his
predecessor at the OU, Rabbi Alexander Rosenberg. The story goes
something like this: “I remember how Rabbi Rosenberg would just sit
there and silently listen to the latest proposals which a salesman claimed
would enhance Rabbi Rosenberg and the stature of the OU, in addition to
being a great boon to civilization. Rabbi Rosenberg patiently waited
for the salesman to make his spiel and then just peered at him with those
hooded blue eyes. Then he pounced, falcon-like and asked just one
question that was comprised of but four words--’Und Vos Zugt Gott?
(and what does G-d say?) Would you tell the
IRS
such a story?’”
Throughout the day we must
make decisions, some more difficult, and some less problematic. In all
instances if we reflect for a moment, and pull ourselves into our Bais
HaMidrash before we make the decision--before we decide what to do or which
way to turn, we will be looking at what G-d has to say, and will be
following the path of Royalty--of David HaMelech…and ultimately of
Moshiach!!
Special Note Four: We
continue an exciting Monday/Thursday series on the practical aspects of
Sta”m, written by Rabbi Reuvain Mendlowitz, Shlita, author of Inside
Sta”m--An Insider Reveals The Answers To All The Questions You
Should Ask When Purchasing Or Maintaining Tefillin, Mezuzos, Megillos,
Sifrei Torah And Nevi’im.
For a fuller treatment of
all topics to be discussed, we urge you to purchase the Sefer, which
provides practical and meaningful information and ideas.
PART XLVI
We
continue our discussion of hiddurim in Sta”m
Mikveh
A
number of sources mention the concept of a sofer immersing in the mikveh
before writing a STA”M item or a Shem HaShem within one.
While
different communities follow different customs in this regard, it would be a
hiddur for the sofer to immerse in a mikveh at least
when impure so as to write only in a purified state.
The
“Avnei Nezer”
Halachah
dictates that tefillin and mezuzos must be written k’sidran
(in sequence). For instance, when writing the word Shema (the first
word in a mezuzah), the sofer must first write the shin, and
only then may he proceed to write the mem, and only after completing
the mem may he proceed to write the ayin, and so on until the
end of the mezuzah. Tefillin (or a mezuzah) written shelo k’sidran
(out of sequence) are pasul. (Sifrei Torah, Nevi’im,
and megillos have no such requirement.)
Often,
a sofer finds it helpful to write parts of later letters
first. This is called chatzi os shelo k’sidran (half a letter out
of sequence). There is a dispute among the Acharonim as to whether or
not this practice is permitted when writing tefillin and mezuzos. The Avnei
Nezer (R’ Avraham of Sochatchov, 1838–1910)
maintains that this would render the tefillin (or mezuzah) pasul.
Contemporary
poskim are of the opinion that l’chatchilah one should not
rely on the lenient opinions when writing or selling what is supposed to be
a mehudar product.
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28 Iyar
Special Note One: Today is
the Yahrzeit of Shmuel Hanavi. Dovid Hamelech wrote about Shmuel Hanavi as
follows: “Moshe V’Aaron BeChohanav U’Shmuel B’Korei Shemo (Tehillim
99:6)… Moshe and Aaron are among His leaders, and Shmuel is among those
who call out His name—they called out to Hashem and He answered them.”
We see from here that Shmuel was contrasted to Moshe and Aaron together-
-with Shmuel being answered by Hashem in the same manner as Moshe and Aharon!
There is a great lesson here. Shmuel Hanavi teaches us how a person can
raise himself up to new heights-- and be literally included together with
others of great stature in the service of Hashem. What an inspiration this
should serve for us all. Think of your Rav, Posek, or Rosh Yeshiva, and
truly endeavor to reach his middah or madreiga—at least in
some way!
Special Note Two: In
one week from today, we will celebrate Matan Torah with Shavuos. Much
in the same way as we get closer and closer to Yom Kippur do we feel a need
to do Teshuva, or as we get closer and closer to Pesach do we feel a need to
rid ourselves of our Chometz, so too, should we demonstrate our recognition
of the advent and approach of Matan Torah. One should not take lightly
the need to ready himself for receiving the Torah. Indeed, Chazal (Pesikta
D’Rav Cahana, Piska 12) teach:
“HaKadosh Baruch Hu said
to Klal Yisrael--when you read this Parasha [of Ma’amad Har Sinai] to Me
every year, I will consider it as if you were standing before Me on Har
Sinai and receiving the Torah.”
So, we must do
something--setting up a Chavrusah for Shavuos night, should not satisfy us.
Just as B’nei Yisroel were conscious that they were traveling directly
from Mitzrayim to Har Sinai, and that they required several days of further
preparation upon their arrival at Har Sinai, so, too, must we begin to sense
the need to draw near and experience and inspire ourselves with Torah anew.
One easy method to
accomplish this is to simply take the time out in the week before Shavuos to
learn an extra ten to fifteen minutes a day. If one were told that he
was going to be receiving a special royal treasure as a gift in one week, he
would most certainly begin to demonstrate a newfound special love and care,
a unique concern and appreciation--and a desire to learn more about it!
A second, more difficult,
but likewise more rewarding and lasting, manner of demonstrating awareness
of the time period that we are now in, is a point we have touched on in the
past--properly fulfilling what Chazal describe as one of our important
purposes in life--setting aside time for Torah study (Shabbos 31A).
Indeed, every night in Maariv we recite “Ki Heym Chayeinu--for they
are our life”… Likewise, Shlomo HaMelech (the wisest of all men)
writes in Mishlei (
3:18
) “Eitz Chaim He…”--it is the Tree of
Life for those who grab hold of it. So, just as one may need, on a
daily basis, to imbibe oxygen, to take a particular treatment, to ingest a
particular medication, in order to remain alive, we, too, must be sure--very
sure--that we, too, are dutifully taking our daily dosage of Torah study, as
well. There are several important points made by the Mishna Berurah (Shulchan
Aruch, Orach Chaim 155) relating to Kevius Itim--designating those
special times during the day. Let us remind ourselves of the Mishna
Berurah’s recommendations:
1. One should set
aside time for Torah Study immediately after davening in the morning and the
in the evening so that he is not sidetracked (or hoodwinked) by the Yetzer
Hara and his emissaries;
2. One must be sure
that in addition to any daily study of Tanach/Mishna/Gemara, to study
Sefarim of Halacha. In fact, if one does not learn several hours a
day, it is proper for one’s “Ikar Limud”--primary
study--to be in Halacha L’Ma’aseh, in a way that he will understand and
practically apply his studies;
3. If something happened
which prevented one from his regular designated time of study, he should
make it up as soon as possible, but the latest before going to sleep.
Even if one cannot study at all, because of some event beyond his control,
he should not depart from his place after davening until he has at least
learned one Pasuk or one Halacha;
4. It is recommended
that the set time for Torah study, if at all possible, be in a particular,
designated place, and that the place should preferably be in Shul;
5. If one learns as
part of a group of people, it brings greater Kavod Shamayim (Bi’ur Halacha
there); and
6. The Mechaber (Shulchan
Aruch, Orach Chaim 238) writes that one should be even more careful with
this set time for Torah study at night than by day (see Mishna Berurah there
for a detailed explanation).
Let us take the time out to
rededicate and reinvigorate ourselves with our Tree of Life, as we properly
utilize this wonderful preparatory period for our very own, our very
personal, Kabbalas HaTorah!
Special Note Three:
We are all familiar with the Chazal that teaches: “If the Yetzer Hara
attempts to take hold of you, pull him into the Beis HaMidrash” (Kiddushin
30B). This tactic should not necessarily be viewed as some form of
circumvention or defensive maneuver. Rather, the Maharal (Tiferes
Yisroel, Chapter 25) explains, your action is a positive and productive
one--for you are drawing your body and Yetzer Hara towards their purpose and
mission in life--to be sanctified.
This is why, explains the
Sefer Sifsei Chaim (Moadim 3, p. 76), the karbon brought on Shavuos,
was uniquely made of chometz (representing gashmius), and also the reason
that all agree that on Shavuos we are required to celebrate with “Lochem”--we
are enjoined to rejoice with food and drink, and are forbidden to fast (Pesachim
68B). Shavuos, then, is a holiday which requires no other or
additional symbols or Mitzvos, for it is the Yom Tov of the person
himself--the soul and body united in holiness!
With this realization, we
can likewise understand why Shavuos (unlike Pesach and Sukkos) is only one
day--for it unites the neshama and the guf, and as such, nothing further is
necessary. We can likewise better understand why Megilas Rus is so
essential to Shavuos. When Elimelech and his family leave Eretz
Yisrael (i.e., their Ruchniyus) in order to protect their wealth, and in
search of their physical needs in a foreign land, they failed in a horrible
way. However, when Naomi and Rus (a scion of Moav royalty) bring their
bodies “back to the Beis HaMidrash”--to Eretz Yisrael, to once again
subjugate the physical to the spiritual, they are incredibly successful.
Their road back leads to the Malchus of Beis Dovid--and to the ultimate
achievement of Moshiach!
We each have the power
within us to fulfill our purpose in this world. Sometimes, it may
appear that all fingers point in the direction of Moav. We must
realize that it is to the Torah--its study and performance--that we must
constantly turn to in order to be steered in the right direction—not only
for the soul’s good, but for the body’s good, as well!
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presents a broad spectrum of the wonderful Halacha and Hashkafa Shiurim of
Rabbi Yosef Viener, Shlita, which are available for free download.
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FROM GUARD YOUR TONGUE: “When it is permissible to relate information,
you should do so even if you have not been asked.”
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THINK NOTEBOOK: As we B’EH race towards Moshiach’s time, all
events in Olam Hazeh seem to move along at a extremely rapid pace as well.
As a result, some of our important thoughts may get lost in the hustle and
bustle of everyday life. May we suggest that when a constructive point or
nuance enters one’s mind, whether it relates to Torah study, one’s
middos, or a particular goal to accomplish or correction to be made--rather
than rely on hopefully thinking of it again or implementing it in the
future--one instead promptly write it down so that one takes the fleeting
thought or observation--and makes it a part of his reality that he can look
to, and look back to. In this way, the Yetzer HaTov can take a foot
hold--and not be so easily driven off now, or in the future!
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Special Note One: At
yesterday’s Yarchei Kallah, Rabbi Yisroel Reisman, Shlita, gave a
remarkable Shiur on the striking similarities between the events in which
Nechemia came back to rebuild our homeland in Eretz Yisrael--the first
return, and our very times which will hopefully be the last return. Rabbi
Reisman brought from the Sefer HaKuzari the teaching that the fact
that Bnei Yisrael did not return in significant numbers then made the Bayis
Sheini impermanent. The minimum lesson: When we recite V’Lirushalayim
Irecha B’Rachamim Tashuv--it should not be as the ‘chirping of a
bird’. He urged everyone to pay greater attention to Eretz Yisrael--not
just worrying about its external enemies and political threats--but of all
the good that is flowing from it, and how we could connect with our brothers
in a positive way. Our own personal ga’aguim must also focus
towards Yerushalayim--for a person performs best when he is at home! We
highly recommend those who were not present to obtain a CD of the Shiur (718-252-5274).
Hakhel Note: Rabbi Reisman
importantly noted that this Tisha B’Av will mark 100 years since the
beginning of World War I. He detailed how World War I was a turning point in
the return to Eretz Yisrael.
Special Note Two: Of the
many practical Bein Adam L’Chaveiro Halachos provided by Rabbi
Matis Blum, Shlita, yesterday, we provide several points Rabbi Blum made
relating to Gezel Sheina--stealing another’s sleep:
1. Although sleep is not a
tangible item, HaRav Chaim Kanievsky, Shlita, explains that being concerned
about another’s rest falls squarely under the Mitzvas Asei of V’Ahavta
L’Reiacha Kamocha.
2. Others view disturbing
another’s sleep as a violation of Lo Sonu Ish Es Amiso--which is a
Lo Sa’aseh.
3. Because taking away
another’s sleep does potentially involve violation of a Mitzvas Asei and
Lo Sa’aseh, we must be very sensitive to the sleep of others. Even
if one has a small doubt as to whether another is sleeping at a late
hour--he should not call him unless there is truly adequate reason to do so.
Rabbi Blum recalled how a person once called late at night and said to him:
“Oh, I am sorry--did I wake you?” Rabbi Blum responded: “It’s OK--I
had to get up anyway to answer the phone!”
4. Even one who lives in an
apartment building or in close proximity to others, should not rationalize
by claiming that if his neighbor lives in an apartments building as well,
that he is per se accepting upon himself disturbances from others.
One must certainly follow the laws of the municipality, the rules and
regulations of a building or complex, and of basic Derech Eretz such
as carpeting, soft shoes, not yelling and screaming, not playing music late
at night, etc.
5. Not disturbing
another’s sleep goes to the point where one should be careful not to set
an alarm clock even to do a Mitzvah if it will awake another. Indeed, one
should ask a Shailah if by having Negel Vasser next to his bed he
will wake up other family members when he is washing--whether he should
still do so. The Sefer Me’oros HeGedolim brings that Rebbi Yisroel
Salanter, Z’tl, told a student who wanted to arise early to learn
(ahead of other students), that he should stay in bed and think in
learning--rather than get up to learn and disturb the sleep of others!
Hakhel Note: Don’t assume that the person is mochel--ask a
shaila whenever necessary!
Special Note
Three: In keeping with our spirit of Talmud Torah enhancement in this
now short period before Shavuos, we provide final points and pointers from
HaRav Chaim Kanievsky, Shlita, relating to Talmud Torah (Derech Sicha):
PART
III
1. HaRav Chaim was
asked how long one could delay a Siyum on a Mesechta in order to wait for a
Simcha or other event? HaRav Chaim answered: “Kamah Yamim
VeLo Yoser--only a few days and not more.” However, if one left
over an entire Perek of the Mesechta until close to the Simcha, and
completed it within the few days before, he could then make the Siyum.
2. With respect to
the smaller Mesechtos: HaRav Chaim ruled that B’Sha’as HaDechak
one could make a Siyum on Mesechta Tamid for Tanis Bechorim on Erev Pesach.
HaRav Chaim was once seen learning Mesechta Kinim in several minutes and
then drank wine and said the Hadran. When he was asked why he had done
so--after all, would he make a Siyum on the Mishnayos of Mesechta Pe’ah as
well--he responded that Mesechta Kinnim is different because it is located
(and printed) between two Gemaros.
3. As is well known,
HaRav Chaim is of the opinion that if someone does not make a Siyum on the
Mishnayos of Seder Zeraim and Seder Taharos together with all the Mesechtos
of Gemara that he has studied, then it is not called a Siyum HaShas.
He explained that the reason HaRav Meir Schapiro, Z’tl, did not include
Zeraim and Taharos as part of Daf Yomi study, was because the printed
Gemaros at that time were not the same as to their presentation of the
Mishnayos of Zeraim and Taharos. Accordingly, one should learn a Mishna
every day--which would be irrespective of any Tzuras HaDaf--resulting in
learning at least 354 Mishnayos over a year, and over the approximately 7
and ½ year period of Daf Yomi--learning over 2,500 Mishnayos as well!
4. A student once saw Rav
Chaim making a Siyum on the four Chalakim of Shulchan Aruch, at which he
recited the Hadran that is recited at the end of a Mesechta. He
explained that the Shulchan Aruch is Halacha LeMa’aseh to the Torah
for us today, and is accordingly very worthy of a Siyum.
5. HaRav Chaim
explained that the reason we especially express a “Mazel Tov!” at a
Siyum--even though we usually do not say Mazel Tov to someone when he
performs another Mitzvah, is because by making a Siyum one performs a
special Mitzvah which he is not obligated in, and it is accordingly a Zeman
Mesugal for the bracha of Mazel Tov to be fulfilled. Moreover,
once, when HaRav Chaim made a Siyum on Mesechta Menachos, he drank some
wine. There was a man present who had come to ask for a bracha for
Shidduchim for his children. HaRav Chaim gave him some wine to drink,
advising him that to drink from a Seudas Mitzvah is also a Segulah.
6. HaRav Chaim
explains that when one is helping to support another in Torah study, the
zechusim he attains as a result cannot be greater than that of the person
who studied. This means that if Zevulun is supporting Yissocher, but
Yissocher does not have sufficient Yiras Shomayim or Middos Tovos, the lack
of which impede his Torah study, then Zevulun’s merits will be limited by
this as well. So too, the merits of a woman who sends her husband out
to Torah study are bound up in what her husband actually accomplishes.
If he ‘schmoozes’, or wastes time--he is doing so for the both of
them. On the other hand, of course, if he values his time--the
value will be ascribed to his wife as well! Note: HaRav
Chaim also adds that if the Yissocher does his job well, but the Zevulun is
lacking Yiras Shomayim and Middos Tovos, then he will be impeding the levels
he could have otherwise achieved in Olam Habba from the zechusim he would
have otherwise had.
7. HaRav Chaim
advised a well-to-do individual to spend more time learning. The g’vir
followed HaRav Chaim’s advice, and studied in the morning and went to
his business in the afternoon. He then realized that he had become
even more successful in his business affairs. When advised of this,
HaRav Chaim responded--”Of course, it is an express Chazal: ‘Kol
Me SheOsek BaTorah Nechasav Matzlichin--one who learns Torah will be
blessed monetarily!”
8. There was a
situation in which a Kollel’s budget was $90,000 per month, and the Kollel
had only $50,000. HaRav Chaim was asked whether one who would give the
$40,000 needed could be considered as if he gave the entire $90,000--for
without the $40,000, there would be no Kollel. HaRav Chaim responded
in the affirmative--and that one could rightfully apply the phrase:
“Ain HaMitzvah Nikreis Ela Al Sheim Gomra--a Mitzvah is regarded as
having been accomplished by the person who completed it.” HaRav
Chaim added that one could tell the $40,000 benefactor--”Yesh Koneh
Olamo B’Chodesh Echad…one can acquire his Chelek in Olam
Habah--because of one month!”
9. A person took upon
himself to learn LeIluyi Nishmas a Niftar, but forgot his name, would it be
sufficient for a person to learn and think that he is learning for the
“sake of the person who he committed to learn for?” HaRav Chaim
answered: “Klapai Shamayah Galyah--Hashem knows”, and that
is sufficient.
10. A reader conveyed
to us that he asked HaRav Chaim what he should learn. HaRav Chaim
answered: “Mah Shelibo Chafetz”--that which he felt a
particular affinity to. In fact, HaRav Chaim stated that while in
Yeshiva he learned another Mesechta, besides for the Mesechta the Yeshiva
was learning--as it was a Mesechta that he wanted to study at that time.
As we continuously progress from study-to-study--may all of Torah fall
within our personal Mah Shelibo Chafetz!
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26 Iyar
Special Note
One: In keeping with our spirit of Talmud Torah enhancement in this
now short period before Shavuos, we provide the additional points and
pointers from HaRav Chaim Kanievsky, Shlita, relating to Talmud Torah (as
excerpted from the Sefer Derech Sicha):
PART II
1. HaRav Chaim brings
from the Chazon Ish that even when one sits in his corner and studies
privately--and is not even known to others--the Torah study will
nevertheless have a real influence on the entire environment. Hakhel
Note: In the physical world there are sound waves, radio waves, and
the like--in the Torah world, there are, literally, Torah waves!
2. HaRav Chaim was
told about a Maggid Shiur who ran to Shul rather than take a bus in order
not to be late to give his Shiur, and was saved from a terrorist bomb on the
bus. He responded: “The zechus of Torah protected him, and
since he cannot bring a Korban Todah at this moment, he should learn Perek
HaTodah (Menachos Chapter 8), with Rashi and Tosfos!
3. HaRav Chaim was
asked that if a Malach learns with a fetus so that he will properly
understand Torah after he is born (Niddah 31A), how does a Ger study
Torah after he converts--after all he had no Malach learning with him?
He responded that it is enough that the Ger was at Ma’amad Har
Sinai, and it is possible that Geirim have their own special Siyata
DiShmaya in this area.
4. Dovid HaMelech
teaches in Tehillim (119:72): “Tov Li Toras Picha MeiAlphei Zahav
V’Chesef--Torah study is better to me than thousands in silver and
gold.” What is the Chidush in this Pasuk--how can one compare
ephemeral silver and gold to an everlasting word of Torah?! HaRav
Chaim answers that the silver and gold here refers to money used to purchase
Mitzvos--and even if through much money one can build many Yeshivos--it is
still better to sit and learn! HaRav Chaim adds that the Toras
Picha--the Torah from the mouth of Hashem refers to the fact that the
Torah that we are zoche to learn comes to us directly from Hashem’s
‘mouth’, as the Pasuk (see Niddah 70B) states “MiPiv Da’as
U’Sevunah--from His ‘mouth’ is knowledge and understanding.”
Think about it--Torah--directly from Hashem’s ‘mouth’--to yours!
5. Chazal (Yevamos
62B) teach that: “Lamad Torah Beyalduso, Yilmad BeZaknuso--one
who learns Torah when a child, should also learn when he is older.”
What is the Chiddush of this Pasuk--most certainly an older person knows
even more than a child how important it is to learn?! HaRav Chaim
explains that an older person may believe that he should continuously learn
new things as his time becomes more limited in this world, and not review
that which he has already learned. This is not so--as one must take
time to review what he has learned--even at the expense of learning areas of
Torah that he may not have yet achieved.
6. The Pasuk (Devarim
4:9) states: “VeHodatam Levanecha V’Livnei Vanecha--and you
should relate it [Ma’amad Har Sinai and the Torah] to your sons and your
son’s sons. HaRav Chaim explains that this Pasuk instructs us that
there is a separate Mitzvah on a grandfather to teach not only his son, but
his grandson as well. In fact, Chazal teach that, since this Pasuk
refers to Ma’amad Har Sinai, the Torah is teaching us that one who teaches
his grandson Torah is considered as if he received it at Har Sinai
(see Kiddushin 30A). Additional Note: HaRav Chaim adds that the
ikar Mitzvah of VeLimadetem Osam Es Beneichem, is for a father to
teach his son the Chamisha Chumshei Torah (see Rambam Hilchos Talmud
Torah 1:7). In fact, HaRav Chaim recalls how his father would study
with him once a week, even when HaRav Chaim was much older, for this very
reason. There is a different Mitzvah to learn Torah SheBe’al Peh
with a son which is based on the Pasuk VeShinantam Levanecha.
(Shulchan Aruch, Yoreh De’ah 245:6)
7. HaRav Chaim
advised that his father, the Steipeler, Z’tl, wanted him to prepare his
own Bar Mitzvah Drasha, but he could not do so to the point he wanted to--so
the Steipeler helped him with it, and the Steipeler eventually published it
as well, for it was the Steipeler’s Chiddush. There is hope for us
all!
8. HaRav Chaim brings
Rabbeinu Yonah to Avos (2:7), who teaches that Marbeh Torah Marbeh Chaim
(the more Torah one learns, the more life one has) is a Chiddush--because
one would think that the worries associated with study could c’v
shorten a person’s life--after all, one realizes that he does not know
this, he still has to learn that, he still does not understand this, he
cannot find someone to learn that with…. Nevertheless, we still have
the special bracha and havtacha here that the more Torah--the more life!
9. Chazal (Shavuos
15B) teach that one cannot heal himself with Divrei Torah. If that is
the case, why is it the custom of many to recite the ‘Pitum HaKetores’
in order to become wealthy? HaRav Chaim answers that, indeed, one’s
Kavannah should not be for the sake of wealth, but rather for the sake of
the Mitzvah--and in that zechus may he become wealthy. In any event,
by reciting the Pitum HaKetores--even if it is done expressly for the
sake of attaining wealth--it is not prohibited as a Lachash (as a
charm or incantation) which would otherwise be a bizayon HaTorah.
Rather, one essentially means that in the Zechus of reciting the Parashas
HaKetores, he will attain wealth.
10. What is the age
range of our Tinokos Shel Beis Rabban--the precious lot of children
who, Chazal teach, we cannot and will not stop from learning even to build
the Beis HaMikdash? HaRav Chaim responded that it would appear to be
between the ages of 5 (Ben Chameish LaMikrah) and 13. Hakhel
Note: May we soon be zoche to fulfill the words of Chazal--and not
stop the Tinokos Shel Beis Rabban from learning--as we build the Beis
HaMikdash speedily and in our day!
Special Note Two:
Today is the Yahrzeit of HaRav Moshe Chaim Luzzato, Z’tl (the Ramchal).
We recall that the first word of the Sefer Mesilas Yesharim is Yesod--and
his Yahrzeit falls out on Yesod SheB’Yesod. We provide below
several notes from HaRav Mattisyahu Salomon, Shlita (may he have a Refuah
Sheleima BeKarov) from his Sefer Matnas Chelko, which contain his
notes on the Sefer Mesilas Yesharim:
A. HaRav Zundel
Salanter, Z’tl, asked HaRav Chaim Volozhiner, Z’tl, what Sefer Mussar to
study. HaRav Chaim responded: “All of the Sifrei Mussar
are good to learn, but the Sefer Mesilas Yesharim should be your
guide.” HaRav Mattisyahu explains this to mean that one does
not only get aroused by the Mesilas Yesharim, but that one can use
this Sefer as a handbook to lead one’s life--in order to attain Ma’alos
in Avodas Hashem. In fact, HaRav Mattisyahu teaches, the Sefer is
uniquely appropriate for everyone to find his way in Hashem’s
service.
B. The G’ra, Z’tl,
would say that if the Ramchal had lived in his times, he would have traveled
50 mil (100, 000 amos!) to hear Mussar from him. HaRav
Mattisyahu teaches that this is not an exaggeration--and that with all of
the Hasmada and Hakpada on time that the G’ra had--this is what he
actually would have done! HaRav Shach, Z’tl, on commenting on the
statement of the G’ra, explained that we see from here how important the
study of Mussar really is.
C. The Mesilas
Yesharim is based upon the Braisa of Rebbi Pinchas Ben Ya’ir in
which he teaches that Torah leads to Zehirus, Zehirus leads to Zerizus,
Zerizus lead to Nekiyus…. There is a Chapter on each one of the
Middos mentioned in the Braisa--except for Torah. HaRav
Mattisyahu explains that the Ramchal does not begin with Torah, because
Torah is the beginning, the middle and the end--for each Madreigah that one
attains must be accompanied by Torah in order to grow in Avodas Hashem.
D. The Mesilas
Yesharim begins with the phrase: “Yesod HaChassidus--the
foundation of Chassidus. What is Chassidus? HaRav Mattisyahu
teaches that at the root of Chassidus is the teaching of Chazal: “Ashrei
Adam She’amalo BaTorah VeOseh Nachas Ruach LeYotzro--a Chassid is one
who toils in Torah and gives Nachas Ruach to Hashem.” Just as
true Nachas to a parent is when his child does more than what is otherwise
expected--so too, our Nachas to Hashem is to go beyond our ‘technical
requirements’, and to demonstrate by our deeds our desire to give Him
Nachas. In this regard every person is different-- for every person
has his own Olam, his own world in which he relates to Hashem based upon his
own facts, his own situations and his own circumstances. Hakhel Note:
Each person gives his own personal Nachas to Hashem--in his very own
way!
E. Just as a
businessman has a plan on how he intends to become wealthy, so too, should
one have a ‘plan’ as to how he is going to advance in Ruchniyus. A
person who intends to learn Shas will show greater determination and
dedication than someone without this goal. Likewise, a person with a
drive towards the ultimate goal of Ruach HaKodesh (the highest level we can
reach before Techiyas HaMeisim), will have a greater success than the person
who takes matters as they come along.
F. An uninformed
person may think: What purpose is there to this world, in which he has
finite years of life, and during which time he may be beset with various and
sundry difficulties? What does he have to thank Hashem for--should a
person love a king because he puts him into a beautiful jail? We know
better-- we know that there is an Olam Haba, which is the true and
everlasting world. Based upon this, we can appreciate that Hashem has
taken this temporary world and has made it as comfortable for us as He deems
and knows to be within our best interests. Picture one who is
traveling to his son’s wedding--and needs to run at full speed in order to
catch the train, and then has to stand for hours sandwiched between people
on the train--does he not realize that his destination is the great Simcha,
which will put everything in its proper perspective? We thus owe
Hakaras HaTov to Hashem for making our ‘ride’ in Olam Hazeh as doable as
He can for us--in order to get to the final destination of Eternity!
Special Note Three:
Today is the Yahrzeit of HaRav Moshe Chaim Luzzato, Z’tl (the Ramchal).
We recall that the first word of the Sefer Mesilas Yesharim is Yesod--and
his Yahrzeit falls out on Yesod SheB’Yesod. We provide below
several notes from HaRav Mattisyahu Salomon, Shlita (may he have a Refuah
Sheleima BeKarov) from his Sefer Matnas Chelko, which contain his
notes on the Sefer Mesilas Yesharim:
A. HaRav Zundel
Salanter, Z’tl, asked HaRav Chaim Volozhiner, Z’tl, what Sefer Mussar to
study. HaRav Chaim responded: “All of the Sifrei Mussar
are good to learn, but the Sefer Mesilas Yesharim should be your
guide.” HaRav Mattisyahu explains this to mean that one does
not only get aroused by the Mesilas Yesharim, but that one can use
this Sefer as a handbook to lead one’s life--in order to attain Ma’alos
in Avodas Hashem. In fact, HaRav Mattisyahu teaches, the Sefer is
uniquely appropriate for everyone to find his way in Hashem’s
service.
B. The G’ra, Z’tl,
would say that if the Ramchal had lived in his times, he would have traveled
50 mil (100, 000 amos!) to hear Mussar from him. HaRav
Mattisyahu teaches that this is not an exaggeration--and that with all of
the Hasmada and Hakpada on time that the G’ra had--this is what he
actually would have done! HaRav Shach, Z’tl, on commenting on the
statement of the G’ra, explained that we see from here how important the
study of Mussar really is.
C. The Mesilas
Yesharim is based upon the Braisa of Rebbi Pinchas Ben Ya’ir in
which he teaches that Torah leads to Zehirus, Zehirus leads to Zerizus,
Zerizus lead to Nekiyus…. There is a Chapter on each one of the
Middos mentioned in the Braisa--except for Torah. HaRav
Mattisyahu explains that the Ramchal does not begin with Torah, because
Torah is the beginning, the middle and the end--for each Madreigah that one
attains must be accompanied by Torah in order to grow in Avodas Hashem.
D. The Mesilas
Yesharim begins with the phrase: “Yesod HaChassidus--the
foundation of Chassidus. What is Chassidus? HaRav Mattisyahu
teaches that at the root of Chassidus is the teaching of Chazal: “Ashrei
Adam She’amalo BaTorah VeOseh Nachas Ruach LeYotzro--a Chassid is one
who toils in Torah and gives Nachas Ruach to Hashem. Just as true
Nachas to a parent is when his child does more than what is otherwise
expected--so too, our Nachas to Hashem is to go beyond our ‘technical
requirements’, and to demonstrate by our deeds our desire to give Him
Nachas. In this regard every person is different-- for every person
has his own Olam, his own world in which he relates to Hashem based upon his
own facts, his own situations and his own circumstances. Hakhel Note:
Each person gives his own personal Nachas to Hashem--in his very own
way!
E. Just as a
businessman has a plan on how he intends to become wealthy, so too, should
one have a ‘plan’ as to how he is going to advance in Ruchniyus. A
person who intends to learn Shas will show greater determination and
dedication than someone without this goal. Likewise, a person with a
drive towards the ultimate goal of Ruach HaKodesh (the highest level we can
reach before Techiyas HaMeisim), will have a greater success than the person
who takes matters as they come along.
F. An uninformed
person may think: What purpose is there to this world, in which he has
finite years of life, and during which time he may be beset with various and
sundry difficulties? What does he have to thank Hashem for--should a
person love a king because he puts him into a beautiful jail? We know
better-- we know that there is a Olam Haba, which is the true and
everlasting world. Based upon this, we can appreciate that Hashem has
taken this temporary world and has made it as comfortable for us as He deems
and knows to be within our best interests. Picture one who is
traveling to his son’s wedding--and needs to run at full speed in order to
catch the train, and then has to stand for hours sandwiched between people
on the train--does he not realize that his destination is the great Simcha,
which will put everything in its proper perspective? We thus owe
Hakaras HaTov to Hashem for making our ‘ride’ in Olam Hazeh as doable as
He can for us--in order to get to the final destination of Eternity!
G. HaRav Eliyahu
Lopian, Z’tl, taught HaRav Mattisyahu (HaRav Mattisyahu refers to HaRav
Lopian as his Rebbi), that whatever Middos a person has in this world, he
will have in the next world. If, for example, a person is jealous in
this world, he will feel jealousy in the next world--to those who are on a
higher Madreiga than him. The Middos that one establishes and develops
here are, literally, the Middos that will be with him forever.
Accordingly, one must undertake all appropriate action to develop Middos
Tovos now. Accordingly, one should not view the concept of
‘remembering the day of death’ as something fearful, but should view it
as a Hisorerus to repair and grow while one can. This can be
compared to one who is working in the fields being told by his friend:
“It will soon be dark outside, do whatever you can now.” Will his
response to his friend be: “Don’t tell me that?!” Not at all, for his
friend does not want to scare him--but to give him good advice for his
betterment and benefit!
H. Since Torah is the
Tavlin (the antidote) for the Yetzer Hara, if one properly studies
Torah, why would he ever have to do a Cheshbon HaNefesh? Should
not the study of Torah itself be enough, without one having to spend
specific time on Yiras Shomayim and on learning Mussar? HaRav Yisroel
Salanter, Z’tl, answers that Torah study itself can serve as the exclusive
antidote if certain conditions are met--i. e., that one demonstrates his Chashivus
HaTorah and Hasmadas HaTorah, and also additionally learns Torah
Lishmah. HaRav Yisroel adds that when Torah study acts as the
exclusive antidote to the Yetzer Hara it does so as a Segulah, and for
a Segulah to work, it has to be undertaken completely, with all
conditions fulfilled. For instance, if one knows of a Segulah
for Parnassah in which one must do something three days in a row, and he
only does it two day in a row, it will simply not work. Since it is
difficult for us to fulfill all of these conditions completely, we must also
undertake acts of Yiras Shomayim, including Cheshbon HaNefesh and the study
of Mussar, in order to fight the Yetzer Hara and reach our full potential.
HaRav Mattisyahu adds that, in fact, if one engages in Cheshbon HaNefesh in
order to supplement his Torah studies and fight the Yetzer Hara--then the
act of Cheshbon HaNefesh is considered as part of one’s involvement in
Torah as well! He brings a Ma’aseh with his Rebbi who once found
many Talmidei Chachomim who were studying a piece of leather very intently.
His Rebbi asked them what they were doing--and they responded: “We
are trying to ascertain how to make a Chalitzah shoe out of this
leather.” His Rebbi was enlightened and exclaimed: “If when
studying a piece of leather one can fulfill the Mitzvah of Talmud Torah--so
too when we contemplate words of Mussar (such as thinking about the Mitzvah
of VeAhavta LeRei’acha Kamocha), do we also fulfill the Mitzvah of
Talmud Torah!”
Special Note Four: We
continue an exciting Monday/Thursday series on the practical aspects of
Sta”m, written by Rabbi Reuvain Mendlowitz, Shlita, author of Inside
Sta”m--An Insider Reveals The Answers To All The Questions You
Should Ask When Purchasing Or Maintaining Tefillin, Mezuzos, Megillos,
Sifrei Torah And Nevi’im.
For a fuller treatment of
all topics to be discussed, we urge you to purchase the Sefer, which
provides practical and meaningful information and ideas.
PART XLV
We
continue our discussion of hiddurim in Sta”m
“Ziyunin”
All
sta”m items contain letters with tagin (crowns). The letters
shin, ayin, tes, nun, zayin, gimmel,
and tzaddi (known collectively by the acronym sha’atnez getz)
each have three tagin. The
Gemara refers to these tagin as “ziyunin.” Ziyunin can
be understood to mean “multiple zayins.” Indeed, many sources
state that the tagin should be miniature zayins.
It should be noted that for the purposes of a tag, the
“head” of the zayin need not be square. Rather what makes it a zayin
(as opposed to a vav) is the position of the head over both sides of
the leg.
All,
however, agree that should the tagin not be written in the
form of zayins, the STA”M item is still fine. (There is even
a minority opinion that the tagin should be written as straight lines
with no “head” at all.)
Yet,
it can be very difficult to successfully create three small zayins in
such limited space without the heads of the tagin touching each other
(especially in tefillin).
Despite
all this, if the sofer is able to write the tagin as mini-zayins,
it certainly would be a hiddur.
The
Magen Avraham
The
Magen Avraham deals with the correct placement of the tagin. Because
his ruling is cited by numerous Acharonim, some are careful to make
the tagin only in this fashion.
However,
the source of his ruling is the Sefer HaZichronos (R’ Shmuel Abuhav,
1610–1694). The Magen Avraham apparently did not have the Sefer
HaZichronos to look up. For when examining the source, he seems to be
addressing a different issue entirely.
Nevertheless,
some poskim feel that since the Magen Avraham is quoted
by many Acharonim, it would still be considered a hiddur to
arrange the tagin according to his opinion.
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23 Iyar
SPIRITUAL EXERCISE: As
the Sefer Mesilas Yesharim writes,
a primary goal of each person’s life should be to give Nachas Ruach to HaKadosh Baruch Hu. When one realizes that he is
faced with a decision--no matter how trite or minor it may be--he should
accustom himself to the following thought: “Which
will give greater Nachas Ruach to Hashem?” The answer may not always
be clear, and there may not always be an answer--but it is the question and
the consideration that is of first importance!
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BE CAREFUL OF THE WET TOWEL!
We are all familiar with
the concept of washing Netilas Yadayim again if one’s hands are still wet
and he is touched by another person. What
if one finds that the towel he is about to dry his hands with is wet--must
he wash again as well, assuming that the wetness is from the prior Netilas
Yadayim of others? The Dirshu
Mishna Berurah (Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim 162, footnote 26) writes that
the Mishna Berurah does not discuss this situation, but that the Shevet
HaLevi (7:20) rules that if the people who just washed and used the towel
are the type of people who know how important it is as they wash each hand
to pour a revi’is at once on the
hand, then there is no chashash of
mayim tema’im--of impure waters,
and one need not wash again. On
the other hand, if one is drying his hands in a public place and the towel
is wet enough to make one’s hands wet, then one should not dry his hands
with this towel, as we may well assume that there were those who improperly
washed and that the water will render one’s hands tamei,
requiring him to wash again. The
Chazon Ish (Orach Chaim 25:12), however, writes that if one touched water on
a towel from an improper washing (i.e., a revi’is
was not poured on each hand), the waters would not be considered temai’im,
and one need not in any event wash again.
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Special Note
One: As we have just completed a cycle of daily study of the Sefer
Chofetz Chaim and commenced the last daily cycle of the 5774 year to end on
Erev Rosh Hashanah, we
provide by clicking here a summary review of the Seven Prerequisites
that are necessary in order to permissibly relate what would otherwise be
considered Lashon Hara.
You can print it out, cut it into the size of a card, and leave it in your
wallet. On the other side of the card, you can put the following
notation: “Any questions--call the Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foundation
Shemiras HaLashon Shailah Hotline: 718-951-3696,
9:00 to 10:30 PM
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Hakhel Note:
There is a meaningful Mashal given by the Chofetz Chaim. He tells of
the wealthy person who became more miserly as he got older, and decided that
he could get by eating a little less and a little less every day. Each
month he saved a little more…five rubles…then ten rubles…then fifteen
rubles. By the fourth month, however, he was so weak that he had to
spend money to go to the doctor. After reviewing his situation, the
doctor advised him that his was in real danger of starvation--and that it
would cost 200 rubles for medicine to heal him. The elderly man’s
plan to save a few rubles resulted in a huge and disastrous expense.
The Nimshal is to a person who raises a Machlokes because of a few dollars
here, or speaks Lashon Hara because of a few dollars there. He may be
upset and concerned about --and even ultimately save the money here and
there--but the severity of the machlokes and the deleterious effects of the
Lashon Hara will far, far, far, exceed the gain from the few dollars or even
‘the principle of the thing.’ We therefore must urge ourselves on
to look at these Seven Prerequisites, and to ask a Shailah when in
doubt…in order to save much more than those 200 rubles way down the
line--in Olam HaZeh and Olam Haba!
Special Note Two: We
continue with our Erev Shabbos--Halachos of Shabbos Series:
1.
The following Halachos relating to practical applications relating to the
Melacha of Me’abeid are culled from “The Shabbos Home” (Volume 2) by
Rabbi Simcha Bunim Cohen, Shlita and the “The 39 Melachos” by Rabbi
Dovid Ribiat, Shlita:
A.
Me’abeid is generally translated as ‘tanning’, and relates to
preserving. In order to wear new leather shoes, for example, it is
sometimes necessary to bend the back or front of the shoe in order to soften
the leather. This may not be done on Shabbos, for softening leather
violates this Melacha.
B.
One may not insert a shoe tree into a shoe that has lost its shape (e.g. one
that has dried after having been soaked in the rain). By doing so, one
stretches the leather, once again violating this Melacha. If the shoe
has not lost its shape (e.g. it is still wet), shoe trees may be inserted
into the shoe.
C.
Although the Halacha is that MiD’Oraysa there is no prohibition of
‘tanning’ (or preserving) as it relates to foods--”Ain
Ibud BeOchlin”--nevertheless, MiD’Rabannan it is forbidden to salt,
pickle, or preserve foods in different ways, as will be discussed briefly
below. One is forbidden, for instance, to put fresh cucumbers into
brine; however, one is permitted to put pickles back into a pickle jar on
Shabbos, because they have already been pickled and undergo no change when
re-placed into the brine.
D.
Salting is very much related to the tanning process, as foods like hides are
altered and improved by salt. It is for this reason that the Halacha
prohibits one from sprinkling salt on a number of pieces of raw or fresh
cucumbers, radishes, peas, onions, garlic, peppers, lettuce, carrots,
turnips, or string beans. One has two alternatives if he wishes to
salt any of these raw vegetables. Either he must salt or dip into salt
each piece as he eats it (as this would not be deemed preserving it, for
each piece is being immediately consumed upon salting), or--perhaps the
easier solution-- one may add liquid (such as oil, vinegar, or salad
dressing) to the fresh vegetables before salting--the liquid will dilute the
salt, temper its sharpness and thus when one than adds the salt, it will not
resemble the act of tanning or preserving.
E.
There are many foods (other than the fresh vegetables) in which salt effects
no real change in quality or texture, but to which it merely adds flavor.
Examples include cooked meat, fish, cooked vegetables, and eggs, and all of
these may be salted. However, even cooked foods should not be salted
too far in advance of eating. They may be salted in preparation for
the next meal on Shabbos (if it will not be a very long time off)--but not
for the meal after that. One may also not salt cooked legumes that
have hard peels or pods. Chick peas and similar legumes that have been
completely softened from cooking may be salted.
F.
The restrictions on salting foods do not apply to other spices (e.g. pepper,
paprika, onion powder, etc.) all of which merely add flavoring but do not
affect the food itself.
Special
Note Three: This week’s Divrei
Siach provides the following question on the Parasha presented to HaRav
Chaim Kanievsky, Shlita, and his response:
Question:
Rashi
brings Chazal who teach that the Shevatim which encamped to the south of the
Mishkan (Degel Reuvein) were neighbors with Korach, and accordingly fell
prey to his distortions, joined with him and of them it is said “Oy L’Rasha, V’Oy L’Shecheino”. In taking a step back,
however, Chazal teach that the Shevatim encamped in accordance with the
instructions previously given to them by Yaakov Avinu. Why was it then,
Degel Machane Reuven’s fault--after all, they were placed next to the
Reshaim--and did not ask to be there?
Answer:
If
a person is in the company of people who are suspect or who are performing
suspect acts, he must be especially careful and vigilant not to fall prey to
their conduct and to their deeds. Everyone
must recognize the challenges that face him and personalize ways to overcome
them!
Hakhel
Note:
We can perhaps analogize to one who must work in
Manhattan
, or
in another big-city business district, in which much non-Torah conduct and
practices occurs. One cannot excuse himself by simply saying ‘I have to
earn a living’--this is what I must do and it is not my fault. Instead, he
should use his best efforts to take whatever steps he can knowing that he is
dangerously close to the spiritual equivalent of a lion’s den. Perhaps
when one is eminently successful in this regard, he has done even better
than the one who is encamped next to the Tzaddik (such as Degel Machaneh
Yehudah next to Moshe and Aharon), upon whom we can immediately comment
Tov L’Tzaddik V’Tov L’Shecheino.
Special
Note Four: In keeping with our spirit of Talmud Torah enhancement in this
now short period of time before Shavuos, we provide the following points and
pointers from HaRav Chaim Kanievsky, Shlita (culled from the Sefer Derech
Sicha):
1.
The reason that Torah teaches us the actual day that we left Mitzrayim, but
does not disclose the day that we received the Torah is because every day
that we learn Torah is a Zecher of Matan Torah!
2.
When Chazal (Megillah 6B) teach that “Le’ukmei Girsah Siyata Min
Shamayah He--for one to remember his studies, he needs help from
Hashem”--they mean to emphasize that one should daven to Hashem that he
remember his studies. The more one davens-the more success he will have.
This is the Segula for one to remember his learning.
3.
The younger one is when he studies, the better he will remember it.
One should accordingly not push off any of his studies even for a day--for
the day prior, one is a day younger!
4.
There is a ma’alah to learn from a Sefer that many have learned
from. As Chazal (Brachos 39B) teach--once a Mitzvah has been done with
it, let us do more Mitzvos with it. HaRav Chaim actually showed that
he still uses his Mishnah Berurah that he purchased while still in Yeshiva.
5.
When one learns as a zechus for a Refuah Sheleima for someone, he must learn
something extra, and he cannot
simply learn what he was learning anyways. The zechus is generated by
the fact that more Torah is studied than what would have otherwise
been--not that one has ‘given away’ the Torah that was in any event was
going to be learned.
6.
For one who fell asleep during a Shiur--if it is the first time he should be
awoken, based upon the notion that he would want to be (even if he will feel
slightly ashamed). If it is a more than one time occurrence, the
sleep-needy person should be asked what he prefers--and one should follow
his instruction.
7.
If one made a neder to learn ten dafim of Gemara, and he said a Daf
Yomi Shiur in which there were 9 students, he has not fulfilled his
Neder--although he has the zechus that ten dafim were learned through him.
8.
HaRav Chaim reports in the name of his father that one should not put a
metal object on a Sefer--for in this sense the Sefer is like a
Mizbei’ach, for which the Pasuk says: “Lo Sonif Aleihem
Barzel--do not place on them iron!”
9.
Chazal (Sanhedrin 98B) teach that for one to be saved from the Chevlei
Moshiach, he should involve himself with Torah and Gemilas Chesed.
This however, only refers to one who cannot otherwise be involved in the
study of Torah constantly. Otherwise, the greatest Chesed is the
study of Torah, for one can answer questions of others and teach them.
Indeed, one can write a Sefer and is automatically doing the Chesed of
teaching others!
10.
HaRav Chaim reports that his father, the Steipeler, Z’tl, would read
the words in Old French in Rashi and explain: “Since Rashi wrote
them, they are Torah!”
Hakhel
Note One: As we have noted in
the past, the Chofetz Chaim (Chovas
Hashemira, Chapter 13) ponders the following question: A person takes
out insurance on his house, so that if, c’v a fire occurs, he will
have enough funds to rebuild his home. But a house is made only of
wood or brick and it is only a safek that it will actually burn down.
A person’s body, on the other hand, which is so holy that it houses
the neshama, will certainly be consumed in the end, because all
people die. Why does not everyone purchase Techiyas HaMeisim Insurance,
in order to insure that his body will come back to life at Techiyas
HaMeisim?! Neither cash nor a broker is needed to purchase this
important insurance. The Chofetz Chaim explains that Techiyas HaMeisim
Insurance is the study of Torah. As the Pasuk (Yeshaya 26:19) teaches “Hakitzu
V’Ranenu Shochnei Ofor Ki Tal Oros Talecha”--Awaken and sing you who dwell in the
dust, for the Dew of Light [of Torah] is Your Dew”--this, Chazal explain,
will be what allows our revival at Techiyas HaMeisim (Kesubos 111B).
The Chofetz Chaim goes on to teach that the Light of Torah that will revive
a person can actually be a combination of his Torah, the Torah of others
that he supports and even the Torah of his children that he sends through
Yeshiva. It would seem that just as with insurance, where the larger the
face amount of the policy, the larger is the amount that will be collected,
so too with Techiyas HaMeisim Insurance, the more Torah to one’s credit,
the more…
Hakhel Note Two: HaRav
Chaim Pinchos Scheinberg, Z’tl, was once asked if he could provide “hadracha”,
or guidance, in how one could better study Torah. He provided a
two-word response: “Learn more.” HaRav Scheinberg is also said to
respond to some who request a Brocha for themselves or their children in
Torah study, “I will give the Brocha--but they have to do their part--will
they take upon themselves to study a few extra minutes a day?” In
fact, the Sefer Orchos Tzadikim (Shaar HaZerizus) writes that “...for “sha’ah
achas”--one hour of Torah study, even if it is only to learn one
teaching or lesson, is better than anything else in the world....”
Special Note
Five: As we move closer to Shavuos, we begin to sense a greater
closeness to climbing the mountain itself. During this special period,
the Yetzer Hara may be at serious work, actually attempting for us to
have a yerida, rather than an aliyah. He has many
techniques and trials available to challenge you with at this time:
This may go wrong with davening, that may go wrong with learning. This
may go wrong at work, that may go wrong at home.... We must especially
bolster ourselves, and if there is, in fact, a yerida, we should try
to make sure that it instead takes us to a further aliyah.
Rather than stumbling, or even despairing from any new, unique or strange
pre-Shavuos circumstances or situations--we should use it to propel us
higher up the mountain. As Chazal teach, Lefum Tza’ara Agra--according
to the necessary effort (such as a steeper mountain) is the fruit born.
In this
important regard, Rabbi Eliyahu Schneider, Shlita, provides a great
observation. He explains that Pesach and Sukkos may, at least in
theory. begin on their own simply by closing your doors at home, driving to
a hotel, handing them your credit card, and taking pleasure in the days of
Yom Tov. No, preparation, no sweat in advance--and hopefully enjoying
Oneg and Simchas Yom Tov with family and/or friends! Shavuos, however,
is very different, as its name indicates. There is no Matzah or Seder
as there is inherent in Pesach, nor is there a Sukkah to dwell in or a Lulav
and Esrog to take, as is part and parcel of Chag HaSukkos. Instead,
the essence of the Yom Tov is the ‘Shavuos’--the weeks
that precede it--that lead up in preparation to the Yom Tov. Only
after, as the Torah refers to it, the Sheva Shabbosos Temimos, can we
celebrate Shavuos! There are no particular Mitzvah or Mitzvos
associated with this Yom Tov at all, because the preparation for our
Kabbalos HaTorah is the essence of the Yom Tov--and the climax is in our
hands reaching up and out as we reach the top of the mountain!
We should take
the time this Shabbos to reflect upon our preparation and where it will be
going over the next 10 days. What will I begin that is new?
What is it that I will reinforce? How can I make sure that I will
enter Shavuos with the term properly referring to is as Shavuos?
Hashem has blessed us with a mind to use. Let us use it for this most
sublime and lofty of purposes--which literally fulfills our lives, and even
more literally fulfills the world!
HaRav Moshe
Feinstein Z’TL likewise explains that Parashas Bamidbar, which of course
counts the individual members of Bnei Yisrael, is always read a week or two
before Shavuos. The Torah is teaching us that each
and every one us counts, and that no one can hide behind his Rabbi’s
frock, his profession’s desk, or his living room sofa. Furthermore,
Rav Shimshon Dovid Pincus, Z’tl, explains the Posuk which states that the
Torah was given in front of “Kol Yisrael” teaches us that even if one
member of K’lal Yisrael had been missing, the Torah would not have been
given. This did not happen--all of K’lal Yisrael were there and the Torah
was given, so each and every one of us is a part of it!
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22 Iyar
LOOK
WHO IS SAYING THAT ABOUT YOU!
The Chofetz Chaim writes that when someone speaks well of others in this
world below--then the Malachim speak well of him in the world above!
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THE GREATEST HISHTADLUS:
Rabbi David Ashear, Shlita in a daily Emuna Daily message made the following
essential insight into hishtadlus in Parnassah: “The greatest
Hishtadlus one makes in Parnassah is his recital of the bracha of Barech
Aleinu three times daily.” Hakhel Note: Hopefully, this
greatest hishtadlus is accomplished with kavannah. Everything else that
one does at work is hishtadlus in parnassah as well--but we must be sure to
separate the ikar from the tafel!
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Special Note
One: In last week’s Perek (Avos
4:28
), we studied the well-known teaching of Rebbi Elazar HaKappar--HaKinah,
V’Hata’avah, V’HaKavod Motzi’in Es Ha’Adam Min HaOlam--jealousy,
desire and glory-seeking take a person out of the world. Some
point out that the term Motzi’in is a very telling one--as it
refers to the present tense--rather than the future. If a person is
jealous of another, if he lets his desires overcome him, and if he seeks
glory (rather than modesty), then he is actually ‘taking himself out’ of
his current purpose in life during those very moments that he is engaging in
this circumspect conduct. It is not something for which he is ‘chayav
missa’ on later. Rather--it is the person himself who is
literally and truly killing his own time in the present. It is no
small wonder that the Sefer Sparks of Mussar brings from the Chofetz
Chaim that he overheard Rebbi Yisroel Salanter repeating this Mishna for an
entire night. After all, what could be worse than a person punishing
himself to death?! Hakhel Note: At a Hakhel Shiur, Rabbi
Jonathan Rietti, Shlita, pointed out that the word ‘Chayim’
in Lashon HaKadosh is in plural form, for it demonstrates that we live two
lives--one in Olam Hazeh and the other in Olam HaBah. If we waste time
with jealousy, needless desire, and Kavod-seeking in this world--we are
wasting our eternal time as well. On the other hand, if that very same
moment was filled with Torah or Gemilas Chasodim--it would likewise
translate to an eternal moment in Olam HaBah. There is an important
additional thought--how this teaching relates to others. When one
assists or inspires another to make his moment fruitful, he is assisting
that person forever and ever. Here is a practical example relating to
the study of Torah, which we continue to focus upon before Shavuos: If
one notices that in the Shul or Beis Midrash that there are those studying,
but that it is quiet, he should consider raising his voice in Torah study to
uplift and energize those around him to do so as well. Because his
Torah study is more inspired, their Torah study may be more inspired as
well--as the sound of Torah spreads through the study hall. On the
other hand, if one begins to sing a song (even if pretty) in the Shul, Beis
Midrash, or wherever a group is studying, one will notice that others will
begin to sing as well--and everybody’s study is interrupted as a result.
We therefore have great power to infuse not only our lives--the life of Olam
Hazeh and Olam Habah with very special moments--but to directly aid in
infusing others with their own meaningful and priceless time--carrying
through in this world and the next!
Special Note Two: The
Sefer Nesiv Chaim writes that when one performs a Mitzvah in the
guise of Mitzvas Anashim Melumada--out
of habit or rote, he cannot possibly fulfill the basic tenets of Mitzvah
performance--which primarily include fulfilling the Mitzvah in as complete a
manner as is possible, and fulfilling a Mitzvah out of true joy. It is
for this reason, the Nesiv Chaim continues, that a Mitzvah performed
out of rote cannot even be considered--it does not even reach the level
of--a Mitzvah She’lo Lishma!
Accordingly, he urges that we work hard to weed out perfunctory Mitzvah
performance--remarkably adding that if one does not feel the proper joy when
performing a Mitzvah--how can he express the proper charata--true remorse and real Teshuva when he fails in its
performance?! After all, feelings cannot simply be created one
way without a proper true and positive feeling the other way--an
appreciation and endearment for each item of royal treasure that may come
into our possession. The Chofetz Chaim brings the words of
Mishlei (13:7): “Yesh...Misroshesh
Vehon Rav... there can be one who is ostensibly impoverished--but has
great wealth.” He explains that if one has sinned many times--and
succeeds in turning the sins around with proper feelings of Teshuva--than he
takes all of that poverty, all of those sins, and turns each one of them
into a separate and distinct Mitzvas Aseh of Teshuva--a very great wealth.
For us to get there, we must begin by first blighting the scourge of Mitzvas
Anashim Melumada that we experience on a daily basis--which not only so
sorely damages the Mitzvah itself--but make the Teshuva process all the more
difficult. Let us begin somewhere, by identifying our Melumada
acts, and working on a project of improvement. If you need somewhere
to begin, may we suggest placing new energy and zeal into Tefillas Mincha,
or perhaps stopping for a moment before studying Torah or before listening
to a Shiur to appreciate the privilege, or perhaps helping someone out when
permeated with a feeling of Ahavas Yisrael. We don’t necessarily
need hours of preparation to perform our Mitzvos--we need moments of thought
and caring!
Special Note Three: We
continue an exciting Monday/Thursday series on the practical aspects of
Sta”m, written by Rabbi Reuvain Mendlowitz, Shlita, author of Inside
Sta”m--An Insider Reveals The Answers To All The Questions You
Should Ask When Purchasing Or Maintaining Tefillin, Mezuzos, Megillos,
Sifrei Torah And Nevi’im.
For a fuller treatment of
all topics to be discussed, we urge you to purchase the Sefer, which
provides practical and meaningful information and ideas.
PART XLIV
We continue our discussion of hiddurim in Sta”m
The
“Pri Megadim”
This hiddur refers
to the way the letter aleph is written. Aleph is comprised of
two yuds and a kind of vav
in the middle. When writing a yud, aside from the “head” and the
“leg,” one is also required to add a “kotz” (lit. thorn)
coming down from the left side of the head. This is called “Kotzo Shel
Yud.”
Almost all letters
of the Aleph-Beis are made from a combination of other letters. As a
general rule, when a letter is comprised of two other letters, the halachah
does not require each component to be written exactly as the actual
letter must be written.
Therefore, when
writing an aleph, it would seem that since the Rishonim say
explicitly that the yud on the aleph must look “like” a yud
– without calling it an actual yud – there is no need to add the
“Kotzo Shel Yud.”
The Pri Megadim
(R’ Yosef Teomim, 1712–1792),
however, clearly states that both the top and bottom yud
require a kotz since these yudin have the halachic
status of a real yud.
Interestingly
enough, a number of Acharonim who call for adding the kotz
mention it only in reference to the upper yud of
the Aleph. Other Acharonim maintain that no kotz is
necessary on either yud of
the Aleph and, indeed, as we indicated above, no Rishonim
mention the need for any such kotz.
Although some feel
that it is a hiddur to add the kotz of the Pri Megadim
(only on the top yud), the prevailing custom is not to add a kotz
on either yud.
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21 Iyar
Special Note
One: HaRav Shimshon Pincus,
z’tl, provides a fascinating mashal which sheds an absolutely glowing
light on the importance of each day of Sefirah:
If one is told
that he has won the $10 million lottery, and that he will receive his check
(less 50% taxes, of course), in about 7 weeks, you can imagine how quickly
he would wish those seven weeks would pass in order for him to have that $5
million check in his hands. Oh, how we would wish that those 24-hour
days were only 18 hours or less!
However, if one
was told that he would be receiving his $5 million lottery proceeds over a
50-day period, in increments of $100,000.00 at the end of each day, how he
would look forward to, and appreciate each and every single day--for each
and every day is an important building block and integral step towards his
$5 million final aggregate end goal.
That is the
Mashal. The Nimshal is clear: Shavuos does not just come, as a
$5 million check, all at once. We are to arrive there, in paced and
steady installments, until our final goal is reached. Each and every
day of Sefirah is be utilized in some way--with some level or type of
accomplishment--in Torah and Mitzvah appreciation, study, performance or
teaching. Most certainly, as we get closer and closer to Shavuos, we
should sincerely attempt to successfully gain those daily $100,000.00
installments so that we can be most proud of our Kabolas HaTorah on Shavuos.
Here is a
practical suggestion for today, among the many others you can think of:
HaRav Chaim
Kanievsky, Shlita, notes that in the bracha of Ahava Rabba which we recite
immediately prior to Shema in the morning, which relates significantly to
Torah study, we make no mention of Simcha or joy in our Torah study.
Yet, in the parallel Ahavas Olam Tefillah in Maariv, we state “V’Nismach
B’Divrei Sorosecha--we will rejoice in the joy of Torah study.”
HaRav Kanievsky explains that in the morning usually prior to having
studied that day, one has not yet appreciated the Simcha of studying Torah.
By Ma’ariv, after having studied something during the day, one has (or
should have) already felt the Simchas HaTorah.
Based upon
this, may we suggest that while studying or listening to a Torah Shiur, or
at some point while reviewing a Torah thought during the day, one take the
time to feel the happiness and joy with his ability to study, teach, and
hopefully, properly apply, what he has learned--so that when he recites “V’Nismach B’Divrei Sorosecha” that evening, he really means
it!
Special Note Two: We
provide below some additional insights in preparation for the joyous and
awe-inspiring moment of Kabbalas HaTorah:
A. The
Sefer Pele Yoetz (under the heading “Kesiva”) reminds that a
person should take the time to write down nuances that he discovers in his
Torah study--whether big or small--for through writing he brings
the Torah in a demonstrable way into this world, and it is as if he actually
taught Torah “to the multitudes.” One should keep his own
notebook, and over time marvel at how much he actually accomplished!
B. Chazal
(Shabbos 31A) teach that one of the first questions a person will be asked
after 120 years is whether “Kavata
Itim L’Torah--Did you have designated times for Torah study daily?”
The Levush (Yoreh De’ah 246:1) writes that by usage of the plural “Itim”--times,
Chazal are teaching that we must set aside some Torah study time by day
and by night (i.e., at least a few minutes immediately after
Ma’ariv, or before going to bed). In this regard, the Sefer Piskei Teshuvos (Volume 2, Page 304) brings from other noted sources
that during these designated times for Torah study, one should view himself
as not being in Olam Hazeh, but rather in Gan Eden before the Shechina!
See Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim, Chapters 155 and 238 on this vital topic.
C. The Zohar (Parashas
Vayeishev) writes that if someone puts in the effort to study Torah in this
world, even if he does not understand or remember what he learned, he will
have the knowledge and understanding that he strived for in this world--but
also in a more important world--Olam Haba. As we recite when we
complete our day of study, or when we complete a particular tractate or
portion of Torah: “For they toil and we toil--they toil and do not receive
reward (i.e., they may not see the fruits of their labor), but we toil and
[definitely] receive reward.” In other words, there is no such
thing as a “failed business venture” or an “unsuccessful business
project” in Torah--there is only success!
Special Note Three:
HaRav Pam, Z’tl, as quoted in the wonderful work Careful
Words, by Rabbi Sholom Smith, Shlita, brings the following important
lessons:
1.
Every Jew should speak favorably about his fellow man, despite the
fact that K’lal Yisrael and ‘Reb Yisrael’ have their faults and
weaknesses. It is not hard to criticize others and highlight their
shortcomings. But that causes deep distress to Hashem. No father
wants to hear a bad report about his child, even if it is true. Vice
versa, a father is extremely appreciative of a person who can find good
things to say about his child. So, too, is Hashem grateful when a person
defends His children before Him even if they are lacking in merits. Jews
must look for opportunities to praise the accomplishments of their fellow
man. Who can estimate the far-reaching effect this advocacy will have in
Heaven and the blessings it will bring upon the Jewish people?!
2. A Talmid Chacham controls his power of speech because, as
the Vilna Gaon writes in his Igeres HaGra, “HaPeh
Kodesh Kedoshim--the mouth is
holy of holies” and, as such, should not be sullied with
improper speech. In fact, the Gaon adds that, “Winged creatures
(heavenly angels) follow a person around wherever he goes and record every
word he speaks.” On the Day of Judgment there will be an entire,
unimpeachable stenographic record of all the words each person spoke during
his lifetime and he will certify with his own signature that everything is
recorded accurately.
3. The Rambam (Moreh Nevuchim 3:8) writes that our language
is called Lashon HaKodesh, the
holy tongue, because it does not contain any indecent words or
expressions. Even when it must refer to something of a delicate nature, it
uses a euphemism (see also Ramban to Shemos 30:13). This
refined manner of speech is not limited to the greatest scholars of the
nation. It is expected of every member of our people. It is for this reason
that a pig is very often referred to as a davar acheir (lit., another thing) and not with its proper name, chazir
(see Shabbos 129B). A blind person is not called an iveir,
blind, but a sagi nahor, which
means full of light (see Yerushalmi Peah 5:5), so as not to denigrate
him because of his handicap. There are many other examples of this
meticulous care in using a refined manner of speech, even by those who are
not scholars. Similarly, the Yiddish language is full of expressions that
have become ingrained into the speech patterns of Jews, and avoids the use
of words that are immodest or, simply, inappropriate.
3.
The sefer, Orech Apayim, by Rabbi Avrohom Yellin, Z’tl, is the
classic work on uprooting the harmful trait of anger. Among the many
excellent practical suggestions on how to rid oneself of this bad middah is
an insight based on the Mishnah (Avos
1:15
),
Say little and do much. Here
is one example: A father needs something done in the home and asks
his teenage son to take care of it. The boy grunts and mumbles something
under his breath, and a half hour later it is still not done. Another
example: A mother asks her daughter to run an errand and it gets done only partially. Yet another example: A husband asks his wife to
take care of something, and, with her many responsibilities in the home, she
forgets all about it. The reaction to all these situations follows a
familiar pattern. There is an outburst of anger which quickly escalates into
a shouting match, or worse. “Why do you always ask me? How come you never
ask my brother (sister) to do anything?” Or, “Can’t you see how busy
and overworked I am? I can’t take care of everything in one minute!”
What can be done to minimize and mitigate these common, daily situations
which are the source of explosions of anger and recriminations and often
threaten the fragile Shalom Bayis of the home? The solution can be Say
little and do much. The parent or the spouse should try to minimize his
(or her) requests and give fewer instructions while doing as much as he can
himself. The fewer requests one makes of others, the fewer opportunities
there are for outbursts of anger. In one of his letters, the Chazon Ish writes
that a person should avoid asking favors of others if he knows that they may
refuse or grudgingly comply. This often leads to hard feelings if and when
they decline to help. One should not say, “I’ll ask him and see what he
says. If he says ‘no’ I won’t be upset...” This is not what usually
happens and is the cause of much ill-will and resentment. One will spare
himself these problems…by saying little and doing much!
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20 Iyar
QUESTION OF THE
DAY
ONE
:
Rebbi Shimon Bar Yochai teaches
us in last week’s Pirkei Avos (
4:13
) that Shelosha
Kesarim Heim--there are three crowns: (i) Kesser Torah; (ii) Kesser
Kehuna; and (iii) Kesser Malchus.
Rebbi Shimon then continues V’Kesser
Sheim Tov Oleh Ahl Gabeihen. What
is the Kesser Sheim Tov--is it a fourth crown? How does one attain it?
Hint: See Rashi, Rambam and Rabbeinu Yonah on this Mishna.
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QUESTION OF THE
DAY
TWO:
In last week’s Perek (4:2),
Ben Azzai teaches us that Mitzvah Goreres Mitzvah and Aveirah
Goreres Aveirah. There thus appears to be equal ‘compensation’ that
results from a Mitzvah and from an Aveirah.
However, do not Chazal teach that Haba
LeTaheir Mesayin Osso, one who wants to purify himself is actually
assisted from heaven--whereas, Haba
LeTameih Poskin Lo--if one wants to defile himself, he is not
assisted--but instead the door is only left open.
Accordingly, shouldn’t the Mishna recognize this distinction?
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A SEFIRAH SUGGESTION: In last week’s Perek as well (Avos
4:20
), Rebbi Masya Ben Charash teaches: “Hevei
Makdim Bishlom Kol Adam--initiate a greeting to every person.” As the cheit
of the students of Rebbi Akiva is Shelo
Nahagu Kavod Zeh Lazeh (Yevamos 62B)--we suggest that a clear
demonstration of one’s desire to improve in his showing the honor due
another, would be to take great care to follow the teaching of Rebbi Masya
Ben Charash-- Hevei Makdim Bishlom Kol
Adam!
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IMPORTANT OBSERVATION: Before and after we eat or drink, we recite a
bracha. Yet, we recite a bracha only after we take care of our bodily
needs--and not before. While we can provide a simple explanation for
this--one is simply not in a position to make a bracha before taking care of
his needs, the fact is that there is a great gift that is about to occur and
one does not recognize it in the same way as he does before the gift of
food. With this realization, may we suggest that at
least the after-bracha be infused with special Kavannah--as it covers
the entire spectrum of the nes of
bodily function!
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REMINDER FOR THE SUMMER: By
clicking here we provide an essential Tefillah from the Sefer Taharas HaKodesh, as provided to us by the Always Our Kids
Organization.
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AYY! The Alim L’Terufah
(a weekly Bulletin in Hebrew) brings from the Peleh Yo’etz that instead of a person say Oy! or Vay!, he should
instead AYY!--which stands for
Avraham, Yitzchak and Yaakov, invoking the Zechus Avos.
Hakhel Note: HaRav
Dessler, Z’tl, teaches that zechus Avos relates to Zakus Avos--the purity
of our Avos, which each and every one of us should aspire to. Indeed, HaRav
Nosson Wachtfogel, Z’tl, the initial Mashgiach of Lakewood, would
sincerely recite the Ma’amar Chazal--”Masai
Yagiyah Ma’asai
LeMa’asei Avosai, LeMa’asei Avraham, Yitzchak V’Yaakov”--each and every day!
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Special Note One:
We are just slightly more than two weeks away from Kabbalas HaTorah--and
our appreciation of Torah should be growing daily so that we are not
surprised on Shavuos night. Think
of how we prepared for Pesach-and how we prepare for Sukkos--let us not
permit Shavuos to be any different! The Sefer Ma’alos HaTorah makes the following tremendous points about Limud
HaTorah:
1.
In Devarim (30:15) the Pasuk states “Re’eih
Nasati Lifneichem HaYom Es HaChaim V’Es HaTov…behold I have placed
before you today the life and the good.”
Hashem Himself is telling us what is life and what is good. Before
beginning to study daily, one should consciously realize that he is choosing
the path that Hashem has declared to be life and good!
2. The Sefer Reishis Chochma writes that when a person learns Torah, the Shechina
stands in front of him and says to him:
“Hashem Imcha Gibor HaChayil--I
am with you!” (Shoftim 6:12).
3. When a person
studies, he must be careful not to mix in words of chol
or in inyanei olam hazeh into his
studies or in between sentences of his learning. If c’v one does so, it is as if he is bringing patches of darkness
into a room of light--uncomfortably darkening the room for himself and
others. Hakhel Note:
When Shlomo HaMelech teaches us that “Torah
Ohr--Torah is light”--we should take it very literally!
4. When one utters
the words of Torah, he brings forth tahara
from himself, as Dovid HaMelech (Tehillim 12:7) teaches:
“Imros
Hashem Amaros Tehoros…--the
words of Hashem are words of purity, like purified silver, clear to the
world refined sevenfold.”
5.
The Midrash to Shir HaShirim (8:7) writes that in the future--when
the truth is clear to all, the nations of the world will come with all of
their silver and gold and attempt to purchase at least something from the
Torah from us. We will then respond that the Torah is not
for sale as it is in this world that one studies--and in the next world
that he reaps the everlasting and eternal benefits!
Special
Note Two: Today, we begin a new cycle in the Sefer Chofetz
Chaim, the related work Guard Your Tongue, and all of the
outstanding Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foundation Seforim and Shiurim.
Please contact the Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foundation at 845-352-3505 for all
of the possibilities and resources to enrich your life during the coming
cycle. The Sefer Orchos Tzaddikim devotes a special Sha’ar
to Lashon Hara and makes the following significant points:
1. A
person thinks to himself: “What have I done, just saying a few
words?” He accordingly does not pay attention to the damage he has
just caused, and will block things out and will not do Teshuvah.
Without Teshuvah for this aveirah, what will become of him?
2.
One who has spoken Lashon Hara requires mechila from those whom he
has spoken against--and he may not even remember who they are or what he
said.
3.
When a person speaks about a family, or ‘something that is wrong with’ a
family, he hurts not only this generation but future generations as well,
and no forgiveness is possible at all.
4.
The great Talmid Chochom, Doeg spoke Lashon Hara--and neither his wisdom nor
his Torah were able to save him.
5.
When a person speaks Lashon Hara he will not only be punished for the damage
he caused, but for the enjoyment he derives from shaming or disgracing
another--violating VeAhavta LeReiacha Kamocha.
6.
Watching another speak every extra word of Lashon Hara without trying to
stop him in some way is like watching a person eat another piece of chazir,
and another piece, and another piece.
7.
A person speaks about what matters to him. If a person often speaks of
food, wine, [technology] or clothing this is a priority concern of his.
Dovid HaMelech (Tehillim 119:97), however, exclaims: “Mah Ahavti
Sorasecha Kol HaYom He Sichasi--How I love Your Torah, all day do
I speak about it.” Because he loved the Torah--this was his topic of
discussion, his topic of conversation. Let us study our speech--and
move it as close as we possibly can to the speech of Dovid HaMelech!
Hakhel
Note: As in the past, we provide the following
rejuvenation suggestions for the coming Shemiras HaLashon cycle HaBa’ah
Aleinu LeTova. We welcome your rejuvenation possibilities as well!
A. Read the daily
portion out loud, instead of just with your eyes.
B. Change the Sefer
that you learned the last cycle, as there are so many wonderful Seforim to
choose from.
C. Spend five-ten
minutes to learn the daily portion with a family member or friend. A
Chavrusa always helps sharpen the study, and gives chizuk to its
members.
D. Even if you cannot
learn with a Chavrusa, make it a point to talk to someone about the day’s
study.
E. Keep the Sefer you
are learning on your desk or table at home as a daily reminder for Shemiras
HaLashon.
F. Pass on the
following information to as many people as you can, and keep it on hand to
continuously pass on: To order Shemiras Halashon tapes, books,
learning programs and the Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foundation’s free catalog
and for further information on free Shiurim on Shemiras HaLashon, call
845-352-3505. For the Shemiras HaLashon Shailah Hotline (expert Poskim
in Shemiras HaLashon to anonymously answer your real-life Shailah before
saying the right or wrong thing), please call 718-951-3696, between the
hours of
9:00PM
until
10:30PM
(EST).
G. Observe a one or
two hour Machsom L’fi daily. For further information on a Machsom L’fi, please call 845-352-3505.
H. Recite the
complete Tefillah
of the Chofetz Chaim on Shemiras HaLashon daily available by clicking here.
The Chofetz Chaim himself writes at the end of the Sefer Chovos HaShemira
that one should recite this Tefillah in the morning after davening, or at
any other time that he is able. There is, of course, a shortened
version of this Tefillah--but recitation of the extended version may
demonstrate a re-dedication on your part for the new cycle.
I. Many high schools
and elementary schools now have programs through the Chofetz Chaim Heritage
Foundation in Shemiras HaLashon. Make it a point to ask your child or
another child what they learned to be mechazek them.
J. Check yourself at
the end of each day before retiring--and determine whether you have stopped
yourself from speaking or listening to Lashon Hora or Rechilus at least one
time during the day.
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19 Iyar
NINETEEN WEEKS!
We are now in the nineteen week
period prior to Rosh Hashana! In the past, we have proceeded weekly, Bracha
by Bracha, through Shemone Esrei with a special emphasis on Kavannah on that
week’s Bracha. This week’s
Bracha is Birkas Avos--a Bracha whose Kavannah is especially significant
every day of the year, for it is the anchor from which the remaining brachos
of Shemone Esrei continue. We accordingly once
again provide by clicking here our notes to the Nineteen Brachos for the
years 5771 and 5772. May we highly recommend the Nineteen Week Program
again this year--either based upon your own study (such as by utilizing the
magnificent Rav Schwab on Prayer or another similar work), or by utilizing the
link provided on a daily basis throughout the week.
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FROM READERS:
1. “I saw the
following sentence in your Lag B’Omer note: ‘Similarly, even after the
Crusader massacres killing Rabbeinu Tam and many others in many
communities’. If I am not mistaken, Rabbeinu Tam was stabbed 5 times in
the head but miraculously survived. (The Mordechai was killed by the
Crusaders.)” Hakhel Note:
Thank you for the correction.
2. “It is
very dangerous to text and do anything else. How can you type when walking
on the street--or when engaged in any activity in which your life and
limb--or the life and limb of others is at stake? This is more than a Chilul
Hashem--it is r’l dangerous and
life threatening. I am not being extreme--I am being practical. Help
yourself--and help others!”
3. “Another
Kavannah before getting a haircut is ‘Beyomo
Titein Secharo”--paying the barber on time.”
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Special
Note One: Final points and pointers from Parashas Bechukosai:
A.
The Torah begins with the words: “Im
Bechukosai Teileichu”--which Rashi defines as our requirement to
seriously study Torah--to be Ameilim
BaTorah. Why does the Pasuk refer to the study of Torah as a chok--as a law without obvious reason? After all, we all know how
precious a gift the Torah is--and what it contains?! It is our guidebook and
guideline to life! Rabbi Eliyahu Schneider, Shlita, brings the Kli
Yakar who teaches that we must study the Torah as a ‘Chok
Velo Ya’avor’--in a steadfast manner without leaving room for
breaching a Torah study time or session for this reason, or for that. Another
aspect of the chok of Torah, Rabbi
Schneider explains, is presented by the Ohr
HaChaim HaKadosh. The Ohr HaChaim
HaKadosh teaches that the chok,
the ameilus, that the Pasuk is
referring to is chazara--reviewing
one’s learning time and time again, so that it becomes more and more a
part of you. This is
difficult--for especially in our fast-paced society, it is difficult for us
to allot time to reinforce the same teachings within us, notwithstanding
that we will find new sweetness and discover special nuances if we seriously
apply ourselves in each review. Practical
and meaningful thoughts that we all can apply...on the great avodah of
Im Bechukosai Teileichu.
B.
The Torah teaches that the reward for Ameilus
BaTorah and Shemiras HaMitzvos
is Venasati Gishmeichem B’Itam--that
rain will fall in its proper time. At first glance, this may be a bit
puzzling. Why is rain, which is viewed to someone who is not a
farmer--whether one is young or old-- as somewhat of a burden and
have-to-live-with type of event, listed here in the Torah as a primary
bracha? The Ramban explains that the Torah is teaching us that rain is truly
an incomparable gift--for through its waters we remain healthy and strong and
live longer lives. HaRav Ezriel Erlanger, Shlita, in quoting this Ramban,
adds that perhaps the Torah is instructing us not to look at the world in a
myopic manner--considering only whether the matter or item in front of you
is immediately pleasurable. Rather, one should take a step back and
understand the source of the wood used to build his home, the fruits and
vegetables that he eats, the meat that he consumes, the wool that he
wears…. Once one can appreciate this, then he can take the next important
step--which is realizing, and better yet appreciating the Source of each and
everything...including the water!
C.
In a related vein, at the outset of the Parasha, the Meshech Chochma magnificently explains that Hashem created the
world in a way so that extraordinary miracles are simply not necessary. In
lieu of special events, Hashem created a ‘natural order’ or
‘nature’, which together constitutes nissim retzufim-- a series of ongoing miracles. If we fulfill our
task-- Im Bechukosai Teileichu,
then the heavens and the earth will continue to function in their
‘natural’ way--to shower bracha on the world. When we do in fact
experience extraordinary miracles, then it is only to remind us of the
everyday, continuing miracles, which constitute Hashem’s constant,
enduring and unending Hashgacha Pratis over us. The greatness of Avraham
Avinu was that he understood Hashem’s Mastery over every moment of our
‘natural’ existence--and tried his utmost to teach this to the people of
his--and all future--generations. Indeed, Chazal (Brachos 4B) teach that if
someone recites the Kepitel of Ashrei every day, then he is a Ben Olam Habah.
Why? The Mesech Chochma concludes
that it is because the pesukim of this Kepitel affirm this very great
lesson: Hashem’s Hashgacha Pratis over every aspect of all of nature--and
of each and every detail of each and every one of our lives!
Special Note Two: We
continue an exciting Monday/Thursday series on the practical aspects of
Sta”m, written by Rabbi Reuvain Mendlowitz, Shlita, author of Inside
Sta”m--An Insider Reveals The Answers To All The Questions You
Should Ask When Purchasing Or Maintaining Tefillin, Mezuzos, Megillos,
Sifrei Torah And Nevi’im.
For a fuller treatment of
all topics to be discussed, we urge you to purchase the Sefer, which
provides practical and meaningful information and ideas.
PART XLIII
Many people approach a socher and express an interest in purchasing
“very mehudar” tefillin or mezuzos (and even Sifrei Torah!). Often they
are even prepared to “put their money where their mouth is”. Yet, if one
is unfamiliar with Hilchos Sta”m he has no way of knowing which
hiddurim he may be interested in. In the coming installments we will refer
to various hiddurim pertinent to all areas of Sta”m without getting into
the technical aspects involved. Even
if we are not well acquainted with the intricacies of the halachah, it is
instructive to be familiar with these concepts nonetheless.
First
though, please note some important advice. Be aware that a sofer is under
considerable stress when attempting to produce a mehudar STA”M
item for a consumer. Ironically, if you approach him with a list of
“extra” hiddurim that you want him to incorporate in your Sta”m,
you may actually be defeating your own purpose. This is because he will now
be departing from his normal routine, and this may detract from his
concentration on the many requirements of the basic halachos. It is
therefore wise to first determine which hiddurim you really want, and
then seek out a sofer who writes to that standard as a matter of
course. This can prevent heartache in the future, both for you and the sofer.
Now, let us begin with two examples that we have made reference to in the
past:
A. The “Rashba”
The halachah is that if two letters touch each
other, the Sta”m becomes pasul.
Can this be fixed by merely scraping away the connection between the two
letters? The Rashba rules that it depends when the letters touched. Suffice
it to say that the Machaber and Rama in Shulchan Aruch are maikil while the
Rashba is machmir.
Although the halachah is clearly not like the
Rashba, the Biur Halachah (quoting
the Gra and others) says that l’chatchila one should try and be Yotzei the
Rashba’s opinion as well.
Practically speaking, if the sofer
was not careful to observe the Rashba’s opinion when writing the
tefillin, it is difficult to justify selling such parashiyos as mehudar
when selling them at above average prices.
B.
The “Radach”
There
is a halachah known as “chak tochos.” Literally translated, this
means to “scrape the insides.” The practical application in terms of Hilchos
STA”M is that a letter must be created by writing, not
through scraping or erasing.
In
other words, should there be a blotch of ink on the klaf, a sofer
would not be permitted to merely scrape away at parts of the ink and thereby
create the form of a letter. The form of the letter must actually be handwritten.
The
above invalidation assumes that the entire letter was created by
means of chak tochos. Would it be permitted to create part of
a letter by way of chak tochos while finishing it off by writing the
remaining part(s) of the letter? For instance, should there be a blotch of
ink on the klaf, would a sofer be permitted to merely
scrape at it and thereby create the head of a reish, and then
subsequently write the leg?
While
most Acharonim are of the opinion that it would indeed be permitted,
the Radach (R’ David ben Chaim HaKohen of
Corfu
, d.1531) insists that the entire letter be
created solely through writing. And since a number of Acharonim rule
in accordance with the opinion of the Radach, it would be an enhancement of
any STA”M item for the Radach’s chumrah (stringency) to be
observed.
It
is worth noting however that this chumra can often lead to trouble
for the sofer since holes in the klaf are easily created.
Indeed, the prevalent custom is not to be strict in this regard.
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16 Iyar
THOUGHTS ON A GEMACH:
The Gemach concept is indeed an incomparable one.
The Chofetz Chaim (in Sefer Shemiras HaLashon, Chasimas HaSefer)
provides the following powerful points regarding the establishment of a
Gemach:
A. A mitzvah for which
money is spent is much greater, as the Zohar describes in Parashas Teruma.
B. A Gemach is at work
even when one is sleeping or involved in business.
C. One should seek
Mitzvos which are ‘Kevua LeDoros’--which
can continue beyond one’s lifetime into future generations.
If one can accomplish this, continues the Chofetz Chaim then even
when ‘he is sitting in Gan Eden’, ‘Yitosef Lo Noam VeOhr Al Nafsho--additional pleasantness and light
will be awarded to his soul’ through the Mitzvos taking place through the
monies or articles that he had originally provided while in this world.
Take the Chofetz Chaim’s guiding light--and work on establishing
a Gemach for your neighborhood, shul or community--with its light to shine
upon you for eternity!
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Special
Note One: We continue with our
Erev Shabbos, Halachos of Shabbos Series:
A.
Ashkenazim who have the custom of taking a haircut on Lag BaOmer (and
not Sefardim who begin to take a haircut on the 34th day of the
Omer) are permitted to take a haircut today LeKavod Shabbos. Indeed,
the Luach Davar B’Ito brings
that if one has a new garment to wear, it is a Mitzvah to put it on LeKavod
Shabbos.
B.
A humble suggestion: On every Erev Shabbos Daven
to Hashem that you will not be Mechalel Shabbos in any manner, including BeShogeg
and BeOness.
B.
According to many (but not the Chasam Sofer, as mentioned earlier),
the Mon began to fall today. In the Parasha of the Mon, the Bnei Yisrael
were advised that they could not violate the Shabbos in connection with its
collection--and that a double portion would fall on Erev Shabbos, with no
Mon to fall on Shabbos Kodesh itself. Indeed, the concept of properly
preparing for Shabbos is found in the Parashas HaMon (Shemos
16:23
)
with the words: “Eis Asher Tofu Eifu,
V’Eis Asher Tevashelu Basheilu….” It is striking that the Parasha
of Mon refers so much to Shabbos--a day that the Mon did not fall!
Certainly, one of the great lessons to us from this is that we should not
worry about, concern ourselves with, or think about the business or job
tasks that we are ‘in the middle of’, or that definitely need to be
accomplished in the coming week or weeks.
C.
In the Parashas HaMon, the Torah states:
“VeHaya Mishne--and it
shall be twice….” The Mishna
Berurah (Orach Chaim 250, seif katan 2) writes that we derive from these
words that even thought one has prepared for Shabbos on Friday
morning, it is a Mitzvah that he also do something else on Friday afternoon
as well. Hakhel Note: A
practical way to apply this for men is to do something for Shabbos
immediately upon arriving home from Shul Friday morning (such as setting up
the Neiros Shabbos, opening containers, etc.) and then have a specific
second set of tasks upon arrival home in the afternoon (making sure tissues
are open, nails are cut, shoes are shined, etc.). Hakhel Note: The Dirshu
Mishna Berurah (ibid. at Note 15), brings the words of the Rambam in Hilchos
Shabbos (30:6) relating to Shabbos preparations--Vechol
HaMarbeh Harei Zeh Meshubach--these words are not only related to the
Seder night--but to each and every Shabbos!
D.
We provide certain Halachos relating to the melacha
of Tzad, as excerpted from the monumental Sefer “The
39 Melachos” by Rabbi Dovid Ribiat, Shlita (Feldheim Publishers):
1. Tzad may be defined as
the forcible confinement of a living creature. This includes any
method of confining--conventional or otherwise. Thus, chasing or
merely frightening a living creature into a corner or confined area
without actually coming near the creature is Tzad.
2. Animals that can pose a
threat of real pain or injury, such as raccoons, rats and the like may be
trapped on Shabbos if necessary. This is especially true where the
spread of rabies or other diseases by animals is prevalent. If a raccoon or
similar animal is only in the vicinity, one should not trap or kill it
(unless it is known that the raccoon is rabid)--instead, a non-Jew should
call the authorities. If a raccoon or squirrel got into the house, the door
to that room (if not very small or narrow) may be closed to seal it off.
However, a non-Jew should preferably be asked to do so. A dog or
other animal that has attacked and bitten a person may be captured if
it is necessary to examine the animal for rabies or disease.
3. One cannot force a bird
that is not completely domesticated into its cage or even simply close the
cage door to prevent it from escaping. If a small wild bird flew into the
house, one should open windows and doors, encouraging it to escape. If
one is not successful in chasing the bird out and leaving the doors and
windows open will cause the home to become uncomfortable, one may close the
doors and windows, as it is a Rabbinic level of confinement which is
permitted when one has no interest in trapping the bird and leaving the
doors and windows open would impose a hardship.
4. One is not permitted to
set any kind of trap on Shabbos (with the exception of dangerous
situations), even though the animal only becomes caught later on its own.
However, it is permissible
to set a trap before Shabbos even though the animal may become trapped on
Shabbos, just as one turns on lights before Shabbos--and then leaves them on
for Shabbos.
5. According to most Poskim,
the Melacha of Tzad does not apply to capturing and confining of humans.
Thus, one may take hold of an unruly child or place him into a
‘time-out’ room (...without getting into the Chinuch aspects of it!)
Special
Note Two: In this week’s
Parasha, we learn in the Tochacha
that much punishment comes from our failure to observe the Shemitta.
Rabbi Refoel Shain, Shlita, asks a pointed question:
The Shemitta year applies to people who work the earth.
What about all of the businessmen?
Don’t they continue to do business the entire Shemitta year?
If so, how do they glean the lessons of Kedusha and Emunah so
inherent in Shemitta’s observance? Fascinatingly,
he explains that because Shabbos occurs once every seven days, every day of
his Shabbos observance will add up to an entire Shemitta year after seven
years. The land, however,
continues to ‘work on Shabbos’, as plants and trees continue to grow,
and so the Shemitta year is needed to ‘catch-up.’
Furthermore, the fiftieth year of Yovel can be understood as
comparable to the aggregate of 50 years of seven days of Yom Tov (two days
of Pesach, one day of Shavuos, Rosh Hashana, Yom Kippur, Sukkos, and Shemini
Atzeres) that the businessman observes every year, which the land does not,
so that over the 50 years through Yovel--one has observed a year of Yamim
Tovim--which the land has not. Accordingly,
in the Yovel, the land has its turn!
We
as ‘businessmen’ who are not working on the land of Eretz Yisroel should
learn to appreciate the power and potency of each
day of Shabbos and Yom Tov--our personalized portion of a Shemitta year--and
inhale its Kedusha and Emunah to take us through…until the next Shabbos or
Yom Tov!
Special
Note Three: The following is
excerpted from Love Your Neighbor
by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin, Shlita, on this week’s Parasha (p.336):
“…and
a man
shall
stumble
upon
his brother ...” (Vayikra
26:37).
Rashi
cites
the Sifra
which
explains
this
verse
thus:
“One
shall
stumble
through
the iniquity
of another,
for
all the
people
of
Israel
are
responsible
for
each
other.”
(Sifra;
Sanhedrin
27b).
The Chofetz
Chaim
used
to relate
the following
analogy:
Mr.
Cohen
loaned
Mr. Green
a large sum
of money.
Mr.
Shapiro
agreed
to guarantee
the loan;
he would
pay Mr.
Cohen
if Mr.
Green will
be unable
to pay.
If Mr.
Green
were
investing
his money
in a business
that was sure
to lose
money,
Mr. Shapiro
would
definitely
do everything
in his power
to prevent
Mr.
Green
from becoming
involved
in that
business.
Mr.
Shapiro
knows that
if Mr.
Green
wastes
his money,
the obligation
to repay the
loan will
be his.
‘The
same applies
to preventing
others
from
sinning,’
said the
Chofetz
Chaim.
‘If someone
has the
ability
to stop
another
person
from transgressing
and fails
to do
so, he will ultimately be
held
liable
for
that offense.
Therefore,
we must
do everything
we can
to prevent
transgressions’.
Special Note Four: Short points on the Parasha:
A. On the first Pasuk of the Parasha (Vayikra 26:3), Rashi brings
the Torah’s Pasuk for the Mitzvah of Talmud Torah. Rashi likewise brings
this Pasuk in a similar context in the sugyah
of Talmud Torah (Kedushin 29B). One may also see the Rambam at the outset of
Hilchos Talmud Torah. What Pasuk is it? (Hint: See Devarim 5:1)
B. The Parasha begins
with the phrase: “Im BeChukosai
Teileichu”. Im, of course,
primarily means ‘if’ to us. Why are we being given a choice--shouldn’t
the Torah say ‘Ka’asher BeChukosai
Teileichu--when you study Torah and fulfill its Mitzvos’--when
and not if? We suggest that the
Torah emphasizes to us that it is imperative for us to exercise our bechira
chafshis properly--recognizing our constant confrontation, our
constant battle with the Yetzer Hara. Indeed, one should not become
overconfident--and try to make each and every situation of ‘if’
into a success!
C. Paradoxically, the beginning of the Parasha continues that if
we study the Torah and fulfill its Mitzvos, Hashem will give us the physical
bounty of Olam Hazeh. Spirituality is not left to Hashem--and gashmiyus to
man. It is just the opposite--our role is ruchniyus--and
Hashem’s role is gashmiyus. If
we can keep this in focus throughout the day our learning and davening may
improve--and our Parnassah issues will be viewed in a much different light!
D. Continuing the previous thought: The Torah teaches that if we
are zoche to the Bracha, then “Eitz
Hasadeh Yitein Piryoh--the tree of the field will give its fruit.”
Rashi says that this refers to non-bearing fruit trees which will in the
future bear fruit. Not only is Hashem in charge of giving us gashmiyus ‘within nature’--but also through extraordinary
‘out-of-nature’ experiences as well. This serves as a second, forceful
reminder--it is the ruchniyus that
is our responsibility.
E. The Pasuk
continues: “VeNasati Shalom
VBa’aretz”. Rashi here explains that Shalom is equal to
everything--this is the ultimate bracha. Every day we are given the
opportunity to daven for this ultimate bracha three times at the end of
Shemone Esrei. If we remember that it is the ultimate bracha--equal to all
other brachos, then how can we not gird ourselves to utter the powerful
words of Sim Shalom/Shalom
Rav with heartfelt feeling each and every time!
F. On the Pasuk of
‘5 chasing 100 and 100 chasing 10,000’, Rashi teaches that the
disproportion can be explained by the Halachic fact that one cannot compare
a Mitzvah which is performed by a few, to a Mitzvah which is performed by
the many. Accordingly,
a Gemach that is established by more than one person (such as a loan fund to
which many contribute) is a more powerful Mitzvah than a Mitzvah performed
by one individual. The source
for this, writes the Chofetz Chaim, is actually the Sifra (10:4) on this
Pasuk. The Chofetz Chaim
continues that it appears ‘pashut’
that Hashem will consider each person’s contribution as if he himself was
performing the Chesed of the entire Gemach, since without him the Chesed
would not have been possible.
G. In the Tochacha, the
Torah (Vaykirah 26:23) writes: “Ve’Im
Be’eileh Lo Sivasruh Li--and if through these punishments you have not
taken mussar from me.” There is a special lesson here--in order to obviate
punishment--one should study mussar--and his own, motivated self-improvement
will prevent the need for excess pain or suffering.
H. The Tochacha continues
(26:33): “V’eschem Ezareh Vagoyim--and
I will scatter you among the nations.” The great curse here is that
K’lal Yisrael is exposed to all kinds of different ‘junk’ from the
nations. The Jews who live in France are not exposed to the same tumah as the Jews who live in the United States, and the Jews who
live in Argentina are not exposed to the same tumah as the Jews who live in England. We are fighting all kinds of
different battles. It is like the different kinds of boils or lice that the
Mitzriyim were afflicted with. It makes our terrible galus all the more
difficult and all the more horrifying.
I. The Tochacha
continues (26:39): “Ba’avonos
Avosam Itam Yimaku--when the iniquities of their forefathers are with
them, they will disintegrate.” Chazal (Brachos 7A) teach that we are only
punished for the sins of our forefathers if we ‘inherit’ and follow
their sins. On the other hand, the reverse is also true. If we do Teshuvah
for the sins we know that our forefathers had, we bring zechus not only to
ourselves but to the previous generations who had in fact sinned as well. If
one knows, for instance, that an ancestor was weak in a particular area--and
accordingly makes a conscious effort to excel in it--he has taken this kelala--and
turned it into a bracha!
J. The last Pasuk in the Shabbos Haftarah deserves special
attention at one’s Shabbos table. The familiar Pasuk in Yirmiyah (
17:14
) reads: “Refa’eini Hashem V’Eirafeih Hoshi’eini V’ivashei’ah Ki
Sehilasi Atah”. Especially in this month of Iyar--Ani
Hashem Rofecha--we should remind our friends and family to daven with
great Emunah and Bitachon for those who they know are ill. Yirmiyahu HaNavi
reminds us of this great message--at this time of year!
Special Note
Five: Our annual Lag BaOmer thought: Upon reaching
the Lag BaOmer milestone, we are faced with a perplexing question:
What is really the sudden cause for celebration at this time? After
all, from what we know of our past during the Omer period, 24,000 senior
scholars--the students of Rebbi Akiva passed away for not properly
respecting each other; even Rebbi Shimon Bar Yochai, one of the surviving
students, eventually passed away on this day; later, the Crusades took their
great toll on Ashkenazic Jewry during Sefira; then, the great Posek for
Ashkenazim, the Rema passed away on Lag BaOmer, like Rebbi Shimon; and, most
recently, much of Hungarian Jewry was hurriedly annihilated during the
period from Pesach to Shavuos in 1944--to such an extent that the survivors
of Hungarian Jewry who do not know when their relatives or friends were
murdered observe the Second Day of Shavuos as their Yahrzeit. So, what
is the joy--the songs, the bonfires, the bows and arrows about? Why
are weddings allowed, and Tachanun not recited?
Rav Chaim Kanievsky, Shlita
(following the lines of the G’ra’s Commentary on Shulchan Aruch Orach
Chaim, 493) teaches we celebrate that in all events, there were those who
remained. Indeed, the resemblance in all of the aforementioned
tragedies is striking: Rebbi Shimon passed his legacy to his students (it is
no coincidence that so many other future generations of Tannaim are buried
right around Rebbi Shimon in Meron). Similarly, even after the
Crusader massacres killing Rabbeinu Tam and many others in many communities,
the Ba’alei Tosfos flourished for many generations, culminating in the
Rosh, and his son, the Tur, as the basis for our Shulchan Aruch; the Rema,
rather than being the final word in Halacha for Ashkenazim, became the basis
and guide for the scores of future poskim; the remnants of Hungarian Jewry
fill the Yeshivas from Bnei Brak to Borough Park.
But it is more than that we
are just survivors. It is the fulfillment of the Pasuk (Devorim
32:23): “Chitzai Achaleh Bom”--I
will finish my arrows in them--which Chazal (Sotah 9A) explain to mean--my
arrows will be finished in them, but they will not be finished. Hashem
has guided us through events, times, places and tragedies of immense
proportions, while the other 70 nations of the world disappeared from far
less calamitous events. Perhaps this is the symbol of the bow and
arrow on Lag BaOmer--the arrows are done, but we are not. Why is this
so--why has our history--our experience in this world been so different than
all other nations?
We suggest that the answer
to this, too, brings us to this time of year--it is, once again, not
coincidental that all of this is happening as we prepare to receive the
Torah--for it IS THE TORAH that
has made our lives so different and so endurable. It is the Torah,
created well before the world as we know it was created, that has given us
the “supernatural” force for us to thrive and survive. At this
special time of year, we should especially demonstrate our recognition of
the importance of Torah in our lives and in the lives of K’lal Yisrael.
PRACTICAL SUGGESTION: For the coming two weeks until Shavuos, in
whatever you are learning, whether it is a thought on the Parasha, Daf Yomi,
or even a Torah email, think about how important Torah study is in our
lives. It is not academics, nor a body of knowledge, but the one part
of our life that permeates and invigorates us--and the bonfire that warms
and enlightens us every day of our lives!
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15 Iyar
GAFNAH! No, it is not the name of a new wine.
We all seek the bracha of Gefen--Gezunt, Parnassah and Nachas. A
wonderful addition when giving this bracha is the letter Hei--standing
for Hatzlacha! So, when someone gives you the beautiful bracha of
Gefen--generously and meaningfully give him back--the bracha
of Gafnah!
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IMPORTANT
AND
TIMELY INFORMATION ON HAIRCUTS:
1.
FROM A READER: The
permissibility of taking a haircut tomorrow or on Sunday is only applicable
for Ashkenazim. Sefaradim will
wait until Monday to take a haircut.
2. It
is a time to reflect anew upon how even a task such as a haircut has meaning
and purpose in our lives. In the Torah itself, we learn that Yosef took a
haircut upon his release from prison in order to see Paroh--as a sign of
respect. We similarly find that Haman (who was by trade a barber) gave
Mordechai a haircut prior to his ascending onto the king’s horse (Megillah
16A). Thus, a person can have kavana prior to taking a haircut that he
is doing so out of respect for himself and others. There is more, however.
We can also reflect upon the Kavod Shabbos inherent in the haircut--as we
too show respect to the royal Shabbos Queen (if this was not the Halachic
case, we would of course not be taking a haircut until Lag Ba’omer on
Sunday).
There is still more. Of
course, ahl pi kabala, hair and
its growth extending outside and away from the body has profound meaning. We
would, however, like to remind men that before taking a haircut they may
have kavana that they are fulfilling two (2) additional mitzvos Lo Sa’aseh--which
are Lo Sakifu Pe’as Roshechem
and Lo Sashchis Es Pe’as Zekanecha--not
rounding the hairline and not using a knife-like blade to cut certain areas
of the face. Readers must be on guard that barbers who are not aware
of the Halacha may be using cutting instruments in an improper way in the
Payos area and above the ear. Accordingly,
we
once again provide an important link to The Kosher Haircut Guide Poster
(available at http://tinyurl.com/yh2dqy6
). We urge you to send on the
Guide to as many as possible--it is so unfortunate for one to violate a
Torah prohibition for lack of knowledge--and all the more so when it is so
easily rectified. We have free large, hard-copy laminated posters of the
Guide as well for pick up--for use in Shuls, Yeshivos and barber shops.
Please feel free to contact us. Remember, just as there is much more
to a Kosher hamburger...there is much more to a Kosher Haircut! In
everything we do--our kavana plays the key role--let’s do it the way we
are supposed to!
3. Why
is it that when a person gets older, his hair starts turning white?
After all, white symbolizes purity, as evidenced by the white garments of
the Kohein Gadol on Yom Kippur, and the fact that the red string that was
tied on to entrance the Heichal on Yom Kippur turned white to demonstrate
that the people’s sins were forgiven (Yoma 6:8). It would thus seem
more appropriate for children, who are so much closer to purity to
have white hair, which then would become darker as one ages, as a symbol
that the person is sullying himself with sin. Why does it move in the
reverse direction? Hakhel Note: This is, of course, a rhetorical
question. If you do not know or appreciate the answer, we suggest as
an immediate undertaking the study of either the Sefer Mesilas
Yeshorim or the Sefer Sha’arei Teshuva!
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Special Note One: A
postscript to our Notes on Ona’as Devarim: It is certainly no
coincidence, as it never is, that the new cycle of Positive Word Power
(Artscroll/Mesorah), which is the Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foundation’s
monumental and incomparable English work on Ona’as Devarim, will be
starting its new daily cycle soon, on Rosh Chodesh Sivan. This most
important work is a realistic, meaningful, and effective tool to help rid
Ona’as Devarim from one’s daily life. Each short daily lesson
concludes with something practical to work on. If you are already
learning the daily cycle, may we strongly urge reviewing it another time in
the next cycle? If you have not yet undertaken this wonderful daily
program, we highly urge you to do so--for this is something, whether or not
you may realize it , that affects everyone in their daily lives--and affects
even more those with whom they come in contact! Your undertaking of
this important project most certainly indicates your desire to improve in
this very crucial part of daily life. Even if you are pretty good, and
only need a little improvement--why not do this Mitzvah extremely well?
Special Note Two: A
reader provided us with the following remarkable story which he had read: “HaRav
Mordechai Gifter, Z’tl, had to have a particular surgery. He
inquired as to a top surgeon in the field, met with him, and then scheduled
the surgery for about a month later when the surgeon had a free slot.
The time came, and Rav Gifter was at last being taken into surgery. Rav
Gifter asked the doctor to pray that the surgery would go well.
“Rabbi”, the doctor responded, “you have nothing to worry about--I am
top in my field!” Upon hearing these words, Rabbi Gifter advised
that he would no longer be going through with the surgery at that time. Instead,
he found another doctor, perhaps not as famous, but who realized that health
and sickness, life and all that is to it--is in G-d’s anthropomorphic
hands, and not in those of a skilled mortal.” Hakhel Note: All
would do well to remember this story--but not only when visiting a doctor.
May we suggest that the next time you recite Shemone Esrei, you move through
the Brachos of bakasha--from bracha to bracha--noting all of the action
verbs that we recite--asking Hashem several times in each bracha
for this act and that act--for it is truly only from Hashem that each and
every thing that affects, impacts and improves our daily lives comes!
Every time we daven, we should recognize and grow from the strong Emunah in
Hashem we are asserting, as we plead for his active guidance, direction and
action. All we have to do is read, say, understand and feel the plain
and powerful meaning of our daily Tefillos!
Special Note Three:
According to the Luach Dovor B’Ito, today is the transition day
between Bnei Yisroel finishing Matzah they had brought along from Mitzraim,
and tomorrow, 16 Iyar, is the day that the Mon began to fall (see, however,
Rashi to Shemos 16:33), in which Rashi appears to write that the Mon began
to fall today), it is in these days that Moshe Rabbeinu composed the first
Brocha of Birchas HaMazon, the Brocha of Hazon Es HaOlam. The Luach therefore urges that this Brocha be recited with a special
Kavannah at this time.
Hakhel Note: At a Hakhel
Shiur, HaRav Yisroel Belsky, Shlita, once made the following incredible
point. How could it be that millions of people actually finished the
Matzah that they had brought with them from Mitzraim on the exact same day?
After all, did not some families have more, some have less? Were not
some families larger, and some families smaller? Did not some families
have mostly adults, and others mostly small children?
HaRav Belsky answered with
a remarkable teaching. In fact, there were families that had finished
their Matzah days ago, and others that had finished it even weeks ago.
However, those with Matzah remaining shared it willingly and even happily
with their neighbors. Only when all of this shared Matzah was
completely consumed, was there a need for the Mon. In fact, perhaps
the Mon came only because Hashem recognized and acknowledged the chesed of
His people, and “shared” with us effusively from His special bounty as
well. Let us take this lesson and enthusiastically apply it by trying
to help someone else today with their Parnassah or their needs. After
all, in the end…it is all Mon!
Special Note Four: We
continue an exciting Monday/Thursday series on the practical aspects of
Sta”m, written by Rabbi Reuvain Mendlowitz, Shlita, author of Inside
Sta”m--An Insider Reveals The Answers To All The Questions You
Should Ask When Purchasing Or Maintaining Tefillin, Mezuzos, Megillos,
Sifrei Torah And Nevi’im.
For a fuller treatment of
all topics to be discussed, we urge you to purchase the Sefer, which
provides practical and meaningful information and ideas.
PART XLII
Question
A friend told me to have the sofer write the parashah shel
yad on two separate pieces of klaf, and then glue them together.
He says this is preferable because it is hard to find a suitable piece of klaf
which is long enough. This sounds strange to me. Should I listen to him? Is
there any drawback to his suggestion?
Answer
There once was a time when your friend’s suggestion had some merit.
Nowadays, however, it is unnecessary.
It is true that years ago it was difficult to find a single long piece of
klaf (especially klaf avodas yad) which was actually fit to
write on. However, today the quality of the klaf is much higher than
it was even a few short years ago, and there is absolutely no reason to
resort to such a practice.
As for the practice itself of gluing two pieces of klaf together,
let us see if there is any halachic problem.
The Gemara clearly states that the shel yad should be written on
one long piece of klaf. Even so, if one were to write the four parashiyos
on four separate pieces of klaf, the tefillin are still kosher.
Nevertheless, the pieces should be attached to each other either by gluing
or sewing them together.
Once the parashiyos have been glued together, all agree that there
is no halachic problem
whatsoever with the parashiyos. Nevertheless, people who are paying
above-average prices for tefillin don’t expect to receive a shel yad
which is glued or stitched together.
Actually, many would be annoyed
to find that their parashiyos are stuck together, and would view them
as “damaged goods.” It follows that a sofer or socher
would be obligated to inform a customer who is paying above-average prices
about this type of imperfection before selling such parashiyos. (In
spite of what we have said, one is certainly better off with mehudar parashiyos
which have been glued together than with l’chatchilah parashiyos
written on one piece of klaf.)
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14 Iyar
NOT ON THURSDAY NIGHT! As
many know, when Lag BaOmer falls out on Sunday as it does this year, the
Rema (Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim 493:2) permits taking a haircut on Erev
Shabbos in honor of Shabbos. We
asked a Posek whether one could take a haircut on Thursday night (to avoid
the lines, for example). He
responded in the negative, as the haircut must be evident that it is LeKavod
Shabbos. Accordingly, if one
would like to take a haircut this Thursday night for personal reasons, he
must first consult with his Rav or Posek to determine whether doing so would
be permissible under the particular facts or circumstances.
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PARNASSAH: In
last week’s Parasha, we learn of the great Mitzvah of Vachei Imach/V’chai Achicha Imach (Vayikrah 25, 35-36). With these
words, the Torah implores us to help our brothers with their sustenance and
their needs of life. What a great Mitzvah it is to spot a job available and
send it to a few friends for whom it may be a possibility. What a great
Mitzvah it is to take a resume and make the effort to send it on to a few
possible contacts. What a great Mitzvah it is to identify areas in which
Parnassah opportunities are available and share the information with others
in the community. The greatest gift one can give is his time--and this is
such a special way to spend it! Vachei
Imach/V’chai Achicha Imach!
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Special Note:
On Erev Shabbos, we highlighted how important it is for the Torah Jew
to avoid Ona’as Devarim. How
should the victim, the subject, of Ona’as Devarim react? We provide some
thoughts below; of course, details as to any particular situation should be
discussed with one’s Rav or Posek:
1.
The following is taken from Love
Your Neighbor by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin, Shlita (p. 330):
“You do not violate the commandment against Ona’as Devarim if you
reply to an insult directed at you. The
Torah does not obligate a person to be as unfeeling as a stone.
Usually, however, a person who is careful not to insult or vex others
will not be insulted by others. If
you remained silent and swallowed the insult without replying immediately,
you are forbidden to insult the person who insulted you at a later time when
you have already calmed down (Chofetz Chaim, Introduction, B’air Mayim
Chayim, 8-9).”
2.
Shlomo HaMelech, the wisest of all men, teaches in Mishlei (17:9) “Mechaseh
Pesha Mevakeish Ahava…he who conceals transgression seeks love, but he
who harps on a matter alienates Hashem.”
Rashi (ibid.) explains that if one man sins against another, and the
hurt party brushes over it, does not pursue it, and does not show an angry
face, then it will bring love between the two parties; however, he who bears
a grudge will bring further alienation to the already hurt relationship.
A bit further in Mishlei, we learn:
“Sechel Adam He’Erich
Apo
…it is good sense for a man to be slow to anger,
and it is his glory to pass over a transgression (
19:11
).”
Once again, Shlomo HaMelech is teaching us to avoid the initial
reaction to hurt back with a direct, sometimes caustic (or even worse)
response, and instead quell one’s feelings in order to rebuild, rather
than destroy the relationship.
3.
With this in mind, we come to a real understanding of words that we
recite at the end of Shemone Esrei three times daily:
“Velimkalelai Nafshi Sidom--and
to those who curse me, may my soul be silent.”
HaRav Shimon Schwab, Z’tl, in the monumental work Rav
Schwab on Prayer (Artscroll, p.537) explains these important words as
follows: “This means, may I
remain calm and silent as the dust of the earth, in the face of my
tormentors. I pray that I shall
not react if I am cursed or tormented.”
Someone once insulted a very pious person.
The community wanted to put a ban on the man, but the pious person
would not hear of it. “We must
punish that man, not merely for your sake,” the pious person was told,
“but to preventing the insulting of others.”
“On the contrary!” exclaimed the pious person.
“Let people learn from me not to let insults bother them.”
(Sefer Chasidim 183, as published in Love Your Neighbor (ibid.)).
4.
The Sefer Tomer Devorah
(Chapter 2) by HaRav Moshe Cordovero, Z’tl, provides the following
powerful instruction: “…a
person should recall his sins and desire purification…asking himself:
“Which type of suffering is the best in the world and will not distract me
from Avodas Hashem? Surely,
there is no better than these--to be shamed and insulted, for these will not
weaken a person’s strength or his vitality by illness, nor will they rob
him of his food and clothing, nor of his life or his children’s lives.
Hence, a person should actually desire this form of suffering, saying
to himself: “Why would I fast
and torment myself with other afflictions, which weaken my strength for
Avodas Hashem? It is far better
for me to be afflicted with shame and insult, as my strength will not depart
or weaken. Thus, when insults
are meted out to him, he should rejoice in them.
Contrary to the typical reaction to them, he should desire them.”
A disciple of Rav Chatzkel Levenstein, Z’tl,
related, “I once saw Rav Chatzkel in a state of extreme happiness, and
asked him for the reason.” “Someone
greatly insulted me today, and I didn’t say anything in return.
For this I am joyful,” replied Rav Chatzkel (Marbitzai Torah
U’Mussar, Vol. 4, p.212, as published in Love Your Neighbor (ibid.)).
5.
One should recognize that although the hurtful words may be
misdirected and even absolutely false, everything that happens in our lives
occurs by Hashgacha Pratis, and is for us to learn from.
Is there anything from the
specific tactless, unkind, or spiteful words that I can learn from or grow
from? Is there anything along
the lines that he is claiming that I can do better in, even if it is not as
exaggerated as he claims?
6.
When hearing someone rant at you or another out of anger, one should
immediately make a mental note of the horrors of Ka’as.
7.
In spite of the Ka’as, after someone experiences a rant, harangue,
tirade, or even ‘just’ a few biting words, he would do well to remember
three words “Dan Lechaf Zechus.”
Who knows what the person venting has gone through, or is going through
right now. Only Hashem knows.
Furthermore, you can attribute even the most shocking and coarse
behavior against you to a huge mistake or misconception on his part. He may
have simply heard something much different than what was said, and took it
all wrong. Accordingly, what he
has done to you may not be right, but it may be more of a misunderstanding
than an act of malice.
8.
One must certainly take the experience against himself as a lesson
not to hurt, upset, or embarrass others, even if it is in the privacy of
one’s own home or office, with the two of you as the only people there.
9.
The Chofetz Chaim writes that one should avoid the company of
Ba’alei Lashon Hara--those who are want to speak Lashon Hara at all costs.
One should likewise avoid the company of those who as a matter of
course allow unkind, spiteful, or tactless words to constantly spew forth
from them. By consciously
avoiding this kind of person, one constantly reminds himself to utilize his
power of speech for more positive purposes and goals.
If one constantly finds himself subject to verbal or mental abuse
heaped upon him by a close family member, boss, or the like (i.e., someone
who cannot be avoided), he should seek guidance from his Rav or Posek as to
how to proceed. Moreover, as
noted at the outset of this Note, one should consult with his Rav or Posek
in any particular situation that occurred or may occur, as it may be
appropriate not to remain silent, but to respond to the one committing
Ona’as Devarim--so that he will know of your hurt, and so both of you can
grow from the experience.
10.
Ona’as Devarim, of course, applies not only in person, but also
over the phone, and by email as well. A
reader advised us that he received an email from someone on ‘the other
side of a transaction’ who wrote to him that his actions were ‘shameful
and disgraceful, and that he should read the Iggeres
HaRamban.’ The reader
noted that the Iggeres HaRamban
tells one to avoid anger in all circumstances, and anger is what the writer
himself was expressing! We may
add that just as words can never be retracted, so too, emails that have been
sent (even if they are ‘recalled’) can never be taken back.
In a sense, emails are even worse--for the hurt party can review the
hurtful words in print time and time again.
Accordingly, one should overcome his nature and not read and reread
an offensive letter or email--but, rather discard it.
Moreover, the act of disposing of it will remind a person not to
mentally harp on it either. Conversely,
when sending an email which in any manner may touch upon Ona’as Devarim,
one should read it two or three times before
pressing the ‘send’ button.
11.
Every night before going to sleep as part of Kriyas Shema Al HaMita,
we state “Hareini Mochel Lechol
Mi…I hereby forgive anyone who angered or antagonized me--whether against
my body, my property, my honor, or against anything of mine; whether he did
so accidentally, willfully, carelessly, or purposely; whether through speech
deed, thought or notion…” (translation
courtesy of Artscroll Siddur). We
must recognize that these precious words every night are not mere lip
service, but are so important that
they are among the final words we state every day.
We must mean what we say, and if we have specific people or events in
mind, then it is all the better! In
the Zechus of our forgiving and forgetting, may the Heavenly court do
likewise for us, and for all of K’lal Yisroel!
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13 Iyar
MESECHTA
SHEVI’IS--THE HEBREW: A
reader advised us that a new and revised Artscroll Hebrew version of
Mishnayos Mesechta Shevi’is being re-published and will be available very
shortly, in time to bask in the study of Mesechta Shevi’is in the sixth
year of the cycle, in preparation for the great study le’ma’aseh--in the
seventh year--Haba’ah Aleinu
L’Tovah.
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RABOS MACHASHAVOS:
Shlomo HaMelech teaches in Mishlei: “Rabos
Machashavos B’lev Ish, Va’atzas Hashem He Sakum” (Mishlei
19:21
)--there
are many thoughts in Man’s heart, but the plans of Hashem are what endure.
Fascinatingly, this is one of the few Pesukim from Mishlei that we recite in
our daily davening. We may suggest that this Posuk is, in fact,
recited in davening to remind us to focus on our Tefillah--as any foreign or
outside thoughts during davening (“What will I do at work today?”,
“What do I need to buy at the store?”, “Where will I go for this?”,
“What will I tell him?”, “How will I do that?” etc.) are for naught,
as only Hashem’s plans --especially
in the course of Tefillah--endure. So keep the right thoughts--your
kavana--for they are the only ones that work--and matter!
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WE WOULD RATHER SWITCH THAN FIGHT: Chazal (Chulin 89A) teach: “In whose Zechus
does the World stand--in one who keeps his mouth closed during a time of
dispute.” The next time you have the opportunity to dispute--think to
yourself: ‘I’d rather be responsible for the world’s existence than
winning this argument, getting in a good repartee, or even defending
myself.’ We recognize that sometimes it is the principle of the matter,
and other times it is the seemingly unquenchable desire for the truth to
prevail, but if one can also leave a window of opportunity for the world
when the dispute is not that important, he will have accomplished an
unrecognized, but equally as important, service for mankind. We should
NOT ONLY REMEMBER--BUT ALSO ACT UPON
this-- as often as possible!
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TURN
OFF: A
reader strongly advised us that his personal alternative to the Shul cell
phone locker and to placing the cell phone ‘silent’ mode before entering
a Shul is simply to turn off the phone. It appeared that the reader wished
to emphasize that people are so used to having their cell phones on--that
they should also get used to having their cell phones off, as well!
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QUESTION OF THE
DAY
: “It is a medicine that can cure the ills of
society but is being poured down the drain.” What is the medicine?
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WAIT A MINUTE! No
one appreciates it when their home, their office or even their store is
barged into. All the more so, when we appreciate just a bit Kedusha Beis
Hakenesses, should we recognize that we must enter with reverence, with
honor and with appreciation. At yesterday’s special shiur on Kedushas Beis
Hakenesses, HaRav Moshe Tuvia Lieff, Shlita, urged everyone to wait a moment
before entering a Shul and contemplate where exactly he was entering and
what he was going to do there!
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Special
Note One: A Rabbi, educator and
counselor advised us that he teaches people who are down, dejected and even
depressed--about the value of thinking and rethinking about three essential
life-enriching words--”Ain Od
Milevado!”--There is no One but Hashem --Hashem is the Source of
Everything, and he is a Maitiv--so that the situations that a person
encounters and the people he must meet are all Divinely Ordained--and for a
purpose. No one has been left to his fortune or to the elements; no
one has been forgotten about or rejected. Rather, if one acts in
accordance with the Torah as explained by his Rav or Posek, he is fulfilling
his purpose in this world, even if it may be different than what is
perceived as the normal, usual or ordinary lifestyle. In truth, no two
people--even husband and wife--have the same experiences. Every person
in his own unique way is under Hashem’s watchful eye. We are never alone,
for in the 120 years we are in this world--there is our Father in
Heaven who looks down upon us with cherish and endearment--who may simply be
asking or reminding us to acknowledge His guiding presence. In
difficult times, when it is hardest to feel it, is when we daven
--strengthening our ties and asking our Father for the Yeshuos we know only
He can grant.
Special Note Two: Tomorrow
is Pesach Sheni. HaRav Yaakov Tzvi Emden, Z’tl (“the Yaavetz”) writes
in his Siddur that:
“It was revealed to me
from Heaven why Pesach Sheni was established on the 14th
day of Iyar. After all, it would
not require more than two weeks for anyone who was impure or too far away on
Pesach itself to come to Yerushalayim and bring the Pesach Sheni. So,
why wait a month from the 14th of Nissan to the 14th of Iyar--the Pesach
Sheni could have already been brought by Rosh Chodesh Iyar?!” The
reason given to HaRav Emden from Heaven was that Bnei Yisroel had sufficient
Matzos to last from the time of our Exodus from Mitzraim for 30 days--until
the night of the 15th of Iyar! In other words, the Exodus, and all of
the Kedusha that came along with it, actually lasted for a full month after
the night of Makkas Bechoros and our gathering to leave the next morning.
The holiness that extended from Yetzias Mitzraim, then, extended until
tomorrow’s special day!
The Torah teaches (Bamidbar
9:10) that the actual Korban Pesach Sheni is brought when a person cannot
bring the Korban Pesach in its proper time--either because, for example, he
was rendered impure, or because he was too far away from the Courtyard of
the Bais HaMikdash at the time the original Pesach offering was to be
brought. The Luach Dovor B’Ito
writes that a great lesson of Pesach Sheni is that it teaches us
that it is never too late, and it is always possible, to “Remove your tumah”--shed
your impurity, and to come closer to Hashem after “Having been too far
away”. Accordingly, Pesach Sheni is a time of reflection and Teshuva.
We should take some time out to properly utilize the opportunity of
the day.
One final point on Pesach
Sheni: there is a difference in custom as to if and when one eats Matzah
tomorrow. According to one opinion, one should not eat Matzah, for it
may appear as if he is attempting to fulfill the Mitzvah of Matzah in an
improper time, which is a violation of the Torah’s prohibition against
adding onto the 613 Mitzvos. Others have the custom to eat Matzah
sometime during the day on the 14th, to remember that the Korbon
Pesach Sheni was brought today. A third opinion is to eat the Matzah
tonight, i.e., the night of the 15th of Iyar, for this would be
the night that the Korban Pesach Sheni was eaten together with Matzah and
Marror. Every person should follow his custom, or his Rav’s
guidance, in this area.
Special Note Three:
Tomorrow is also the Yahrtzeit of the Great Tanna, Rebbi Meir (also known as
Rebbe Meir Ba’al Haness). There are those who have the custom of
putting money in the Pushka L’Ilui
Nishmaso, and reciting “Aloka
D’Meir Anaini” three times. There are specific Tefillos which
are attributed to the Chasam Sofer relating to good health, blessing and
success; success in one’s business dealings and locating lost items which
one may recite any time during the year when placing money into a Pushka
L’Ilui Nishmas Rebbi Meir. To obtain copies of these tefillos,
one can contact the Rebbi Meir Ba’al Haness Kolel Shomrei Hachomos office
near you. They may also be found on the back of Pushkas distributed by
Kolel Shomrei Hachomos. May the Zechuyos of Rebbi Meir always stand in
our stead!
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12 Iyar
MONUMENTAL GATHERING! Yesterday, Rabbi Moshe
Tuvia Lieff, Shlita, hosted a monumental gathering on behalf of the
International Committee for the Preservation of Har Hazeisim, founded by
R’ Avrohom Lubinsky. This Committee is working very strenuously to
overturn the current lack-of-security and state-of-terror at Har Hazeisim in
order to make it accessible to our people. Rabbi Dovid Lau, Shlita,
Ashkenazic Chief Rabbi spoke and stated how just last week he went to the
Kever of Rabbeinu Ovadia M’Bartenura on Har Hazeisim. While there, he
received a call from the police asking him what in the world he, as Chief
Rabbi, was going up privately to such a dangerous place as the Bartenura’s
Kever?! The police asked him to wait there so that they could pick him up
and escort him out of the area. He replied that he was ashamed to do that,
and would not agree.
The
Novominsker Rebbe, Shlita, stated that the Kedushas Yerushalayim is,
according to the Rambam, an extension of the Kedushas HaMikdash--which
never left--and that we have an obligation to do what we can to preserve
this Kedusha!
Rabbi
Chaim Dovid Zweibel, Shlita, stated that it is a tragedy and travesty for
terror and vandalism to exist on such a holy place.
Rabbi Moshe Tuvia Lieff, Shlita, pointed out that Har Hazeisim was where the
Parah Adumah was brought--and we all know the great Kedusha of the Ma’aseh
Parah Adumah to which Mesechta Parah is dedicated. He added that we know, of
course, that there is a Chelkas HaNevi’im on the Har, and that Chagai,
Zechariah and Malachi--the last of our Nevi’im are buried there. Yet, in a
shocking revelation, he pointed out that between 1948-1967, under the
Jordanian government auspices and direction, 40,000 gravesites were
destroyed on Har Hazeisim alone. The Committee has arranged for
approximately 20,000 graves to be restored so far.
Please
click here for a brochure
entitled: “If They Can’t Rest, How Can We?”
To
learn more about the International Committee for the Preservation of Har
Hazeisim, email info@saveharhazeitim.org
or contact P.O. Box 190427, Brooklyn, NY 11219, 212-796-5388, www.saveharhazeitim.org
Checks should be made payable to the International Committee of Har Hazeitim.
Hakhel
Note: Please participate--please show that you care! As Rabbi Lieff put
it--it is a matter of Kavod Hashem Yisborach, Kavod Yisrael and Kavod Eretz
Yisrael!
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ONE
CASE WHERE SILENCE IS A RESPONSE! In response to reader
inquiry as to what they can do if their Shul does not have lockers with keys
in which to store cell phones prior to entry--may we suggest the next best
alternative, which is either to leave one’s phone in his coat pocket in
the Shul’s coat room--or if one does not feel that he can do so for
security reasons--then to turn the phone on silent prior to entering.
Remember--Hashem gave the idea of ‘silent’ to the cell phone
producer--let us use it wisely!
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Special Note
One: As we develop our Middos of Emunah and Bitachon during the week
following Parashas Behar, we note that the Chofetz Chaim writes that
learning Chumash with Rashi on the weekly Parasha is in and of itself a
source for strengthening one’s Emunah. Likewise, the meaningful
daily recital of the Rambam’s Thirteen Ani Ma’amins should guide us
greatly in growth in this area. Most certainly, our reading the
Shemone Esrei with feeling and focus--sincere belief in the words we are
saying, on a bracha by bracha basis--will alone significantly strengthen our
connection to true Emunah as well. We must remember that in the end,
Chabbakuk HaNavi advises--it will be “VeTzadik
Be’Emunasso Yichye-- it will come down to the righteous one living by
his Emunah.”
Special Note
Two: HaRav Matisyahu Salomon, Shlita, provides a special insight into
the Avodah of the Sefira Period based upon the words of the Sefer Avudraham
. The Avudraham brings the words of Yirmiyahu Hanavi (
5:20
-25) specifically referring to
Shavuos: “Shavuos Chukos Kotzir
Yishmor Lanu...”--in which Yirmiyahu reproves the people for “having
eyes but not seeing’ and for “having a heart that turns away” --for
failing to say in their hearts let us fear Hashem ...”
What do these words of reproof have to do particularly with Shavuos--what
is this Nevuah teaching us?
The Avudraham
explains that Hashem actually commanded us to count during the Sefira so
that we would feel the ‘tza’ar
ha’olam’--the pain of the world in desperate need of food and
livelihood during these days of judgment and harvest of crops of the field
and crops of the tree--and to turn to Hashem in Teshuva with a full heart,
and beseech Hashem to have mercy on us, on the earth and on all of
creation--”so that the crops will be as they should be, for if there is no
kemach there is no Torah.” In short, Rav Salomon, avers, the days of
Sefira are really like a second Elul--days in which we are to recognize the
Awe and Majesty of HaKadosh Baruch Hu, tremble before his awesome might, and
straighten out our ways. These weeks are oh so critical--our gashmius
and our ruchniyus depend on their outcome! It is for this reason that Chazal
(Megillah 31B) teach that we read the Tochacha of Bechukosai this Shabbos
--in advance of Shavuos--just as we read the Tochacha of Parashas Ki Savo in
advance of Rosh Hashana--the two are very much related--for we demonstrate
that we want to rid ourselves of any vestige of sin and any iota of
curse--and instead be successful going forward with our Shavuos and Rosh
Hashana.
To this end, the Radvaz
explains that we do not make a bracha of Shehechiyanu on Sefiras Ha’omer
because it is the pre-requisite Mitzvah to the Ikar Mitzvah of Shavuos.
The analogy is to Sukkos--where although building the Sukkah is a Mitzvah (Chag
HaSukkos Ta’aseh Lecha)--we wait to make the She’hechiyanu until we
actually dwell in the Sukkah--and then the She’hechiyanu is made on both
mitzvos. We are now accomplishing the equivalent of building the
Sukkah--just like there is no Chag HaSukkos without a Sukkah, we must build
ourselves up, make ourselves ready with the pre-requisite Mitzvah of Sefira
for the Ikar Mitzvah---Chag HaShavuos. The Navi teaches us how--’let
us fear Hashem, Who supplies rain...in its proper time, and Who preserves
for us the weeks appointed for the harvest!” We are to prepare with
Yiras Shomayim!
We have three weeks to hear
the words of Yirmiyahu Hanavi. In years gone by, we have experienced
many Tisha B’Avs in wonderment--how could they not have listened to
Yirmiyahu--A Tzadik, A Kohen, A Navi, who was so exceedingly Moser Nefesh
--risking his life time and time again in order to save us from a long and
bitter galus, and the Bais Hamikdash from devastation and destruction.
Now, it is our turn to test ourselves--will we listen to his cries, to his
heart wrenching pleading, to his prophetic appeal -- and do what we are
supposed to do during these fateful weeks?! We can begin,
suggested Rav Salomon, to demonstrate our Yiras Shomayim--our Awe for our
Creator--our recognition that He is the One and Only source of our ruchniyus
and gashmius-by taking the instruction of the Chofetz Chaim: At points
during the day simply stop what are you doing and think about the Ribono
Shel Olam. Realize that you have to watch yourself because it is
Hashem Himself Who is watching you.
Special
Note Three: We continue an exciting Monday/Thursday series on the
practical aspects of Sta”m, written by Rabbi Reuvain Mendlowitz, Shlita,
author of Inside Sta”m--An Insider Reveals The Answers To All
The Questions You Should Ask When Purchasing Or Maintaining Tefillin,
Mezuzos, Megillos, Sifrei Torah And Nevi’im.
For a fuller treatment of
all topics to be discussed, we urge you to purchase the Sefer, which
provides practical and meaningful information and ideas.
PART XXXXI
Question
When writing tefillin parashiyos, does it make a difference if the shel
yad is written first or if the shel rosh is written first?
Answer
There certainly is a minhag as to which comes first. Everyone
agrees, however, that if the minhag was not followed, the kashrus
of the tefillin is not affected.
With that in mind we will now discuss the minhag.
The Rema in Shulchan Aruch says that the shel yad should
preferably be written first since it is mentioned first in the pasuk:
וקשרתם
לאות על ידך
והיו
לטוטפות בין
עיניך .
Indeed, this is the minhag in almost all non-Chassidic Ashkenazi
communities.
The Arizal, however, felt that since the tefillin shel rosh has a
higher level of holiness than the tefillin shel yad,
the shel rosh should be written
first.
Moreover, the Arizal
clearly
stipulates that after the parashah of the tefillin shel rosh
is written, it should be inserted into the bayis shel rosh,
and then fully painted and sealed. Only after this stage should the shel
yad be written. Practically
speaking, though, this is very difficult to arrange. Therefore, it seems
that even someone generally accustomed to observing the Arizal’s minhagim would be well advised to have the parashah shel yad written
first (as the Rema
recommends), if he is unable to have the parashah
shel rosh written and inserted
into the bayis shel rosh
before the parashah shel yad is
written.
Once again, we are talking about how the sofer
should
have them written in the first place. If the order was reversed, there is no
problem at all and the tefillin are kosher l’mehadrin.
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9 Iyar
MESECHTA SHEVI’IS! The Parasha begins with the Mitzvah of
Shevi’is. As many may know (and as we have previously referenced), HaRav
Chaim Kanievsky, Shlita, has recently been strongly recommending to
individuals who want to undertake something as a tikun or as a zechus to
learn Mesechta Shevi’is, and the Halachos of Shevi’is. In this week’s Divrei
Si’ach, HaRav Yitzchak Goldshtoff, Shlita, provides a remarkable story
(on p. 1): A Gadol from
Europe
asked HaRav Chaim what he could do to
help remedy the tremendous pains he was experiencing in his legs. The Gadol
noted that he had done a Cheshbon
HaNefesh and could not determine why it was specifically his legs that
were in so much pain--and asked HaRav Kanievsky for a bracha and eitzah as
to what he could do for his legs to heal, so that he would not continue to
suffer in this way. HaRav Kanievsky responded that he should have a Refuah
Sheleimah, and advised that he should learn all that he could about
Shevi’is--the Mesechta (Yerushalmi), the Rambam…. HaRav Goldshtoff
provides his personal explanation as to why he believes HaRav Kanievsky is
insistent upon this study at this time--after all, it is not the Shemittah
year until next year? It is, Rabbi Goldshtoff suggests, because the bracha
that the Torah gives to those who are Shomrei Shevi’is already begins in
the sixth year of the Shemittah cycle (the year we are in!). In fact, HaRav Kanievsky, in his Sefer Ta’amah
Dikrah, points out that when the Torah refers to the seventh, eighth and
ninth years of the Shemittah cycle--Shevi’is, Sheminis and Tishi’is--these
years are missing the second yud in the word (as the second-to-last letter)--they are chaser
in the Torah. However, the sixth year is written with a yud--shishis
(as the second-to-last letter) to indicate that Hashem will bring His bracha
into the sixth year!
Hakhel Note:
For those who may be intimidated or daunted by the concept of learning the
Yerushalmi Shevi’is, we must HIGHLY
recommend the Artscroll two-volume Yerushalmi Shevi’is, with English
translation, commentary and notes. The Artscroll also contains tremendous
diagrams and descriptions of the boundaries of Eretz Yisrael--as this is an
important topic of the Mesechta. In a short period of time every day, one
can cover an Amud--and actually finish the Mesechta approximately on time by
Rosh Hashana--in time to review the Mesechta in
the Shemittah year itself. What an undertaking! What an accomplishment! What
a source of Bracha! Indeed, as so recommended by HaRav Kanievsky, may the
study of Mesechta Shevi’is and the Halachos of Shevi’is bring much
bracha into our homes--and may Shemittah be performed on a D’Oraysa
level--according to all opinions--in the coming year! Let us begin our study
now--with the hope and aspiration of Halacha L’Ma’aseh in all respects!
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Special Note
One: We continue with our Erev Shabbos--Halachos of Shabbos Series. The
following Halachos are excerpted from the Mishna Berurah (Vol.
III
, Dirshu Edition):
A. One may wash
dishes and utensils on Shabbos, as long as there is another meal or
additional food to eat, unless one knows that he does not need the dishes.
One may even wash on Friday night (Leil
Shabbos) for the sake of the Seudah tomorrow (but should not separate them
in a way which would constitute Borer, as explained by Rabbi Webster in his
Borer test, as previously provided). If one does have enough dishes and
utensils, the Shevet HaLevi writes that it is the better practice not to
wash them because of the tircha involved, and the Aruch HaShulchan (Orach
Chaim 323:7) writes that it is improper to wash utensils in this event (Shulchan
Aruch Orach Chaim 323, Mishna Berurah seif katan 27 and 28, and Dirshu Note
21).
B. HaRav Moshe
Feinstein, Z’tl (Igros Moshe, Orach Chaim 4:74, os 4) writes that one can place dirty dishes into his dishwasher on
Shabbos, effectively treating it as a cabinet, and there would be no issur
of hachana--of preparing the
dishes to be cleaned on Motza’ei Shabbos in the dishwasher. One may not,
however, stack them in the dishwasher to be set up in the order they need to
be cleaned--for that is a preparation for the weekday, and may also lead to
a violation of borer as a person separates larger and smaller utensils in
the dishwasher (ibid, Dirshu Note 22).
C. Although one
is generally not permitted to measure on Shabbos, as it constitutes an Uvdah
D’Chol, it is permitted to measure for the sake of a Mitzvah.
Accordingly, for instance, one could measure the items of food in a pot, in
order to determine whether there is bitul
b’shishim and whether the Halacha permits or prohibits the items in
the pot to be used (ibid., Dirshu Note 37).
D. One is
permitted to feed animals which are dependent for food upon him. Chazal make
dogs a special exception--and as long as it is not a
kelev rah (a wild dog)--one may feed dogs on Shabbos even if they do not
belong to him. It is inappropriate to feed the birds outside on Shabbos
(such as on Shabbos Shirah), as they are not domesticated animals (Shulchan
Aruch Orach Chaim 324, Mishna Berurah seif katan 31).
E. There is an
apparent disagreement among the Poskim as to whether one can loudly snap his
fingers in order to awake a sleeping person on Shabbos--as the production of
the sound may be prohibited based upon the issur
of tikun kli. As far as a person
placing his finger into his mouth and producing a sound, the Aruch
HaShulchan permits it--viewing it primarily as a song of the mouth, and not
noise produced by the hand in the mouth. The Chazon Ish, however, is of the
opinion that although one may whistle with his mouth--one should never place
his finger in his mouth to produce a sound as this is pritzus
(Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 338, Dirshu Note 3 and 4).
F. For various
reasons, it is forbidden to leave a microphone on before Shabbos, with the
intent of using it on Shabbos (see Igros Moshe Orach Chaim 3:55 and Orach
Chaim 4:84; Minchas Shlomo 1:9, Minchas Yitzchak 3:38 and Shevet HaLevi
1:66). If a Chazan is warned not to use a microphone on Shabbos and
nevertheless does so, the Igros Moshe (Yoreh De’ah 4-5) rules that he has
the Halacha of a Mechalel Shabbos
Befarhesyah (Orach Chaim 338, Dirshu Note 6).
G. The Shevet
HaLevi (1:61) rules that very small bells which decorate a Sefer Torah are
not intended to produce any real noise, and are therefore permissible to be
used as part of a Sefer Torah ornament on Shabbos (ibid. Dirshu Note 8,9).
Special Note
Two: Let us delve a bit further into the Shevi’is. One of the paradigm mitzvos given to us
by Hashem in order to affirm and strengthen our Bitachon is of course the
concept of Shemittah. We
are incredibly commanded to let the source of our Parnassah lay fallow and
open to all, and are, in turn, promised that we will be (according to the
laws of nature, miraculously) sustained and actually will prosper until new
crops begin to grow again in the eighth year (Vayikra 25:21). It is
important, very important, for us to realize, however, that the mitzvah of
Bitachon is not related only to the Sabbatical Year--or even to the strict
requirement that we not work one day a week on Shabbos Kodesh. Rather,
our Bitachon is built-up of even smaller building blocks, tangible to all on
a very recurring basis. With this awareness, HaRav Chaim Friedlander, Z’TL,
(Sifsei Chaim, Middos V’Avodas Hashem volume I, page 587) writes
that we can better understand the words of the Shelah HaKadosh (on the topic
“Emes V’Emuna”). The Shelah teaches that prior to undertaking
any act or item of accomplishment such as buying, selling, meeting with
someone, etc. one should say “Ani Botayach BaShem--I believe in Hashem,” recognizing that
the act and its outcome are totally in Hashem’s hands, and then relate it
to the specific action or event in front of you. This recognition,
appreciation, and actual statement, will have the added benefit of forging a
greater bond between your infinite Father and you as His son, and will help
to eliminate some of the worst human character traits possible--anger at
people for what they have done or not done for you; jealousy of others who
were successful in doing the same thing when you were not; and haughtiness
and pride over your personal ingenuity and craftiness. Rebbi Yisroel
Salanter, Z’tl, in letters to his son on Bitachon (Ohr Yisroel,
Letters 24-25), additionally advises him to draw upon the words of our
Tefilos, and the words of Tehillim, to inspire and develop a full faith and
trust that our very being--and our every being--is in Hashem’s great
Hands. For example, we recite in Pesukei D’Zimra, “Ashrei
SheKel Yaakov B’Ezro”--Praiseworthy is one whose hope is in
Hashem--He is the Maker of Heaven and Earth, the sea and all that is in
them, He safeguards truth forever…. In fact, once you take note, you
will find that Pesukim relating to Bitachon abound—“Kavei El
Hashem…” (Tehillim 27:14); “Einai Tomid El Hashem…”
(Tehillim 25:15)….Bitachon is such a crucial aspect of our existence.
We must take the time out to be fluent with a few Pesukim (from our
davening or otherwise) relating to Bitachon which should calm us and put the
actions and events of our life in Torah perspective, and follow the advice
of the Shelah HaKadosh--start by saying the words “Ani Boteyach
Ba’Shem” in the everyday and the not-so everyday circumstances and
occurrences that we face or that come our way--no--that Hashem brings our
way!!
We are handed so many straightforward and simple, daily gifts and
opportunities to build and refine our trust in Him daily. Hashem is not
looking to find fault with us--instead, He gives us all that we need, at no
charge, and many times without any additional effort, to come close. As
HaRav Chaim Shmulevitz, Z’tl, is famous for teaching, the young child who
is in his mother’s lap on the bus ride from Tel Aviv to Yerushalayim does
not consider himself to be in or near Tel Aviv, Yerushalayim, Lod,
Mevasseret, or any of the other cities sighted or seen along the way; the
child views himself as only being in his mother’s lap--no matter where he
is. We have to start feeling the purity of that child in our daily
Tefillos and in our daily experiences. If we can, we will take the
lessons of the Parasha with us this week, and, moreover, we will be taking
the ‘final’ instructions of Chabakuk:”VeTzaddik
Be’Emunaso Yichye”:--bringing Emunah to life--which in the end will
be the ‘Yichye---the source of life for us itself!
Special
Note Three: Rashi writes at the beginning of the Parasha, that from the
fact that the Torah states that the mitzvah of Shemita was given at Sinai,
we learn that all Mitzvos were given there, even if not explicitly
stated.
Let
us examine this for a moment. What did Sinai initially provide to us?
It provided our connection, our relationship to Hashem for all time--for
mankind never again experienced the event, nor needed to. Why not?
Because the Mitzvos embody and carry Har Sinai with us daily. Had we
remained at Har Sinai forever, we would have needed no Torah and Mitzvos,
for our relationship with Hashem would have always remained on that
skyscraping altitude. But this was not the world’s purpose.
So, the Torah teaches, it is through Shemittah, with all the other Mitzvos
derived therefrom, that we are to extend our Har Sinai experience--our
unbelievable connection and relationship with Hashem into everyday life.
We
additionally suggest that Parashas Behar is always read close to Shavuos,
for it teaches us what can bring us close to Har Sinai. Let us see
what the next Mitzvah is after Shemittah in the Parasha--it is “Lo Sonu...”--the great
prohibition against cheating or deceiving someone else. Even if
Shemittah does not apply today to the same extent as it will when the Geulah
comes (B’EH for this cycle!), the Mitzvah of Lo
Sonu most certainly applies in our times in full force. In fact,
there is a very detailed Siman in Shulchan Aruch (Choshen Mishpat, 227) that
provides the Halacha in many, many “tricky” situations. In order
for us to fathom the paramount relevance of honesty in monetary matters with
our relationship with Hashem, we need only look to the Gemara in
Shabbos(31A), which teaches and reminds us that the **FIRST** question that
a person will be asked after 120 years is--”Did you deal honestly in
business?”
JUST
AS
SHEMITA FORGES OUR EMUNAH IN HAKADOSH BARUCH HU--SO
TOO
DOES
DEALING HONESTLY
AND
PROPERLY IN BUSINESS
AND
FINANCIAL MATTERS FOSTER, DEVELOP
AND
BUILD THAT VERY SAME RELATIONSHIP.
As
we have suggested in the past, perhaps, then, it is also no coincidence that
the word “cheat” is so closely
related to the word “chait”--sin--for
a key aspect of chait--a real source of estrangement from HaKadosh Baruch Hu
is deceit, for it destroys the connection established at Sinai and fostered
in us for thousands of years.
Whether
as consumers, businessman, housewives, professionals or even Rabbis and
teachers, we are constantly faced with judgment calls--whose money is this?
Is it mine or is it his? Shouldn’t it be mine? Although there
are those who have defined capitalism as the economics of putting your money
into my pocket, we suggest that the Torah defines economics as the great
method of maintaining and expanding a close relationship with your Maker.
Every little struggle, and certainly every greater struggle, in this area
brings us infinitely closer to that very time that our very souls stood at
Sinai!
Special Note Four: There is
a second aspect of Lo Sonu
presented in the Parasha (Vayikra 25:17): “VeLo
Sonu Ish Es Amiso…--each of you shall not aggrieve his fellow.”
Accordingly, we once again present below the penetrating listing of
statements constituting Ona’as
Devarim, as culled from The Power
of Words, by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin, Shlita.
It would most certainly pay to review this listing from time-to-time,
to keep one’s mind and tongue in check.
Please feel free to share it with your friends and help turn the
period between Pesach and Shavuos into a true Chol
HaMoed--as the Ramban refers to it!
Careful--don’t say:
-
“How
many times do I have to tell you?”
-
“If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you
1,000 times.”
-
“I told you so.”
-
“Didn’t I tell you not to…”
-
“You forgot again?”
-
“I think that it runs in your family.”
-
“You look like I feel.”
-
“This time you’ve outdone yourself.”
-
“Who appointed you king?”
-
“You’re off your rocker.”
-
“Klutz!”
-
“You make no sense.”
-
“Who cares what you think?”
-
“You don’t match.”
-
“You’re impossible.”
-
“You forgot to make supper again?”
-
“How can you live in this mess?”
-
“You keep on making the same mistake.”
-
“Leave me alone!”
-
“You never…/You… always”
-
“Can’t you take a joke?”
-
“I don’t believe you.”
-
“You blew it!”
-
“What’s wrong with you?”
-
“What do you think you are doing?”
-
“Where are your brains?”
-
“What a nerd!”
-
“You really overpaid for this thing.”
-
“Let me show you the right way to do it.”
-
“I know that this is hard for someone like
you, but…”
May we suggest that, to battle Ona’as Devarim,
one work on appropriate phrases that become part and parcel of his/her every
day lexicon? Here is a small
sampling--please feel free to liberally add to the list!
-
It’s
a privilege to know you.
-
You
have a knack for doing the right thing.
-
I
need your advice.
-
You
really bought this at a good price.
-
Smart!
-
I’m
impressed.
-
It
looks so good on you.
-
You
remind me of your father/mother.
-
I
really appreciate your effort.
-
You
do so many good things.
-
You
are truly the right person to be around.
-
How
do you find time to do all of this?
-
This
is delicious.
-
Can
I give you a bracha?
-
Can
you give me a bracha?
-
What
a wonderful idea.
-
You
probably know the answer to this.
-
I
know you’re someone I can count on.
-
Beautiful!
-
My
compliments to the chef.
-
You
look like a million dollars.
-
Your
parents did something right.
-
Some
people really have their head on straight.
-
You
did a great job.
-
What
a chesed!
-
You
have amazing taste.
-
You
are so special.
-
You
did this all by yourself?
-
I
know that your word is your bond.
-
You’re
great!
Hakhel
Note: If you can discuss this at the Shabbos table--any additional notes,
comments and suggestions that you could provide to us would be very much
appreciated!
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8 Iyar
SHATNEZ ALERT FROM THE VAAD
L’MISHMERES SHATNEZ:
By eating an insect, one violates a
maximum of 5 issurim. By wearing
Shatnez, one violates many issurim
per hour!
Testing your garments for
Shatnez is vital is protecting yourself from wearing Shatnez.
One does have an obligation
to test his garments for Shatnez. Reliance on claims from storeowners and
salespersons should be avoided. Additionally, one should test his garments
only at a qualified Shatnez laboratory. Substandard testers will label
Shatnez garments as being Shatnez-free. Unfortunately, this has been shown
over and over again.
It is strongly recommended
for schools, especially high schools and seminaries, to educate their
students on the necessity of testing one’s garments for Shatnez. The Lakewood Shatnez Laboratory gives school
presentations. You may contact Rabbi Yosef Sayagh at 732-330-4103 or at Shatnezhedqtrs@verizon.net.
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CLOSE
YOUR
EYES
FOR A MINUTE: In
the fast-paced world we live in, it is difficult to collect our thoughts,
even more so to do a deliberate Cheshbon
HaNefesh. We see how quickly our computers, cell phones and other
technological equipment operate--and for some reason the Yetzer Hara
convinces us that we have to move our thought processes at this pace as
well. Perhaps we owe it to ourselves to designate at least a minute or so in
the morning and in the evening--as a time to sit and close our eyes in order
to think about a particular middah or an area of Teshuvah or Mitzvos we are
or should be working on. The rapid pace of the world around us--should not
interfere with the attention and with the care--that we deserve to give
ourselves!
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Special
Note One: We are now only four
weeks from the giving of the Torah in 5774.
The following is excerpted from the wonderful work Leading Jews Back by Rabbi Sholom Smith, Shlita, based upon the
teachings of HaRav Avraham Pam, Z’tl: “What did Rus see in Naomi that
impressed her so much? The
Midrash (Rus Rabbah 2:5)
gives an explanation: Why was she called Naomi?
Because her actions were sweet and pleasant. Rus saw in Naomi
what a life devoted to Torah and Avodas
Hashem can do for a person. She
saw her sterling middos, her
nobility of spirit, her warmth and caring personality.
That was what attracted Rus and motivated her to give up a life of
ease and luxury and “return” to Yiddishkeit as a penniless, widowed
convert, forced to live off the charity of others.
This is the enormous power a
person with a pleasant, warm personality and good middos
has on other people. He
or she attracts followers like a magnet and can have great influence on
their lives. This is a proven
method to bring closer to Yiddishkeit
those who are estranged from the heritage of their forefathers.
While philosophical discussions and intellectual discourses are
certainly tools in bringing Ba’alei Teshuvah back to their roots, a critical factor is to
show how the ways of Torah are
pleasant and all its pathways are peace (Mishlei 3:17). This has the
drawing power to influence people to a Torah way of life.
Derech Eretz precedes Torah
(Vayikra Rabbah 9:3). This
concept underlines the vital importance of Torah Jews conducting themselves
with the utmost courtesy and respect in their interpersonal relationships.
They must not forget that wherever they go--whether in the business
or professional world, or as neighbors or friends--they represent the
Torah. One does not have
to be a Rabbi or kiruv professional
to influence others. Every Torah
Jew presents an image to those around him which, depending on his conduct,
will either bring others closer to Yiddishkeit or, c’v, cause estrangement from it.
It is a responsibility that should not be taken lightly.
This can be seen by the great
influence one woman (Naomi) has on another (Rus), which set into motion the
chain of events which led to the founding of Malchus Bais Dovid and planted
the seeds of Moshiach.
Hakhel
Note: Let us start somewhere--Do
you hold the door open with a smile for a few seconds in order to benefit
the next person (whom you do not know) in stores and office buildings…?
Special Note Two: The
following is excerpted from the Sefer HaRav
Schach: Conversations, compiled by his son in-law Rabbi Asher Bergman,
Shlita, and translated into English by Rabbi Yaakov Blinder, Shlita: “Rav
Schach said that one of the things that moves
him tremendously
is contemplating the amazing power of concealment of
Hashem’s hand in creation. ‘Other people wonder why we don’t see
miracles and visible proofs for faith in
Hashem,’ he said, ‘but
I am amazed at the tremendous power that man receives from Heaven to
be able to disregard the facts that virtually shout
into his ears: ‘Here
is proof for your faith in Hashem!’ People
say that nowadays we don’t
see miracles. But a rational person can
see that every lifting
of one’s hand is a miracle, as
well as every
glance with the eye. See
how a little piece of flesh can move
around and be able to see things, and to provide information to
the brain, which
interprets and analyzes it. These
facts declare, as clearly as the sun
shines: ‘U’mibesar Echezeh Elo’ak--from
my flesh I see Hashem’ (Iyov
19:26
). One who ponders such things just a tiny bit can already sense the beauty of creation
that Hashem
brought into being in order to bestow His
beneficence upon us. Yet,
along with the obviousness of Hashem’s
presence, He created the ability to be oblivious to the obvious,
providing an enigma:
On the one hand,
one who truly contemplates
the beneficence of the Creator is so impressed with the
G-dliness of the world that he wonders how it is possible that there
could be evil in the world, so
manifest is Hashem’s
goodness to us. Yet,
on the other hand,
those who close their eyes and minds
ask precisely the opposite question - ‘Where
is G-d?’--and
look for proofs for faith in Him. It is incredible how at the same time
there is both clarity and concealment; it is all so simple, yet so hidden!
Let us consider another aspect of this marvel.
We see that man’s desire to attain
physical comfort and pleasure drives him into undertaking the greatest toil
in order to achieve them. It
would seem that man’s
recognition of the truth should be
at least as strong as these drives, and
should stir within man the strongest desires to foster a relationship with
his Creator and do His will.
We have seen throughout history that nations are willing to sacrifice
millions of lives for ideals and beliefs that were the products of their own
minds. ‘Should
our sacrifice for our perfect Torah be any less valid than their idle
prattle?!’ (Menachos
65b).
“The realization and feeling that man was not created by
accident, and that there is a Mastermind Who runs the world’s events are
basic and natural in man’s soul and instinct from the day of his birth.
Just a minimum of truthful contemplation
and deliberation will bring any man to
clear conclusions regarding man’s essence and his
obligation in this world, namely
that he must channel all the power of his
body and soul to do the will of the Creator.
All this is so simple and natural.
It can only be a divine miracle of the
highest magnitude that these obvious facts go unnoticed and unrealized for
so many people.”
Hakhel Note: Oh, how we must act on this penetrating teaching!
Special
Note Three: We continue an exciting Monday/Thursday series on the
practical aspects of Sta”m, written by Rabbi Reuvain Mendlowitz, Shlita,
author of Inside Sta”m--An Insider Reveals The Answers To All
The Questions You Should Ask When Purchasing Or Maintaining Tefillin,
Mezuzos, Megillos, Sifrei Torah And Nevi’im.
For a fuller treatment of
all topics to be discussed, we urge you to purchase the Sefer, which
provides practical and meaningful information and ideas.
PART XXXX
Question
Are all Yidden permitted to wear tefillin written according to any minhag?
(I.e. can an Ashkenazi borrow tefillin from a Teimani; a Sephardi from a
Chassid etc.?)
Answer
Tefillin by definition include three components: 1. Battim 2. Retzuos 3.
Parashiyos.
Regarding Battim: All (kosher) battim may be worn by any member of
K’lal Yisrael. However, when borrowing tefillin made according to minhag
Chabad, extreme caution must be exercised to ensure that the placement of
the tefillin shel yad is precise. Due to their extremely large size this is
often difficult.
Regarding Retzuos: All (kosher) retzuos can be worn by any member of
K’lal Yisrael.
Regarding Parashiyos: All (kosher) parashiyos can be worn by any member
of K’lal Yisrael with two notable exceptions.
1.
Most contemporary
Sephardi poskim are of the opinion that parashiyos written
according to the Taz (explained in the previous installment) are pasul
for Sephardim. Practically speaking, since most Ashkenazi parashiyos are
written in this fashion, a Sephardi should not make a berachah when using
tefillin of an Ashkenazi. (Unless he knows for a fact that they were not
written like the Taz.)
There
is some discussion among the poskim as to whether this applies to the shel
rosh as well. Indeed, Ashkenazi poskim are lenient regarding a shel rosh
which has an incorrectly written shiur parashah. (Since they are written on
separate pieces of klaf each section is freestanding and unrelated to any
other). This also seems to be the position of the Beis Yosef. Nevertheless,
contemporary Sephardi poskim are stringent regarding the shel rosh as well.
2.
Very often tefillin
written in the Chabad style of writing (Alter Rebbe Kesav) contain various
letter forms that are not considered kosher by the poskim. Hence, such
tefillin should be avoided by one who does not follow minhag Chabad in all
areas.
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7 Iyar
KINGS HIGHWAY (CONTINUED):
A Brooklyn community activist
called the New York State Kashruth Enforcement Division which came down to
the bagel store in question and “had the store remove some signage as well
as require the store to post a sign stating clearly that Kosher and
Non-Kosher products are sold.” We
all can take action!
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6
CONSTANT MITZVOS
LINK
:
By
clicking here, we remind our readers of
the beautiful Nexus between the 6 Constant Mitzvos and the words Baruch
Attah Hashem Elokeinu Melech HaOlam contained in every bracha.
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CELL
PHONE PLEASURES: Although
what one does with his cell phone may not always make him happy--and one may
feel personally compromised by the way the cell phone has in a sense
overtaken so many aspects of his everyday life, we note the following two
special pleasures one can obtain from his cell phone:
1. In addition to using it as an alarm clock for arising in the
morning, one can additionally use it as an alarm clock reminder to daven
Mincha, to daven Ma’ariv, to count Sefirah, and other Mitzvah activities.
As to whether should actually use it as a siddur to daven from, one should
first consult with his Rav or Posek.
2. At Agudas Yisroel Snif Zichron Shmuel in Flatbush (under the
leadership of Rabbi Eliezer Ginsburg, Shlita) immediately outside of the
inner entrance to the shul there is a series of special small lockers with
keys in the lock(as in a bus station or airport, but here without charge).
Prior to entering Shul, one simply puts his cell phone inside, locks it and
takes the key before he enters the Shul itself. What a pleasure-filled
experience! Spending quality time with one’s Creator and one’s
self--without interference from beeps, buzzes, temptations and worldly
affairs--making his time in Shul a truly spiritual experience!
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Special Note One: It is
well known that HaRav Dessler, Z’tl, teaches and reiterates that our
Holidays are not mere commemorations and remembrances of glorious events
that took place in years past, but are times in which we re-experience and
relive those very events and occurrences. Thus, every Pesach we are to feel
and arrive at new levels of freedom, and at Shavuos we are to undertake a
new echelon of Torah acceptance and study.
So what is it that we are
supposed to be re-experiencing during the Sefira period itself? Most likely,
there were no concerts or CDs in the desert that Bnei Yisroel were forced to
miss, so that could not be it. It also cannot simply be an abstinence from
barbers and barber shops for an extended period of time. At a Hakhel Shiur,
Rabbi Eliyahu Schneider, Shlita, provided the following wonderful insight:
The Sefer HaChinuch writes
that the purpose of the Sefira is for us to count up to Shavuos, instilling
within us a sense of appreciation, excitement and enthusiasm. As we slowly
but surely progress through the Omer period, we must rid ourselves to the
greatest extent possible of the robotic nature in which we may perform our
mitzvos, and any mental stupor we may experience while listening to a Shiur.
We must teach ourselves that Torah and Mitzvos cannot be comprised only of
“doing today’s daf”, or “learning the two Halachos”. Of course, it
is essential that we have goals, and guide ourselves with certain daily
accomplishments. However, we must infuse a genuine desire and drive into our
Torah study and Mitzvah performance. As Rabbi Schneider points out, even
though fish live in water, when it rains they come to the surface, as if
they are thirsting for the new drops of the life-giving liquid, even though
they are already surrounded by it!
Indeed, Hakhel (forgive the
plug), is one of the last Mitzvos in the Torah for this very reason. What
does Hakhel represent? After all, could not everyone simply study the
Parashios recited at Hakhel either at home, in Shul, or at a Shiur? Why did everyone--men, women and children of all ages have to ascend to the
Bais HaMikdash on one particular day to hear a portion of the Torah being
read?!
Rabbi Schneider suggests
that Hakhel not only represented the study of Torah, but the experience of Torah. Every so often, one must reinvigorate
himself and excite himself about the
great opportunity that awaits him every day. It is an opportunity shared by
a minute, actually, very minute, percentage of all the people in the world.
Just as people may forget to appreciate their eyesight, their ability to
walk, that they have a job, food, clothing, so, too, may they forget to
consider the infinite and eternal Torah that is or can be their daily
companion.
Let us take the last
several weeks before Shavuos to learn Torah with the effort and energy, with
the exhilaration and enthusiasm, that it really, truly deserves!
Special Note Two: In honor of our recognition that we need Torah
as a fish needs water, we provide the following five brief questions and
answers relating to Torah study that were asked of HaRav Chaim Kanievsky,
Shlita, as excerpted from the Kuntres
Derech Torah:
A. Question: When we
recite Birchas HaTorah in the morning, we immediately thereafter recite
Birkas Kohanim. Why do we recite these Pesukim? Answer:
It is a Siman Bracha (see Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 47, Mishna Berurah
seif katan 20). The Kuntres itself
brings that there are 60 letters in Birkas Kohanim corresponding to the 60
Mesechtas of the Talmud.
B. Question: Why do we
recite Eilu Devarim She’ein Lahem
Shiur after Birkas Kohanim? Answer:
Because it ends with the words V’Talmud
Torah K’neged Kulam--allowing us to appreciate where Birkas HaTorah leads
us!
C. Question: Based
upon the words of the Rema in Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim 155 and the Mishna
Berurah there, it appears that one should set aside a specific place in the
Beis HaMidrash in which he learns. Is this a chiyuv as it is in Tefillah? Answer:
It is an Inyan Gadol.
D. Question: If one is
learning in Kollel and is being paid for doing so--does he still have a
separate chiyuv to be Kove’ah Itim
LaTorah without pay? Answer: Since
the Kollel student could have been doing something else during that time for
which he could have been paid, his Kollel study is considered as a Keviyus
Itim LaTorah.
E. Question: If one
has a Mitzvah that no one else can perform, or must make a doctor’s
appointment, i.e., a permitted circumstance for which he may interrupt his
learning and he has a choice between doing so during the day or at night--is
it preferable to interrupt his learning by day--or by night? Answer:
One’s day time learning is more important--see Eruvin 65A.
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6 Iyar
AMONG THE READER RESPONSES: In reference to your question of why
Lag BaOmer is not called Lag LaOmer according to Nusach Sefard:
1.
Lag Ba’Omer is the Yahrtzeit of the Rema, so in deference to him
Nusach Sefard refers to the Yom Tov as he would have.
2. The Rashbi
was a gilgul of Moshe, and Lag Ba’Omer
has a Gematria of 345, like Moshe.
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ANOTHER KIND OF COUNT: The Chofetz Chaim provides simple
guidance as to how a person can accrue thousands of Mitzvos over the course
of a year: If one consciously decides not to say certain words about a
person, a family, or a group--then each word is a separate Mitzvah in
Shemiras Halashon. Assuming a person spares himself of uttering only ten
inappropriate words a day (just one or two sentences)--then he has accrued a
minimum of 10 x 365 or 3,650 Mitzvos. Considering that each Mitzvah lasts
for eternity--this is a lot of eternity!
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awareness and understanding of the fundamental mitzvah of Kiddush Hashem, and the vital
role it plays in the life of every Jew. For important and practical (free)
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KINGS HIGHWAY
ALERT: We have been asked to alert
the public that there are two ‘bagel stores’ along the
Kings
Highway
strip in
Brooklyn
in which in one carefully reads the sign it is only the ‘bagels’ that
are certified as Kosher. If one
enters the store he may (but not necessarily will) realize that all of the
items that could be placed on the bagel such as cheeses and the like are not
Kosher, (for there is a kashrus certification relating only to the bagels)
that is displayed. The lesson:
When one enters a food establishment for the first time--before purchasing
anything, he should survey the situation to ensure that the Kashrus really
meets his standards--and indeed that everything in the establishment is
Kosher at all!
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Special Note
One: One additional point on yesterday’s note regarding Yom
Ha’atzma’ut: Once each of us recognizes that his brother is indeed
following the p’sak of a Rav or Posek, he should appreciate and respect
this fact. We can achieve the final Geulah through Tefillah, through
Tzedakah and through Ahavas Yisrael. We provide the following additional compelling
insight on Geulah from the Sefer Geulah
B’Rachamim by Rabbi Pinchas Winston, Shlita.
“In a world of about 6.6 billion people, it is hard to imagine making a
difference to history. Even if we talk only about the Jewish nation, which has a population of about 12 million people worldwide, it is hard to imagine, for the average Jew, making a significant impact on the direction and success of the Jewish people as a whole.
However, often what stands between the makers and the pawns of history is not money, position, or power. It is usually two
things:
perception of a problem and the desire to do something about it. You can’t fix something that you can’t see is broken, and, you won’t try to fix that which you think you can’t fix. A person who was planning a project
to have a significant, and seemingly impossible, impact on the Jewish people was asked, “What do you
expect to do? How do you expect to reach that many people, and, even if you reach them, how do you expect them to change their minds and get them to hear your message?” Undaunted, he answered, “What difference does it make?
What is the alternative, no project at all?
If I do nothing, I will fail for sure.
If I do something, even if I fail, I will know, at least, that I did my best to succeed.” Don’t forget that Pinchas required 12 miracles to make him successful against Zimri (Bamidbar Rabbah
20:26
). In other words, naturally speaking, the odds
were stacked against him, and yet, that didn’t
stop him, because win or lose, he had to choose, and he chose to make a difference.
This is what Chazal
teach:
One who comes to purify himself, they help him...
“One who comes to sanctify himself, they sanctify him” (Shabbos 104a). In other words, our responsibility is to make the
effort, to take steps in the right direction, and leave the rest up to Heaven.
We only have to make an
opening the size of a pinhole, and Heaven will find a way to drive a wagon
through it. In Hashem’s world, small efforts can have huge effects, when they are in the right direction and with the right intention.
As we learn from the Torah, crises, from a Divine perspective, are really spiritual opportunities.
As chaotic as history can seem to become, it
is never out of control, at least not out of Hashem’s control. Even in the worst circumstances, there remains an opportunity to rise to the
occasion and make a difference on some level. In the Torah, Pinchas merited to end the crisis in his time because he had developed himself
into the kind of zealot who
could perform the necessary deed.
The daughters of Tzelofchad merited to teach an important law regarding inheritance of Eretz Yisroel because of their inherent love of the land, like their great ancestor before them (Rashi, Bamidbar 27:4).
“If we plan to make a difference during the quiet times, then Hashem will find a way to give us the opportunity to do so during the times of crisis.”
Hakhel Note:
The next move is up to each and every one of us--please think about
it--and do something!
Special
Note Two: Before taking leave of
Parashas Emor, we must provide one final dramatic but practical teaching of
the Rabbeinu Bachya, derived from the parasha of the mekalel. Rabbeinu
Bachya writes that the mekalel did not simply brazenly utter Hashem’s name
with r’l a curse connected to
it--he slowly and surely expressed the Name--with aforethought and intent.
If this one time act, teaches Rabbeinu Bachya, was able to shorten,
to snuff out, the mekalel’s life by sekila
being meted out against him, then IMAGINE, just IMAGINE the arichus
yomim, the bracha, that a life long dedication to reciting Hashem’s name
slowly and surely when reciting a bracha will bring to each and every one of
us. Such is r’l
the power of a kelala for the wrongdoer--and
such is the power of a bracha for
us--as the zerah beirach Hashem--to learn and apply.
Remember: Not fast and
gobbled, or even mediocre and unthinking --but Slow and Sure.
The difference is, literally, life itself!
Special
Note Three: Many in the Northern Hemisphere have recently witnessed the
pretty blooming of trees with stunning pink, purple and white petals.
However, these beautiful works of Hashem then fall off of the tree within
days of their formation. This
may seem disappointing and discouraging. After
such a long winter--why does the pretty blossom--with all of its beautiful
colors--last for such a short period? Should
we not celebrate the rebirth of nature for a longer time than that? HaRav
Ezriel Erlanger, Shlita, provides an essential insight. In
thinking about it a bit more--we must realize that the essence of a fruit
tree is really its fruit, and the essence of a non-bearing fruit tree is its
leaves, and the shade, the cool wind, the photosynthetic process that they
provide. The blossoming of the
tree can in a sense be compared to the rocket which launches a spaceship,
and then must separate and fall back into the atmosphere. The rocket is very
important--but the essence is the spaceship itself. In life, we must realize
that which is ikar, that which is
vital--and that which is tafel. In
our own lives, we should consider the Mitzvos and Ma’asim Tovim as the
‘fruit’ of our existence, and that which we must do (including the
servicing of our bodies) as the means to attain this goal. As we count
through the Sefirah towards Kabbalas HaTorah--we must remind ourselves that
we are going somewhere--we are headed in a direction, we are clear as to
what is the tafel of life--and
what is the ikar!
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5 Iyar
TWO QUESTIONS RELATING TO SEFIRAS HAOMER:
1. According to Nusach
Sefard, one says: “….Hayom Esrim
Yom LaOmer”. Yet, the 33rd day of the Omer seems to be
universally known as Lag BaOmer.
According to Nusach Sefard, would it not be Lag
LaOmer?
2. From a Reader: Why when
counting days and at the beginning of the first day, we say “one day”
even though it’s only the beginning of the first day, yet we only start
mentioning weeks when we CONCLUDE a week?! Should we not say something
like “today is one day which is in the first week of the Omer”?
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FROM A READER: “About bracha improvement regarding bracha acharonah, I try to
think briefly of the gashmi benefits: the taste, the satisfaction of thirst
or hunger, the calories ingested -- but quickly go on to the ruchni
thoughts: that HaShem provided
JUST
this food or drink for me for now; that He keeps a constant
watch over me, guides me in all my paths, leads me to do His works which I
now will do by saying the bracha acharona; that it is obvious and clear to
me that HaShem wants me to be alive and well so I can do His will and serve
Him in the best way I can; that He is Echad, v’Ayn Od Milvado; and that I
should work to improve my avoda by saying this bracha with kavanah and with
hakaras hatov. I then try to do just that ... and sometimes I
actually succeed!
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Special Note One: It is
obvious that improving our respect for each other is a key feature of our
Sefira Period. Set forth below are a number of Kavod Improvement
Suggestions culled from Mussar Seforim. We welcome your additional
insights or improvement in this crucial area during this timely period:
1. In Pirkei Avos, we
learned (2:5): ‘Yehi Kavod Chavercha Chaviv Alecha KeShelach--let
the honor of your friend be as dear to you as your own honor.’ When
in doubt as to how to react to, or treat your friend, keep this Ma’amar
Chazal in mind!
2. Look at your
friend while speaking to him, and do not occupy yourself with something else
at the same time.
3. Smile at your
friend--and make him feel that it is important for you to be with him.
4. Be happy when your
friend is happy, and feel troubled when he is troubled.
5. When your friend is
undergoing a Nisayon, apply yourself so that you can best appreciate
how to help him.
6. Avoid a witty
repartee which only make you look good or funny, but will not benefit your
friend, or may even hurt him.
7. If you had a
disagreement with your friend, ask for forgiveness first, before he asks
you.
8. Chazal teach that
Bais Hillel would present the opinion of Bais Shammai first--let your friend
always speak or go first.
9. From time-to-time
think--My friend is a Tzelem Elokim--someone who Hashem has
especially created for a specific purpose in life. I know him--so I
have something to do with his purpose!
10. Do not yell,
scream, or speak coarsely but speak gently, remember that you are speaking
to a member of Hashem’s Royal Household!
Special Note Two: We
provide our annual note on Yom Ha’Atzma’ut:
Tomorrow will be celebrated
in some of our communities (in various ways), and not celebrated in others.
We all know the different approaches and sentiments on the topic--and note
that in the Third Beis Hamikdash described by Yecheskel there will be 12
entrances, for there can be different approaches to the one Avodah. What we
may add is that however one does or does not celebrate, observe or
perform--it should be done in accordance with the teachings of his ultimate
Rav or Posek. There can be much misinformation or misguidance, and a
person can conduct himself based upon what he believes to be correct,
without further consultation --and this is the part that is wrong. As
a case in point, we note that HaRav Yosef Ber Soloveitchik, Z’tl,
Rav of Boston, And Rosh HaYeshiva of RIETS, was in the Yeshiva on Yom
Ha’Atzma’ut 5738 (1978)--one of the latter years of his giving Shiurim.
He davened Shacharis in the Morgenstern dormitory minyan, which
davened with Hallel. Later that morning, rather than giving Shiur on
Perek HaZahav (the 4th perek of Bava Metziah which was being studied that
Z’man in his Shiur), Rav Soloveitchik, obviously upset, instead gave Shiur
on the importance of keeping the Tzuras HaTefillah intact. Shemone Esrei is
followed by Chazaras Hashatz, which is followed by Tachanun, and then
followed by Ashrei and U’va Letzion--and we do not have the right or
privilege of changing that, he opined. Rav Soloveitchik continued that
if one wanted to express his personal gratitude or thanks to Hakadosh Baruch
Hu, he could recite the Chapters of Hallel in Tehillem (Chapters 113-118)
after davening. Now, this is not to say that Rav Soloveitchik had a
different opinion in earlier years or in later years (we do not know either
way)--but it is to say that someone was not following his Rebbe if he knew
what his opinion was at that time--and still recited Hallel in place of
Tachanun in order to make his own personal statement. On the other
hand, if one’s final Halachic authority is the Rabbanut, his practice
should be different. This ruling will be different than that of the
Badatz-Yerushalayim. What does your ultimate Rabbinic authority say?
A person must look upwards for answers --not to himself, downwards or
sideways. The following is really true: A person collecting
tzedaka on behalf of a yeshiva in France, promoting Torah among more needy
Sefardi families, was asked by a potential donor whether his yeshiva said
Hallel on Yom Ha’Atzma’ut (we won’t reveal which way he wanted
the answer to come out)--and the answer would be the determining factor as
to whether he received a donation. The collector gave the ‘wrong’
answer and was promptly escorted out empty-handed. Would any Rabbinic
authority make this one question the sole determining factor as to whether a
Torah institution was to be supported or helped, even minimally? We
doubt it--but we suggest that the Shaila should be asked rather than allow
emotions or sentiments to override the Halacha one must follow as an Eved
Hashem --which, by definition, is always the right thing to do.
Hakhel Note:: We
are all in agreement that the Geulah Sheleima has not yet come, and that the
world would be a much better place if we could bring it. We know
for a fact that when Bnai Yisroel cried out to Hashem (Vayizaku),
that Hashem heard their cries (VaTa’al Shavassam), and
‘remembered’ the bris that He had made with our Avos (Shemos 2:23,24).
As our Geulah from Mitzrayim is the paradigm of our future Geulah--may we
suggest that we begin to take the special effort to cry out to Hashem in the
brachos of Shemone Esrei relating to Geulah. This does not mean that one
needs to shout--but rather that his heart cries out--perhaps with an
outstretched hand during his tefillah, or with a look heavenward, with a
tear, with a sense of urgency and pleading--at least in one of the brachos
such as Tekah Beshofar, VeLirushalayim or Ess Tzemach.
If you really need something--you do more than say that you need it--you
do something about it! Your newfound sincere striving, your
special awakening, will not only help yourself-- it will help take the
Shechina out of tza’ar--as it returns to VeLirushalayim Irecha--Your
City--and it will help cure all those who are spiritually, emotionally
and physically ill, it will bring everyone to their proper place in
life...in short, you will be able to accomplish more than all the wealthiest
people and all of the heads of state joined together cannot accomplish.
Incredibly, all of this is free--just for our sincerity and devotion during
one of the most important points of our day--the Shemone Esrei.
Let’s begin to use this opportunity in a new and special way--pouring out
our hearts for the few brief moments of a bracha, pleading with feeling,
showing that we really want Geulah and really need it--so that just as it
was in Mitzrayim--VaTa’al Shavosam...VaYayedah Elokim--and
their cries went up and Hashem knew...so too will Hashem look down and
understand that our cries are true and sincere--so that once and for all we
can all come home--together with Hashem- -for good --and forever!
Special
Note Three: We continue an exciting Monday/Thursday series on the
practical aspects of Sta”m, written by Rabbi Reuvain Mendlowitz, Shlita,
author of Inside Sta”m--An Insider Reveals The Answers To All
The Questions You Should Ask When Purchasing Or Maintaining Tefillin,
Mezuzos, Megillos, Sifrei Torah And Nevi’im.
For a fuller treatment of
all topics to be discussed, we urge you to purchase the Sefer, which
provides practical and meaningful information and ideas.
PART XXXIX
Writing the first three parashiyos
of tefillin can be done in a way that allows one to be yotzei the opinion of both the Rambam and the Rosh.
However, at the beginning of Parashas
Vehayah Im Shamoa it is impossible to create a setumah
which is kosher according to both the Rambam and the Rosh.
The Shulchan Aruch
therefore rules that the shiur parashah of Parashas Vehayah
Im Shamoa
be written in accordance with the opinion of the Rambam since his position
on this subject is considered primary by all later poskim.
However the Ta”z (acronym
for Turei
Zahav –
R’ David Halevy, 1586–1667) argued that even in our situation, it is
possible to create a parashah
setumah
which would satisfy both the Rambam and the Rosh.
Specifically, (without providing the
background details), if the sofer would leave less than nine letters’ worth
of space at the end of Parashas
Shema
and less than nine letters’ worth of space at the beginning of Vehayah Im Shamoa
– with the total of the two blank spaces equaling more than
nine letters’ worth of space – then, the Taz says, a parashah setumah
has been created according to all opinions.
Although a number of poskim
felt that the entire “compromise” of the Ta”z is unfounded, the overwhelming majority of poskim
accepted the approach of the Ta”z as a final ruling on the subject.
Indeed, the prevailing custom in almost all
Ashkenazi communities down to today has been to follow the Ta”z.
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2 Iyar
FROM A READER:
“Question: Where in this week’s Parasha can I find a Pasuk that
has the same two letter word mentioned six times?!
Answer: Parashas Emor, Perek 21, Pasuk 20.”
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WHAT IS BEING TALKED ABOUT?
In the Divrei Siach, Rabbi Yitzchak Goldshtoff, Shlita, writes that of the
many hundreds who visited with HaRav Chaim Kanievsky, Shlita, over Pesach,
much of what HaRav Kanievsky related to his visitors concerned Biyas HaMoshiach which is Holeich
U’Miskareiv, with HaRav Chaim also providing chizuk in Yishuv Eretz
Yisrael, even telling visitors from Chutz La’aretz--”Tisha’aru Kan Moshiach Miskareiv”. HaRav Kanievsky also spoke
much about learning about the Halachos of Shevi’is for the upcoming
Shemitah year and told people who asked what they should strengthen
themselves in--to learn Mesechta Shevi’is!
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A FUNNY SIGN? NOT FOR US!
A popular sign (and bumper sticker) reads:
“Work Harder--Millions Of People Are Counting On You!” Although meant to
poke fun at social democratic governments--there truly is a great lesson in
these words for us. We know that the world exists on Torah, and that
at any given moment there are only a very small and limited number of people
(much less than 1% of the world’s population) actually studying. The
more one studies--the more he assists in keeping not the millions--but the billions
of people in the world going. Work harder--you are a billionaire!
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HAKARAS HATOV APPLIED:
The Sefer Otzros HaTorah provides two
fascinating examples of HaKaras HaTov, which we can all apply in our
everyday lives:
1. The Steipeler Gaon,
Z’tl, teaches that returning a Sefer to its place demonstrates HaKaras
HaTov to the Sefer--and to its mechaber, its author--for by returning
the Sefer, one demonstrates his respect for it, and the hope that others
will use it as well. Indeed, every time another person studies the Sefer,
the mechaber accrues merit, and even if the mechaber is no
longer living, Chazal teach: “sifsosav dovevos bakever--his
lips move in the next world as his words are being studied”! Oh how
far-reaching one’s Hakaras Hatov can be!
2. HaRav Elya Lopian,
Z’tl, would fold his Tallis daily over a certain bench in the Bais Midrash.
Once, a drink spilled on the bench. HaRav Elya hurried to find
something to clean the bench with, although his students insisted that they
do so. HaRav Elya replied that he must do it because he owed HaKaras
HaTov to the bench for being able to fold his Tallis over it day after day!
Hakhel Note: We are
all familiar with Moshe Rabbeinu demonstrating his HaKaras HaTov to the
earth and the waters by not hitting them at the outset of a makka.
We learn from the Steipeler and HaRav Elya that HaKaras HaTov even to
inanimate objects [and all the more so to others, and certainly to family
members and close friends]--must not be limited to Moshe Rabbeinu--but
should apply to each and every one of us in our daily lives!
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BRACHA ACHRONA IMPROVEMENT:
In the past we have provided several different
momentary thoughts one could have before reciting a Bracha Rishona. We
have likewise provided the words of the Mishna Berurah who writes that some
say: “HaReini Rotzeh Le’echol V’Lishtos Kedei She’eheyeh
Bari V’Chazak L’Avodas HaBorei--I would like to eat and drink so
that I will be healthy and strong for Avodas Hashem” (Shulchan Aruch,
Orach Chaim 231, Mishna Berurah, seif katan 5). We now ask what words should
one think or say --before reciting a Bracha Achrona--in order to
better focus and render his bracha a more potent and meaningful one.
We look forward to hear of your practices, and your thoughts and
suggestions!
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Special Note One: We
continue with our Erev Shabbos, Halachos of Shabbos Series:
A. We provide certain
Halachos relating to the melacha of Tzad, as excerpted from the monumental
Sefer “The 39 Melachos” by
Rabbi Dovid Ribiat, Shlita (Feldheim Publishers):
1. Tzad may be defined as the forcible confinement of a living
creature. This includes any method of confining--conventional or
otherwise. Thus, chasing or merely frightening a living creature into
a corner or confined area without actually coming near the creature is
Tzad.
2. Animals that can pose a threat of real pain or injury,
such as raccoons, rats and the like may be trapped on Shabbos if necessary.
This is especially true where the spread of rabies or other diseases by
animals is prevalent. If a raccoon or similar animal is only in the
vicinity, one should not trap or kill it(unless it is known that the raccoon
is rabid)--instead, a non-Jew should call the authorities. If a raccoon or
squirrel got into the house, the door to that room(if not very small or
narrow) may be closed to seal it off. However, a non-Jew should preferably
be asked to do so. A dog or other animal that has attacked
and bitten a person may be captured if it is necessary to examine the animal
for rabies or disease.
3. One cannot force a bird that is not completely domesticated into
its cage or even simply close the cage door to prevent it from escaping. If
a small wild bird flew into the house, one should open windows and doors,
encouraging it to escape. If one is not successful in chasing the bird
out and leaving the doors and windows open will cause the home to become
uncomfortable, one may close the doors and windows, as it is a Rabbinic
level of confinement which is permitted when one has no interest in trapping
the bird and leaving the doors and windows open would impose a hardship.
4. One is not permitted to set any kind of trap on Shabbos (with the
exception of dangerous situations), even though the animal only
becomes caught later on its own.
However, it is permissible
to set a trap before Shabbos even though the animal may become trapped on
Shabbos, just as one turns on lights before Shabbos--and then leaves them on
for Shabbos.
5. According to most Poskim, the Melacha of Tzad does not apply to
capturing and confining of humans. Thus, one may take hold of an
unruly child or place him into a ‘time-out’ room (...without getting
into the Chinuch aspects of it!)
B.
In the Parasha this week, we note that Shabbos is
placed first--ahead of a description of all of the Moadim. We should
be inspired this Shabbos to realize that although Shabbos comes every
week--it is a truly a primary Mo’ed--an
especially designated time to come closer to our Creator and raise ourselves
up spiritually. Perhaps in honor of the primacy of Shabbos--one can
start this week with extra Zemiros, an extra D’var Torah, an extra act
LeKavod Shabbos Kodesh!
Special
Note Two: Points and pointers on
this week’s Parasha:
A.
In the Parasha (23:22), we find that a seemingly unrelated Pasuk of
giving to the poor is suddenly placed among the Pesukim describing our
Moadim, “U’vekutzrechem Es
K’tzir Artzechem…when you reap the harvest of your land, you shall
not remove completely the corners of your field as you reap and you shall
not gather the gleanings of your harvest, for the poor and the ger
shall you leave them, I am Hashem…” (Vayikra 23:22). Chazal cited
by Rashi (ibid.) teach that this Pasuk, juxtaposed among the Pesukim
describing the Moadim, teaches us that anyone who gives charity properly is
considered as if the Bais HaMikdash was built in his time, and he offered
Karbanos there--as so much of the Moadim relate to the Bais HaMikdash, our
coming there and offering of sacrifices.
When we give tzedakah properly--it can be viewed as a step into the
Bais HaMikdash!
B. The Torah teaches
“Venikdashti Besoch Bnei Yisrael”
(Vayikra
22:32
). HaRav Chaim Kanievksy, Shlita was asked
whether one makes a bracha before he is about to be put to death Ahl
Kiddush Hashem. HaRav Kanievsky responded that the Mitzvah of
Kiddush Hashem is “Mah SheHa’adam
Muchan U’Moser Atzmo LaiHareig Al Kedushas Shemo Yisbarach--one
fulfills the Mitzvah if he is prepared to give his life to sanctify
Hashem’s name, even if in the end he is not killed.” He continues
that those who were killed by the Nazis y’s
or the Arabs y’s, have the zechus of Kedoshim, but would not make a Bracha
prior to their being murdered because they were killed against their will.
HaRav Kanievsky adds that it is reported that the mechaber of the Sefer D’var
Avrohom recited a bracha before he was killed by the Nazis, but that he
is surprised by that report. Hakhel Note: See the introduction to the
Sefer Kovetz Shiurim of HaRav Elchanan Wasserman Z’tl, H’YD,
relating to HaRav Elchanan’s preparations for petira Ahl Kiddush Hashem.
Hakhel Note: In all events, we note that we recite daily in Shacharis--
Kadesh Es Shimcha Ahl Makdishei Shemecha...Baruch Atta...Mekadesh Es
Shimcha Barabim! Let us give these awesome words the Kavannah they
deserve daily!
C. In the Parasha we also
find the distinctive Mitzvah of “Vekidashto”…and
you shall sanctify the Kohen by treating him with a higher level of dignity
and respect (Vayikra 21:8). We provide our readers with our
yearly review of this sometimes forgotten Mitzvah which needs our chizuk.
The Sefer HaChinuch (Mitzvah 269) writes that this Mitzvah D’Oraysa
applies at all times (not only when the Beis HaMikdash is standing), and
furthermore that the Mitzvah applies equally to both men and women.
The Aruch HaShulchan (Orach Chayim 128:72) writes that there are opinions to
be lenient in the Mitzvas Aseh of VeKidashto
today because our Kohanim may not have clear “Yichussei
Kehuna” (evidence of lineage), but rejects this opinion with the
strong words “VeCholila Lomar Kain
U’Lehatil Dofi BeKedushas Kohanim--Heaven Forbid to say this and to
cast aspersions on the holiness of our Kohanim!” Accordingly, we
provide below some important points relating to this Mitzvah, which apply in
our everyday life:
1. The Rema (Shulchan Aruch, Orach
Chaim 228) writes that it is “Assur
LeHishtamesh BeKohen”--it is forbidden to use a Kohen to perform tasks
and services on one’s behalf, even in our days, and if one does so it is
like being “Moel beHekdesh”--it
is as if one is violating something that is holy.
2. The Poskim discuss whether the
Mitzvah upon us of VeKidashto
applies to Kohanim who are ba’alei
moom (possess blemishes which would render them unfit to serve in the
Bais HaMikdash), or to Kohanim who are still under the age of Bar Mitzvah,
since both of whom could, in fact, eat Kodshim (i.e., the Karbonos in the
Beis HaMikdash), even though they cannot actually serve. The Piskei
Teshuvos (I:128:94) writes that, because it is a Machlokes among the
Poskim and it is a Sofek D’Oraysa,
we should be machmir, and treat
both a Kohen who is physically disqualified from serving because of a moom, and a Kohen under Bar Mitzvah, with the dignity and
respect of VeKidashto, where it is
possible.
3. Examples of VeKidashto
in specific positive areas include having the Kohen go first--not only in
Aliyos to the Torah, but also in making Kiddush for everyone, making the
HaMotzi for everyone, leading the Bentsching, being Motzi the Rabim with a
Mitzvah, speaking first at any gathering, being the Shaliach Tzibbur and in
taking first portions at a seudah. See Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim
167:14 and the Mishna Berurah and commentaries there for further detail if a
Talmid Chacham is present. One should consult with his Rav or Posek if
in doubt as to any particular circumstances.
4. The Poskim discuss whether a Kohen
has the right to waive VeKidashto as to himself. The Mishna Berurah (Shulchan Aruch,
Orach Chaim 128, seif katan 175) rules that a Kohen does have the right to
waive your VeKidashto of him and
perform tasks or services for you, but LeChatchila
only if he benefits from it by payment or in some other way. In no
event, however, writes the Mishna Berurah (ibid.) may one have a Kohen
perform “sheirus bezuyos--embarrassing
or demeaning tasks on one’s behalf”.
5. May one Kohen perform tasks for
another Kohen? The Bi’ur Halacha d’h’Assur writes that “Efsher SheMuttar--perhaps it is permissible”, and the Aruch
HaShulchan writes that it is “Tzarich
Iyun LeDina”--unclear, requiring further investigation.
Interestingly, however, family members who are not Kohanim, and spouses of
Kohanim (!), would still have the Mitzvah of VeKidashto apply to them.
6. The Sefer Chofetz
Chaim (Aseh 9) writes that if one speaks Lashon Hara against a Kohen who
is in front of him, thereby offending him, he has violated the Mitzvas Aseh
of VeKidashto.
7. If a Kohen is married to someone
that is forbidden to him according to Halacha, or is metamei
lemeisim, defiles himself with tumah,
the mitzvah of VeKidashto does not
apply to him. However, if the Kohen is a ba’al
aveira in other areas, there is a Machlokes HaPoskim as to whether the
heightened respect for his status as a Kohen would still apply. See Piskei
Teshuvos 1:128:97.
8. The Chinuch writes that the reason
for this special Mitzvah is to give honor to Hashem Who chose the Kohanim to
serve Him in very special ways…”for
when one honors the King’s officers, he honors the King.”
Accordingly, the Chinuch continues, whenever we honor the Kohanim, we should
have in mind that we are honoring Hashem. In this zechus, the Chinuch
concludes, Hashem will bring His brachos and goodness upon us, as He so much
wants to do!
9. Pesakim of HaRav Chaim Kanievsky, Shlita, relating to VeKidashto:
A.
HaRav Kanievsky rules that if two students ask a question at the same time
and one is a Kohein, the Kohein should be answered first.
B.
HaRav Kanievsky rules that a Kohen also takes precedence in terms of
receiving Tzedaka and loans (see Sefer Derech Emunah Hilchos Matanos
Aniyim 8: seif katan 108).
C.
Upon receiving Shailos by mail, HaRav Kanievsky has them sorted by category
of Kohen, Levi and Yisrael and answers them in that priority. Apparently,
HaRav Kanievsky even requests those who prepare the response envelopes to
prepare the responses to the Kohanim first. Once, upon receiving a letter
from a ‘Kahn’, noted that this was a safeik Kohen and because it was a
matter of safeik l’chumrah, gave the letter the priority of a Kohen. (Divrei Siach on this week’s Parasha)
D.
HaRav Kanievsky rules that if there are two deceased people (a Kohen and a
Yisrael) to bury, the Kohen would come first, because he will return to his
Avodah in the Bais HaMikdash upon Techiyas HaMeisim. If for some
reason he would not return in Techiyas HaMeisim (for one of the reasons that
one does not return, such as lending money on Ribbis), then there would be
no Halacha of Vekidashto for him
after his demise.
E.
A Kohen asked HaRav Kanievsky what to do--as his wife did not want him to as
yet grow a beard. HaRav Kanievsky responded to the husband that he should
tell his wife that the Moshiach is coming soon and that a Kohen without a
beard is pasul to do the Avodah in the Bais HaMikdash (according to the
Ramban), and this will lead to busha
gedolah--to great embarrassment! In fact, when a Kohen came in to HaRav
Chaim and asked him what profession to learn--HaRav Chaim advised him to
learn Torah so that he would know how to do the Avodah in the Beis HaMikdash!
10. Two Related Notes:
A.
The Mishna Berurah (Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim 201, seif katan 13)
specifically writes that one should give preference to a Levi
over a Yisrael of equal stature in respect of Bircas HaMotzi, Bentsching
and Tzedaka.
B.
An important point relating to Bircas Hakohanim--the Bi’ur Halacha (at the outset of Orach Chaim 128) brings the ruling
of the Sefer Chareidim, when a Yisrael stands in front of the Kohanim with
the Kavannah of receiving their bracha as Hashem commanded, the Yisrael
himself has a part in the Mitzvas Aseh of Bircas Kohanim!
Special Note
Three: As we are in the midst of the Sefirah period in which we are
careful to practice important Minhagim relating to the period, we remember
that the students of Rebbi Akiva were Niftar during this period for not
according the proper respect to each other. Accordingly, in order to
work on improvement in this area in this especially propitious period, we
provide the second part below of notes as excerpted from the outstanding and
highly recommended resource Guide To Derech Eretz by
Rabbi Shaul Wagschal, Shlita (Targum/Feldheim). Even if one knows many
or most of the points below, and even feels that he is ‘pretty good’
with them, it is essential that we not only know them or study them--but
conscientiously work on them as well:
PART II
11. Benefits of speaking gently:
A) Most individuals value the privilege of making choices and
thereby determine their course of action. For this reason, it is inherently
difficult for people to follow orders. A person who gives orders to others
must remember this fact and act accordingly. By speaking gently and
treating others with respect, one can rest assured that his directions will
be more closely cared for.
B) The need to speak to people in a kind and gentle manner is
absolutely essential when instructing an individual on how to perform a task
with which he is unfamiliar. When confronted with a new experience,
most people adopt a defensive attitude in a feeble attempt to hide their
ignorance. If the instructor’s tone of voice or manner of behavior
makes the individual feel threatened, the lesson has in effect come to a
close--the capacity to internalize information is seriously impaired by the
individual’s need to protect his self-image.
C) It is self-evident that an employee who is satisfied with his
working conditions is more productive than one who is dissatisfied. The
employer-worker relationship is one of the essential components of a
positive working environment. In light of these facts, an employer should
recognize the benefits of treating his employees with respect!
12. One must avoid causing embarrassment to others at all
times, even when learning Torah. The Midrash asks, “Why was his name
‘Doeg HaAdomi’? Because he reddened Dovid Hamelech’s face
during the study of Halacha” (Midrash Tehillim 52:4). For
this reason, the Talmud warns against asking a rabbi a question if there is
reason to suspect he will not know how to answer. Similarly, the
Talmud (Shabbos 3b) says, “When Rebbi is studying this tractate, do
not ask him a question regarding a different tractate.” The posuk says,
“...one who makes his way will see the salvation of Hashem.” (Tehillim
50:23), that is, one who plans his ways, and knows when to ask and when not
to ask his questions will prosper (Moed Katan 5b). The Talmud (Tosefta
Sanhedrin, ch. 7) also warns against asking a Sage a question
immediately upon his entering the beis midrash; one must allow
him time to settle his thoughts.’
13. Chazal (Niddah 16b) bring the following teaching:
“I hate three [types of] individuals, and one of them is a person who
enters his friend’s house unexpectedly”. R. Yochanan’s opinion is that
this law even applies to a person who enters his own house
unexpectedly.
14. “A man should not instill a feeling of excessive fear
in his home” (Gittin 7a). The Talmud explains that instilling
fear in one’s home may eventually result in the transgression of a Torah
precept (see ch. 12). For this reason, a father should never frighten
a child by saying, “I will punish you by doing so and so to you.”
15. Concerning the mishnah, “Ayin ra’ah ...removes a
person from the world” (Avos 2:1b), Rabbeinu Yonah writes “There
exists [the trait of] ayin ra and [the trait of] ayin ra’ah.
Ayin ra’ah refers to a miserly person, while ayin ra refers to
one who envies other people’s possessions. His wish to own others’
possessions may harm them, for the vision of the eye is capable of causing
damage. Beyond this, he also hurts himself-- his unfulfilled wishes
cause him to burn with envy.” Avos D’Rebbi Nasan (ch. 16) expands
on this theme: As a man looks at his own house and wishes that it remain
standing, so too should he look at his friend’s house!
16. The Talmud dictates, “One who enters [another’s]
house must follow his host’s instructions” (Pesachim 86b).
The Shulchan Aruch (Orach Chaim 170:5) also decrees that a guest must
follow the host’s instructions without any objections. For example,
one must sit wherever the host decides. One must not object even if
the host wishes to honor him. Most halachic authorities agree,
however, that a guest who feels satiated is entitled to refuse to eat
additional food even if the host insists, if this will endanger his health.
One may infer from this rule that if additional eating does not pose a
danger to the guest’s health, it would be correct to comply with the
host’s wish.
17. Rules Concerning Eating in a Host’s Home:
A. Upon entering the host’s home, the guest should not
request food or drink; instead, he should wait until the host offers him
food (Shulchan Aruch, Orach Chaim 170:13).
B. The most distinguished guest should be invited to wash his
hands first (Brachos 46, Orach Chaim 165:2).
C. The guest should wait until the host serves himself the
first portion of food before reaching for food.
4) If two guests sit at the same table and the host is not present,
the more distinguished of the two should serve himself first. A person
who reaches for food before a person greater than himself is considered a
glutton. (Orach Chaim 170: 12, Mishnah Berurah 28)
18. The Talmud (Kiddushin 40b) says that a person who
eats in the street, i.e., in a place where people would not normally eat,
resembles a dog-- an animal which lacks the quality of humility more than
other animals. So, too, a person who eats in public demonstrates his
lack of humility. The Talmud rules that a person who eats in public is
disqualified from giving testimony. Since he lacks the trait of
self-effacement, he will not hesitate to give false testimony and thereby
risk public ridicule.
19. Entering and Exiting:
A. When two people enter a beis kenesses or beis
midrash together, the person of greater importance should go in first.
When leaving the beis kenesses, however, the person of least
importance may leave first, since there is no mitzvah to leave a beis
kenesses. The Birkei Yosef quotes the opinion of the gaonim who
contend that the person of greater importance should also exit first when
leaving a beis kenesses.
B. When entering a house, the baal habais should enter
first. When leaving the house, the guest should exit first (Masseches
Derech Eretz, ch. 4). When leaving a house owned by someone else,
the person of greater importance should leave first.
20.
Additional Rules of Derech Eretz:
A. Rabbeinu Asher writes in Orchos Chaim, “A
person should avoid involving himself in another’s dispute.
Eventually, they will reach accommodation and you will still be involved in
the argument.” Furthermore, by becoming involved one will invariably make
enemies.
B. When a person shares his misfortune with others, he should
first say, “It should never happen to you” . (Sanhedrin 104b,Based
on Eichah 1:12).
C. One should not praise a person excessively, since this may
be misinterpreted as empty flattery (Rashi, Eruvin 18b and Rashi, Bereishis
7:1).
D. A person who is received with undue honor is obligated to
inform those honoring him of their mistake. (Makkos 12b)
E. The Talmud (Sanhedrin 38b) rules that it is
prohibited to respond to a Jewish apostate under any circumstances.
Similarly, one should not answer a fool unless he asks a Torah-related
question.
F. One should not enter someone’s house while the person is
eating, since people find it embarrassing to eat in the presence of others. (Tov
Yehoshua 3:2)
G. A wealthy person should not be miserly. This is inferred
from the verse, “Purchase food from them with silver...for Hashem your God
has blessed you with your handiwork” (Devarim 2:6). Rashi explains that in
order to acknowledge Hashem’s blessing, this verse instructs the Jewish
people to behave as wealthy people and not as poor people.
H. A man of average
wealth should eat food of lesser quality than he is capable of purchasing,
clothe himself with garments in accordance with his financial status, and
honor his wife and children beyond his financial capability (Chulin 94b).
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1
Iyar
SIX MITZVOS IN TWO PESUKIM!
At the outset of the Sefer Chofetz Chaim,
the Chofetz Chaim lists 31 possible Mitzvos that one could violate in the
Lashon Hara process. In last week’s Parasha of Kedoshim, a full
six of these 31Mitzvos are actually found in two consecutive Pesukim--and
all-told, ten of the 31 are found within five Pesukim! Can you identify
them?
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LOOKING UP! As we begin the ninth month of the year
5774--we should realize that we still have more than 30% of the year
ahead of us for reaching new heights in our kabbalos and in our personal
growth. It’s a great day for cheshbon hanefesh--after all,
the glass is still close to one-third full!
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QUESTION
ONE
OF THE
DAY
: Very few dates are mentioned in the
Torah--but today is one of them! Where is today’s date mentioned in
the Torah? Why is the date specifically mentioned in that Parasha and
context?
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QUESTION TWO OF THE
DAY
:
Having just recited the Musaf Tefillos of the Shalosh Regalim for 7 (EY) or
8 (Chutz LaAretz) days, we recall how we PLEADED TIME
AND
TIME AGAIN with Hashem for HIS
RACHMANUS--His Mercy in finally and at long last rebuilding the Bais
HaMikdash--as we recited: “Melech Rachaman...U’Serachem Aleinu
V’Ahl Mikdashecha BeRachamecha
HaRabim...and then reiterated a short while later Melech Rachaman Rachem
Aleinu...Bahamon Rachamecha....
Yet, in today’s Musaf for Rosh Chodesh, we make no heart rending
appeal for mercy or even any request at all of Rachmanus--instead only
asking in a straightforward manner that the Mizbe’ach be rebuilt and that
we be brought back to Yerushalayim where we can all rejoice together in the
Bais Hamikdash. Why is there such a difference between these two
Tefillos of Musaf--what is the difference between the Shalosh Regalim and
Rosh Chodesh in this regard?
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Special Note One: In
fact, Rosh Chodesh Iyar is very much related to the Binyan Bais Hamikdash.
The Luach Dovor B’Ito brings that Shlomo HaMelech began the
building of the First Bais HaMikdash today, and that construction of
the foundation of the Second Bais HaMikdash also began today as well
(See Ezra 3:8-13). Let us now daven that today also prove to serve a
role in the building of the Third and Lasting Bais HaMikdash.
Even if we see nothing immediately around us or in front of us, and even if
we hear no shofar blast at this moment, let our acts of Teshuva today
serve as a cornerstone for its Building. Why leave the building to
someone else when each and every one of us is so eminently capable?!
Let’s also begin building Today--it’s for Eternity!
Special Note Two: One
of the actions that we will take in the Bais HaMikdash that we are not very
used to doing now is Hishtachava’ah--prostrating oneself to the
ground. Undoubtedly, this Hishtachava’ah will come in direct
response to the intense Kedushah and Ruchniyus experienced upon entering and
viewing the Kohanim and the Avodah. Yet, in the Tefillah of Nishmas we
do recite in the here and now--VeChol Koma Lefonecha Sishtachaveh--and
every person standing up shall prostrate himself before You. How
can/do we fulfill this statement? The Chassidic masters teach the
following: Even when one is ostensibly standing straight, he should feel
inwardly as if he is bowed before Hashem--in recognition of
Hashem’s greatness and mastery and one’s own humility--something that
every person should recognize and appreciate--even without a Bais HaMikdash.
We may add that even when reciting the words VaAnachnu Koriim
U’Mishtachavim in Aleinu three times daily, we should experience the
moment--envisioning ourselves in an aura of submission and sanctity--so that
we properly reflect the words that we are expressing. In this
merit--may we live to experience the ultimate Hishtachava’ah
speedily and in our days!
Special Note Three:
The Sefer Ta’amei HaMinhagim (page 251) writes that our new month
of Iyar is tried and tested as a time for refuah, healing, from the ailments
and pains that may affect a person. Why is this so? The B’nai
Yissaschar, who teaches that most weakness and illness come from foods which
do not comport with the person’s nature or composition. The Rambam (Hilchos
De’os
4:15
) writes likewise. See also Kitzur
Shulchan Aruch Chapter 32.
Since the Mon began to fall
in this month (on the 16th day of Iyar 2448)--and it was a
perfect food from which resulted no sickness, pain or even waste matter (as
Dovid HaMelech refers to it in Sefer Tehillim--”lechem abirim”) and even
cured those who were ill--Hashem left the curative nature of the month in
effect even through today. Accordingly, Iyar is a time of “segulah
l’refuah”. In fact, the Ta’amei HaMinhagim notes, the name
“Iyar” is an acronym for Ani Hashem Rofecha--I am Hashem, Your Healer.
What can we do to help
promote the curative effects of this special time as initiated by the
heavenly Mon? Let us reflect upon the following. The Baalei
Mussar note that one afflicted with Tzora’as does not ask others directly
to pray for him--rather, “VeTameh Tameh Yikra”--he only exclaims that he
is “Tameh”, and those who hear him are expected to pray sincerely for
him even without his direct request--and notwithstanding that he has sinned
to such a great extent that Hashem has actually made him a Metzora.
What a great lesson we can learn at this time of year--which is so special
for healing, and, moreover, the Omer period, in which our “Bein Odom
L’Chavero” is to be seriously improved upon. We should not wait to
be asked, or merely be responsive to the request of others, when we hear
that someone is not well. Instead, we should “hear the cry” and go
out of our way during this auspicious time to daven for those we may not
even know, but whom we have heard are in need of a Refuah. An ounce of
Tefillah may mean a kilogram of cure.
PRACTICAL SUGGESTION: During this special month, recite a daily
special, sincere Kepitel (chapter) of Tehillim for your list of cholim--recognizing
that this is a special time for the potency--and importance--of your
heartfelt Tefillah!
Hakhel Note: A reader wrote
the following to us:
“Rabbi Nachman of Breslov
writes that the word IYAR is Roshei Taivos of the words ”Oyvai Yoshuvu
Yaivoshu Roga,” thus indicating that the month of IYAR is conducive
to see a Mapala for the enemies
of K’lal Yisroel!” When reciting Tachanun
during this month we should have especial Kavannah when reciting these
words--that they come to immediate reality!
Special
Note Four: We continue an exciting Monday/Thursday series on the
practical aspects of Sta”m, written by Rabbi Reuvain Mendlowitz, Shlita,
author of Inside Sta”m--An Insider Reveals The Answers To All
The Questions You Should Ask When Purchasing Or Maintaining Tefillin,
Mezuzos, Megillos, Sifrei Torah And Nevi’im.
For a fuller treatment of
all topics to be discussed, we urge you to purchase the Sefer, which
provides practical and meaningful information and ideas.
PART XXXVIII
One of the most complicated concepts in
all of Hilchos Sta”m is the idea of the Shiur Parashah in Tefillin
and Mezuzos. It is impossible to explain all of the detail in this forum. We
will attempt therefore to merely introduce the general ideas involved to
allow a basic familiarity with the concept on a practical level.
You may have noticed in a printed chumash
that there is an occasional “פ” or “ס”
between pesukim. These letters tell us that in an actual Sefer
Torah, we will find a new “parashah”
(section) beginning at this spot.
The method used for separating parashiyos
in the Sefer Torah itself is to leave a blank space between the two parashiyos.
The gap between parashiyos
represents the respite Moshe Rabbeinu was given by Hashem to absorb
what he had been taught before they continued.
There are two types of parashiyos:
pesuchos and setumos (literally, open ones and closed ones).
A parashah pesuchah is
represented in a printed chumash as a “פ,” while a setumah is represented by a “ס.”
The parashah pesuchah (“open”
parashah)
is graphically disconnected from the previous parashah and represents a fresh theme. In contrast,
the parashah setumah (“closed” parashah)
is both adjacent to and thematically related to the previous parashah.
The separation between parashiyos
is created by a blank space equivalent to the size of nine letters of that
same STA”M
item. L’chatchilah,
the blank space should be large enough space to accommodate nine large
letters (such as an aleph,
shin or reish) B’dieved, even a space equivalent to nine small letters (such as a vav
or yud)
is sufficient to separate two parashiyos. This blank space is called the shiur
parashah. If less space is left blank in an area which requires a shiur
parashah, the shiur
parashah
is pasul,
and the entire STA”M
item is not kosher. Note that nine letters’ worth of blank space is the
minimum. If a sofer
left
even more space blank for a shiur
parashah,
there is no problem whatsoever.
There is a machlokes
(dispute) between the Rambam and the Rosh regarding exactly how a pesuchah and
setumah
are arranged when writing STA”M. In practice, most are noheg like the Ta”z
whose compromise between the Rambam and the Rosh is almost universally used.
A very small minority are noheg like the Rambam.
In our next installment we will B’EH briefly
explain the mechanics of the ruling of the Ta”z.
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